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Strategies for Creating Success in College and in

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Chapter 5EMPLOYING INTERDEPENDENCE


EMPLOYING INTERDEPENDENCE

• Struggling students have a hard time building mutually supportive relationships. What are three mistakes that struggling students often make in their relationships?They remain dependent, codependent or

independent in relation to others.They listen poorly, demonstrating little desire to

understand another person’s perspective.They judge others who are different as

inappropriate, wrong or bad.


CASE STUDY IN CRITICAL THINKING: PROFESSOR ROGERS' TRIAL

Which character in the story is most responsible for the team's grade of D? Be prepared to explain your answer.DIVING DEEPER: Imagine that you have been assigned to a group project in one of your college courses and that the student whom you chose as most responsible for the group’s grade of D (Anthony, Sylvia, or Donald) is in your group. What positive actions could you take to help your group be a success despite this person?


EMPLOYING INTERDEPENDENCE

I can’t do this by myself.

I have to help others before I can help myself.

I can do this all by myself, I don’t need anyone's help.

I can do some of this alone, but I will accomplish more with the help of others.

Dependent

Codependent

Independent

Interdependent

• Identify the following as Dependent, Codependent, Independent or Interdependent statements.


THE PUZZLE

• Think about the role you played while working on the puzzle and answer the following questions.


THE PUZZLE

• Who took the leadership role?• Who was the puzzle facing?• Who followed directives from others?• Who stated “Get all the corner/edge pieces”?• Who stated “We don’t have all the pieces”?• Who worked on an area of the puzzle by

themselves?• Who thought this was a competition?


THE PUZZLE

Think about how you answered the questions on the previous slide. Those who took the leadership role, do you

believe you are a “born leader”?Those who followed directives, do you believe

you are a good team player?Those who wanted the “edges” put together

first, do you like things to be well-organized and get upset when others are unorganized?

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THE PUZZLE

Those whose thought pieces were missing, do you tend to be suspicious of others?

Those who worked on a specific part of the puzzle, do you prefer to work alone?

Those who thought it was a competition, do you see yourself as very competitive with others?

• What did you learn or relearn about the choices you make in a group project?

• What life experiences have influenced you to think or act this way?


CREATING A SUPPORT SYSTEM

• Strong individualistic cultures have an “I/me” orientation, and independence is highly regarded.

• Strong collectivistic cultures have a “we/us” orientation and interdependence is highly regarded.

• Examples: Olympics, selfies

If “1” is strong individualistic culture and “10” is a strong collectivistic culture, where do you see yourself on this continuum?


CREATING A SUPPORT SYSTEM

My household consists of my spouse and our children.

Getting along with others is extremely important to me.

I will be a veterinarian because I have always loved animals.

My religious beliefs are very different from the rest of my family.

I give my paycheck to my mother to help support the household.

Individualistic

Collectivistic

Individualistic

Individualistic

Identify the following statements as representing either an Individualistic or a Collectivistic culture.

Collectivistic


QUOTATION REFLECTION

• “For every one of us that succeeds, it’s because there’s somebody there to show you the way out. The light doesn’t always necessarily have to be in your family, for me it was teachers and school.” ~Oprah WinfreyHow could your instructors help you to be more

successful?

How could your school help you to be more successful?


GET HELP FROM COLLEGE RESOURCES

• Name a resource at your college that could help you with the following obstacles. Specifically how could this service help?Confused about future courses to takeAcademic problemsMoney problemsPersonal problems

Advising

Tutoring Lab

Financial Aid office

Counseling office


CRITICAL THINKING: FOCUS QUESTIONSSTRENGTHENING RELATIONSHIPS

WITH ACTIVE LISTENING

• Do you know how to strengthen a relationship with active listening?

• What are the essential skills of being a good listener?


LISTENING ACTIVELY

Listen to understand.Clear your mind and remain silent.Ask the person to expand or clarify.Reflect the other person's thoughts and feelings.

• Which of the following listening skills do you think is the most important? Why?

• Which listening skill do you think will be the most challenging for you? Why?


HOW TO LISTEN ACTIVELY

Don’t assume you understand. In your own words, restate what you heard, both the ideas and the emotions.

Don’t make assumptions or fill in the blanks with your own experiences. Invite the speaker to share additional information and feelings.

Don’t be distracted by your own inner chatter. Stay focused and stay quiet.

Focus on the speaker, activate empathy and listen with the intention of fully understanding what the other person thinks and feels.

Clear your mind & remain silent

Listen to understand

Reflect the other person’s

thoughts and feelings

Ask the person to expand or clarify

Match each terms with their correct description.


SHOWING RESPECT

• What are some keys to achieving success in a world of increasing diversity?

• How could you make a conscious effort to show respect to someone in a culture different from your own?Learn to pronounce names correctly.Use preferred term for a person’s cultural group.Learn non-verbal behaviors of the other culture.Avoid ethnocentrism (thinking my way is “right”).Advocate for respect.


INTERDEPENDENCE AT WORK

Imagine that you have just completed your degree and are ready to start your new career. You have looked in the newspapers and online for potential job opportunities. However, you have not been able to find a suitable job. By employing interdependence, what other choices could you make to find employment in your field?Conduct information gathering interviews.Ask people you know for referrals.Call the Public Information Office of prospective

employers .


CRITICAL THINKING: FOCUS QUESTIONBE ASSERTIVE

How can you communicate in a style that strengthens relationships, creates better results, and builds strong self-esteem?


According to psychologist Virginia Satir, what are the two most common patterns of ineffective communication?

INEFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION STYLES

Placating

Blaming

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INEFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

Placating Its okay if you don’t help with our

project in sociology. I’ll just do the work myself.

Please don’t be upset with me. I'll drive your friends to the airport and study for my math test later.

I'm sorry. I should have cleaned up the mess from our party last night. I’ll do it right now.


INEFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

Blaming You never do anything to help our

study team. You’re just lazy! This room is a mess! When do you

plan to start doing your share of work around here?

My sociology instructor gives unfair tests! He thinks he can ask questions about anything that we were supposed to read for homework.


BELIEVING IN YOURSELF: BE ASSERTIVE

• What is the communication style of Creators? Leveling.

• What are the 3 strategies that promote leveling? Communicate purposefully. Communicate honestly. Communicate responsibly.


EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

Leveling I know you've got a lot of work to

do tonight. Could we spend just ten minutes cleaning up this mess together?

Before I can help you with your paper, I need to finish studying for a test. How about if you help me review tonight, and I'll work with you on your paper tomorrow afternoon?


BELIEVING IN YOURSELF: BE ASSERTIVE

Decide which communication style is being used in the following statements.

Oh, don’t worry that you didn’t study with me. I know you have a lot on your mind. I probably would have failed the test anyway.

You’re the lousiest friend I’ve ever had! After making me fail that test, you have some nerve even talking to me now!

I'm angry that you didn’t call. I realize that I could have called you, but I thought I could count on you to keep your word. If we’re going to be friends, I need to know if you're going to keep your promises to me in the future. Will you?

Placating

Blaming

Leveling


QUICK REVIEW

I am intentionally listening to understand what Sally is thinking and feeling.

My mind is clear, I am focused, and I am remaining quiet while Sally is talking.

I need to request more information from Sally to ensure I am understanding her.

I don’t want to make assumptions, so I will restate what I believe Sally said.

Listen to understand

Clear your mind and remain silent

Ask the person to expand or clarify

Reflect the other person’s thoughts

and feelings

Identify each strategy used when actively listening.


What are 3 styles of communication?

QUICK REVIEW

Placating

Leveling

Blaming


QUICK REVIEW

Personal success is highly regarded and each person is seen as unique.

Several generations may live near or with each other.

Adults are expected to strike out on their own and

compete for success.

Feeling good about oneself is related to one’s

contribution to others.

INDIVIDUALISTIC

COLLECTIVISTIC

COLLECTIVISTICINDIVIDUALISTIC

Identify each statement as Individualistic or Collectivistic.

Family unity, honor and respect are vital parts of

this culture.COLLECTIVISTIC

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REHEARSING & MEMORIZING STUDY MATERIALS:

THE BIG PICTURE

Strategies to learn and remember complex ideas.

Strategies to memorize facts and details.

ElaborativeRehearsal

RoteRehearsal

•Which of the following rehearsal categories are you more familiar with:

•While studying, how would you decide which approach to use?


STRATEGIES TO IMPROVE LEARNINGBEFORE REHEARSING & MEMORIZING STUDY

MATERIALS

• Reviewing means reading over your study material silently and with great concentration on the meaning. How can you avoid mindless reviewing?Review a brief section of your study materials.Look away and ask yourself “What are the key

concepts, main ideas, and supporting details of what I just read?” Think through complete answers to those questions.

Look back at your study materials to confirm the accuracy of your thinking.


Similar to reviewing but is done aloud.

Creating a mental picture of your notes that you can see when you close your eyes.

Recording on paper all that you remember after reviewing or rehearsing your study materials.

Reciting

Visualizing

Rewriting

•Identify the following strategies that you could use while rehearsing and memorizing study materials:

STRATEGIES TO IMPROVE LEARNINGBEFORE REHEARSING & MEMORIZING STUDY

MATERIALS

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