95 % OF PEOPLE CALL PITY PARTIES

95%FEEL IN SOME WAY • INADEQUATE• ISOLATED, REJECTED • UNLOVED• HELPLESS, CANNOT MEASURE UP• UNABLE TO RELATE MEANINGFULLY

WITH OTHERS• INFERIOR

THE EFFECTS OF SIN AND GRACE

SIN = WE COMPETEGRACE = WE COMPLEMENTSIN = WE ARE EQUALGRACE = WE ARE DIFFERENTSIN = YOU ARE A THREATGRACE = YOU ARE NEEDED

COMPLEXES – INFERIOR AND SUPERIOR

INFERIOR - I AM LESS THAN ……SUPERIOR - I AM MORE THAN …..

BOTH LIVE IN UNREALITYBOTH ARE AFRAIDBOTH NEED TO START BEING HONEST AND REAL

INFERIORITYSTARTS WITH REJECTION, ISOLATIONWE ALL DESIRE TO BE ACCEPTED, LOVED, TO BE THOUGHT WELL OF, APPRECIATED, TO BE NEEDEDFAILURE LEADS US TO BELIEVE NO BODY LOVES USFEELING REJECTED WE REJECT OURSELVES

REJECTION AND ISOLATIONTHOSE WHO REJECT THEMSELVES RESIST OTHER’S ATTEMPTS TO ACCEPT THEMI MUST START BEING HONEST WITH MYSELF, ABOUT MYSELF1. SELF-ACCEPTANCE IS THE FIRST STEP

TO INTEGRATION AND COMMUNITY2. SEPARATING MY PERSON FROM MY

PERFORMANCE IS ESSENTIAL

SELF-ACEPTANCE1 JOHN 1:5-2:2WALK IN THE LIGHT = BE REALAGREE WITH GOD THAT I HAVE A SIN PROBLEMROMANS 7:25-8:1LIVE WITH THE FACT THAT I CAN NEVER ON MY OWN MEASURE UPGOD EXPECTS NOTHING BUT FAILURE

SELF-ACCEPTANCE

GENESIS 2:18WE WERE NOT DESIGNED TO BE PERFECT ON MY OWNWE ARE INADEQUATE BY CREATIONIF I LIVE UNDER LAW [SELF-EFFORT] I AM AIMING AT THE IMPOSSIBLE

GOD’S SOLUTIONPHILIPPIANS 3:8-10 DISCOVER MYSELF “IN CHRIST”, PARTICIPATING IN A LIFESTYLE, NOT DRIVEN BY SELF-EFFORT, BUT FLOWING FROM CHRIST’S COMMITMENT TO MEGALATIANS 2:20 FREED FROM INDEPENDENT SELF-EFFORT, LIFE IS A PARTNERSHIPCHRIST AND ME IN IT TOGETHER

SEPARATING THE PERSON FROM THE PERFORMACE

WE FAIL ONE ANOTHEROTHERS CRITICISE ME, BLAME METHE QUESTION IS – ARE THEY CRITICISING ME [THE PERSON] OR WHAT I HAVE DONE?WHAT IS BEING REJECTED?ME OR MY PERFORMANCE?

EARNING OR ACCEPTING LOVE?AM I TRYING TO EARN LOVE?OR AM I SUBMITTING TO BEING LOVED?IT IS THE NATURE OF GOD TO LOVEIT IS THE NATURE OF HIS SPIRIT-INDWELT PEOPLE TO LOVEUNTIL I ACCEPT MYSELF AS INADEQUATE AND INCAPABLE OF MEASURING UP I CANNOT SUBMIT TO BEING LOVED.

A HEALTHY PERSONTHE ALTERNATIVE TO A COMPLEXSEE ONESELF ASNEEDED-NEEDYI AM SIMILTANEOUSLY VITALY IMPORTANT AND TOTALLY INADEQUATENOW I AM ABLE TO OBEY THE LORD’S #1 COMMAND - LOVE ONE ANOTHER