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5 WAYS TO CHANGE
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Introduction
Five Ways to Change
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Welcome Dear Friend To RECOVERY Through
CHANGE,
You will already have come to appreciate the truly
wonderful adventure upon which you are now
embarked: the adventure of SOBRIETY.
You have already begun that adventure!
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By participating in this RECOVERY Program, being
treated for your chemical dependency (or another
addictive disease or life—style disorder), you are actively
demonstrating to yourself and others — including your
family, friends, employers —that you are willing and able
to CHANGE.
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Being "willing and able" to CHANGE, does NOT mean
that you necessarily feel good about getting clean and
sober, or that your thinking, which is of course
controlled by your addiction,…
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…is telling you that SOBRIETY and RECOVERY are good
things. We understand that your thoughts and your
feelings are strongly opposed to you getting clean and
sober.
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But even though your feelings and your thinking are
strongly against yourself, it is still possible for you to get
clean and sober - despite yourself and your addiction –
by what you DO!
You CHANGE according to what you DO!
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So, if some small part of you is able to recognize that you
need to CHANGE, to get clean and sober and RECOVER
from your disease — your problem – of chemical
dependency, you might ask the question: "How am I
going to CHANGE while I’m here in this setting, in this
Chemical Dependency RECOVERY Program?"
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In brief reply to your important question, here in this
RECOVERY program and process, WE HELP EACH
OTHER TO CHANGE.
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In this "recovery community“ which we all have created
here - patients, family, friends, nurses, doctors,
therapists, volunteers, alumni, or other specialists – we
help each other to CHANGE, to get into RECOVERY.
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WE HELP EACH OTHER TO CHANGE. That statement
is not theory. Here in this program of treatment, change
and recovery, we help each other to change in very
specific and concrete ways.
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To begin with, we do not criticize one another. The last
thing we need when we lack self confidence and a sense
of wholeness is to be driven to doubt ourselves even
more.
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So we cheerfully create a positive, therapeutic,
"recovery community" where we each feel safe to grow
and to change, to practice NEW BEHAVIORS, new ways
to talking to other people, new ways of DOING, feeling,
and thinking.
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There are five important ways in which we help each
other to CHANGE here in this program of RECOVERY
from chemical dependency (or other addictive diseases
and life-style disorders):
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In this RISKY program of RECOVERY, people learn and
experience CHANGE by being listened to, touched,
validated, supported, and offered alternatives.
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So while participating in this RECOVERY program,
attending sessions, and interacting with others,
including other recovering persons, therapists, and
everyone in our community, you will see that we do a lot
of listening, touching, validating, supporting, and
offering of alternatives.
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1. LISTENING:Listening means actively listening. Many of us hear but
few of us listen. We listen to the other person here in
this program. We attend to the total person - to the tone,
inflections, and modulations of voice, to facial
expressions, to gestures-, to body posture, and to other
nuances of communication.
We practice listening here.
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2. TOUCHING:Virtually all of us are skin-starved. Touch—starved. We
have need of non-sexual, non-threatening, physical
contact with other men and women. So here in this
RECOVERY program, we practice a lost of simple
physical touching…
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2. TOUCHING: (con’t)…like hugs, back rubs, circling of hugs, and other
exercises that express friendship and affection, and
which also touch the spirit. Practice non-threatening
TOUCHING, as an important NEW BEHAVIOR of your
CHANGING.
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3. VALADATION:Validation (positive acceptance) by others helps
encourage self—validation (self-acceptance, or self
esteem. "The Velveteen Rabbit," a selection from
children’s literature with an important adult message for
addicts…
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3. VALADATION: (con’t)… illustrates beautifully the concept of being "real," of
being unconditionally accepted when you are just plain
you, without pretending anything, or without holding
back anything about your anger or fear or guilt or
confusion.
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3. VALADATION: (con’t)So in RECOVERY we practice validating ourselves and
others, by saying positive things to one another.
For example, "I respect you for . . ." or, "I admire you
because . . ." or, "I appreciate your quality of . . ." or, "I
like . . ." or, "I cherish . . ." or, "Thank you for . . ."
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3. VALADATION: (con’t)We practice those kinds of validations by writing lots of
fuzzies, and by actually saying those kinds of things
directly to one another.
Practice.
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4. SUPPORTING:We support one another here. We say to you and to each
other, "I won’t give up on you." We all know that you
have been afraid, that you have feared rejection, even
though you may have pretended you were unafraid and
that you didn’t care whether you were rejected or not.
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4. SUPPORTING: (con’t)But here in this program of RECOVERY we don’t have to
pretend. We do help each other. "I will support you –
unconditionally." "You can lean on me." "We will support
you. As a group, together we have the power." You have
tried it alone, and failed. But you will succeed here. We
practice SUPPORTING one another here.
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5. ALTERNATIVES:Being in this RECOVERY process, you have already
chosen the master ALTERNATIVE. You have chosen
sobriety over drunkenness. Freedom over the slavery of
addiction.
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5. ALTERNATIVES: (con’t)Self-respect over "pitiful and incomprehensible
demoralization." A manageable life over one of
unmanageability. You have chosen health over sickness.
Happiness and joy over misery and depression.
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Every day you have the opportunity to practice freely
choosing positive alternatives over negative ones in your
thinking and feelings and behavior. You can choose to
seek recovery by what you DO, by what you practice.
Participate.
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Practice learning to change by risking NEW
BEHAVIORS. Practice at the program sessions and
twelve-step meetings. Practice while talking to others
each day. Practice the qualities of Honesty, Open
mindedness, and Willingness -H.O.W., to the Best of
your ability.
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In this RECOVERY program you are encouraged to
practice choosing positive, healthy ALTERNATIVES in
you THINKING, FEELINGS, and most importantly, in
what you DO!
So dear friend, join us in this program of RISK,
CHANGE, and RECOVERY.
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Practice LISTENING, TOUCHING, VALIDATING,
SUPPORTING, and choosing positive, healthy
ALTERNATIVES.
If you DO these things you will RECOVER!
With love and respect to you,
The Fellowship of Recovery
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