7 Habits of Statesville MiddlePrivate Victory to Public VictoryHabit 4: Think Win-Win

Kathy WalkerInstructional Facilitator, EIMSkwalker@iss.k12.nc.usTwitter: IFatEast

The End in Mind [Learning Targets]Understand Emotional Bank AccountSeek Mutual BenefitCreate Win-Win AgreementsBuild win-win Systems

Private Victoryto Public Victory79The Private Victory must precede the Public Victory. Your cant invert that process any more than you can harvest before you plant.-Stephen R. Covey

80The Maturity ContinuumPrivate Victory to Public Victory

82VideoPrivate Victory to Public VictoryThe Emotional Bank Account

82The Emotional Bank AccountPrivate Victory to Public VictoryDepositsSeek first to understand.Show kindness, courtesy, respect.Keep promises.Be loyal to the absent.Set clear expectations.Apologize.Give feedback (I messages).Forgive.

WithdrawalsAssume you understand.Show unkindness, discourtesy, disrespect.Break promises.Be disloyal, badmouth.Create unclear expectations.Be proud and arrogant.Give no feedback or evaluate character (you messages).Hold grudges.

84Private Victory to Public VictoryPrivate Victory to Public Victory

87VideoWin-Lose ConditioningHabit4Think Win-Win

Habit 4Think Win-Win87What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?-George Eliot

88Habit 4: Think Win-WinHabit4Think Win-Win

89Habit 4PrincipleParadigmBehaviorResultEffective, long-term relationships require mutual respect and mutual benefit.Habit4Think Win-Win

89Habit 4ParadigmsIneffective: There is only so much, and the more you get, the less there is for me.Effective: There is plenty out there for everyone, and more to spare.Habit4Think Win-Win

The Six Paradigms of Human InteractionHabit4Think Win-WinWin-WinWin-LoseLose-WinLose-LoseWinWin-Win or No Deal9091

92VideoWin-Win ThinkingHabit4Think Win-Win

93xQ Tells YouHabit4Think Win-Win33%We live by the principle that my success is your success.

When to Think Win-WinHabit4Think Win-Win93In situations of conflictIn long-term relationships In interdependent situations

The Courage-and-Consideration GridHabit4Think Win-Win94Win-LoseLose-LoseWin-WinLose-Win

Seek Mutual BenefitHabit4Think Win-Win95Liz: New title and promotion10 percent pay increaseImportant projectLiz & KateLiz wants responsibility; Kate wants infection rate reduced.Kate: Infection down 50 percentWithin 6 months Within guidelines

Win-Win AgreementsHabit4Think Win-Win96 Desired Results Guidelines Resources Accountability Consequences

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For win-win to work inside a team or an organization, the systems need to support it: training, planning, communication, budgeting, information, compensation.Win-Win SystemsHabit4Think Win-Win99

Teach to LearnHabit4Think Win-Win100101

ResourcesFranklin-Covey Signature Series Program

Mindset by Dr. Carol Dweck

Ineffective: There is only so much, and the more you get , the less there is for me. [scarcity mentality]Effective: There is plenty out there for everyone and more to spare. [abundance mentality]Behavior: Balance courage and consideration, seek mutual benefit, create win-win agreements, build win-win systemsResults: faster solutions to problems, generosity of spirit, rich relationships, more team involvement.

Win-Lose = the totem pole Im better, No, Im betterLose-Win = the doormat abusive relationships one-sidedLose-Lose = the downward spiral if Im going down, then youre going with me!Win-win = the all you can eat buffet; To seek mutual benefit: Win the private victory firstAvoid the tumor twins: competing and comparing