33 my spandane articles

Spandane – The Last Lecture Section I – My Life Story

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33 / My Spandane Articles

The word ‘Spandane’ means ‘Vibrations of Mind.’ At times it is difficult to express this

hidden feeling in words. However I have made an attempt in the book titled ‘Spandane’ to

express my Life philosophy which matured over years of my experience and my perception

of this world. I have placed before you some thoughts which arose in my mind about the Life,

People and Nature etc. in the said book. I am sure that whosoever tries to follow the same can

make his Life happy.

My habit of expressing the vibrations in Articles, Photography, Slide shows enabled me to

enjoy my Occupational and Professional career.

I am giving below the gist of my Spandane Articles for your ready reference. Readers can

review this summary for selecting Articles for reading which have been uploaded on

www.spandane.com.

I have added few comments to share my experience to apprise you that these Articles are the

outcome of my Life experience. I am not an Author by conventional definition.

Documentation of my Life experience has given birth to these Articles.

01 / Chase:

Our Life is nothing but a long ‘Chase’ from birth to death. (Education, service, marital life,

kids, wealth, pleasures, maintaining health, friends, and family responsibilities). Many times

we ignore the extent to which each of this should be chased and loose the entire tone of our

Life. Many problems are invited by our attitude itself. Hence it is necessary to know what to

chase and how to chase. Please remember that your success on all fronts should be

proportionate.

My comments: I had a dream of becoming a doctor. But having realized my family

background, financial condition, I redefined the Goal. The proportionate goal was set in Life

and tried my level best to maintain balance between family, career, friends, hobbies and

health. This is the secret of my happiness and relaxed mind.


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02 / Relationship:

Man is a social animal. We stay in the society. Please remember that society starts from you or

in other words, you are the centre point of the society. Hence we build & maintain

relationship with others. However the outcome of relationship also depends on the response

from the other end. Disturbance in the relationship upsets you. Relationship should not be

based on selfish grounds. It should not be developed by concealing the expectations from the

other party. Since the other party does not know your expectations, may not reciprocate

thereby upsetting you. Just think on your real motive in developing relationship. I do agree

that a person feels secured in certain relationships.

My comments: I always maintained transparency in my relationship with every body. I made

my expectations clear. I never made any assumption in any relationship. I never made one

side investment in relationship considering the future. My relationship style is ‘pro-active’

and based on ‘Shreya’ principle. People do misunderstand me initially because they can not

adopt my style although they approve it. However as days & years pass, these people adore

me.

03 / Food, Clothing, Shelter:

We all work for Food, Clothing and Shelter. No doubt that we also work for self esteem.

However you will observe that each one does not work with his heart. ‘Bhagwat Geeta’ teach

us three basic concepts namely Karma, Vikarma & Akarma. Karma is what we do. The same

karma becomes Vikarma when our mind joins the body to carry out the job. In other words,

body and mind should work together to accomplish a wonderful job. When you form this

habit of working with mind and body synchronization, you will not feel the efforts put in

which is called Akarma. Not only that but you will enjoy the work. You can also enjoy the

work when you like / love the job and you also love the person for whom the job is done.

My comments: Having completed the higher education, I selected the job/work considering

my temperament, core abilities etc. Hence I could really enjoy the work. I never got tired of

my job because the ‘work’ was giving utmost job satisfaction on par with financial reward.

This enabled to me to concentrate on whatever I did in Life. I did the work considering the

interest of the organization ahead of management which appointed me.


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04 / Frog, Chick & Bamboo Tree:

We must realize that ‘Change’ is part of Life and also inevitable. Change should be

anticipated and we should mould ourselves for the change and there after change should be

accepted whole heartedly. Then again get ready to ‘Change’.

My comments: I have always accepted the every change thrust in my Life whether it was of

my health, childhood problems, career tensions, my father’s ill health, relationship tensions

etc. Then thought over it to find out as to what can be done, what maximum can happen and

what is the probability of happening? Subsequently I tried to forecast the change in Life and

took rearguard action to face the same. The Article also gives some insight to my childhood.

05 / Computer Education:

We should remain as ‘Student’ all through the Life because one can learn from practically any

one provided your mind is ‘open’. Yes, I mean it. If you think seriously, you will realize that

you can learn from the Nature, Trees, Frog, Tortoise, and Computer etc. The list is only

illustrative.

My comments: I like the role of a student. All through my Life, I tried to learn something out

of every occasion. Professionally I had the opportunity to learn out of my interaction with

various categories of people. I purchased my first PC in 1997 when Pentium I was introduced.

As I was studying the key board, this topic struck my mind giving way to this Article. I am

basically an introvert person since childhood. I used to spend hours together in a cosy place

thinking some issue or the other. Over the years, the habit literally percolated in my blood.

I would always try to find out what can be learned from the existing situation, matter,

object, experience etc. This habit has given birth to few similar Articles.

06 / Hansha:

My memories of village and our ox.

07 / Holi:

‘Colours’ play very important role in our Life. Our Life would be boring without colours.

We use different colours as per our mood. Any celebration is not complete without colours.

If that is the case, why we indulge in rubbing black colours on the body of our friends and at

times strangers on Holi day? Is it to express our hidden jealousy?


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My comments: I never played Holi. I have also discouraged my kids from playing it but never

insisted. However after few years, they understood the real ugly nature of the social game and

discontinued.

08 / Diwali:

I am sure that you must have heard the word ‘Adveit’ which denotes that there is no

difference between you and other person. Do we see the reflection of this word in our

behaviour? The answer is negative. We get disturbed when the desired service is delayed or

not made available. Do we think of the other class who works hard to provide the said

service? Just take the example of ‘Tea’. It has four ingredients namely water, sugar, tea

powder and milk. Can you imagine the chain of activities in procuring each of these items?

At our end, we feel that it is easy because we just purchase. Just think of efforts taken from

grass root level. If you are successful in doing this, then I am sure that you will never grudge

or at least think twice before showing your displeasure.

My comments: Co-operation of all segments is the only key to success. I learned this quality

from my father. He was expert in developing relationship with any class on an equality

complex. I followed this in my Life and hence try to understand & appreciate people & their

contribution in a different perspective.

09 / Bad Habits:

I personally feel that there is no harm in having any addiction or bad habit up to a controlled

limit. I feel that addiction or bad habit is like riding a wild horse. So long as you can control

the horse, there is no harm.

My comments: I have shared my personal experience with above philosophy.

10 / Beggar:

I have described different beggars adopting different methodology for begging. I would say

that all of us are in fact beggars on both fronts. Are we beggers? Is there a separate category of

beggers? Confused? You need to read Article to resolve.

Refer my comments under Article no.05 given above.


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11 / Camel:

We set our educational goal, make all out efforts to achieve the same. It is also necessary that

we must do the job or carry out the profession / occupation which would demand our

educational knowledge gained. You must have observed that many persons compromise on

this concept of utilization of educational expertise achieved and take any job for earning

money. Under such circumstances, do you think it is possible for them to give justice to the

job? We also observe that intelligent girls complete higher education such as Architecture,

Engineering etc. but once they hook NRI, they would leave their job/profession and would go

abroad as Kitchen-in-Charge. What a waste of energy in completing education and

government money? Don’t you think its time to think on this?

Refer my comments under Article no.03 given above. 12 / Tortoise:

We should remain as ‘Student’ all through the Life because one can learn from practically any

one provided your mind is open. Yes I mean it. If you think seriously, you will realize that you

can learn from the Nature, Trees, Frog, Tortoise, and Computer etc. The list is only

illustrative.

Refer my comments given under Article no.05 above.

13 / Mazi Phasavnuka:

My experience of getting cheated has been shared.

14 / Advertisement:

My observations on advertising field.

15 / Anand:

How to look at failure was nicely taught by Anand (my grand son)

Refer my comments under Article no.05 given above.

16 / Shiva Muth:

We stay in a society and try to follow the rules, regulations, conventions of the society. In fact

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when ever we wish to deviate from its rules & conventions. If we are weak minded then we do

not indulge in deviation. But it’s time to have rethinking on many outdated customs, blind

faith, beliefs which are followed blindly by all classes irrespective of education, wealth, age

etc. We must try and unearth new meaning of the customs and if convinced and not causing

any disturbance to others, then we must become Trend setter. Have confidence in your mind

that one day the society will adore you. My experience is great in this matter.

My comments: I like to break outdated customs. Society should not have objection. My wife

has also supported this thought.

17 / Friends:

Our Life is incomplete without good friends. Our relationship with a friend should be more

intimate. Our friend should be a good critic and should put us on a right path when we depart

from our life path. But does this happen? It should but rarely happens because basically we

don’t develop so intimate relationship with him & we like our friend only when he concurs

with our opinion even if wrong. The moment he gives frank advice for our benefit, we are

hardly in a mood to accept such advice. When ever any one offers helping hand we should

always remember this but when ever some body insults us or behaves against our wishes, we

should forget this unpleasant episode as early as possible.

My comments: I was fortunate to get good friends. I had very few friends. Two of them have

already expired. Now I am left with only one friend. I enjoyed very close relations with all of

them. We all gave frank advice when ever called. Many times I had given pro-active advice

but the same was not followed in few cases and my friend paid the penalty. I was helpless. .

Kindly refer a separate Article on My Friends in Section – I.

18 / Question: Questions arising out of Press News.

Refer my comments under Article No.05 given above.

19 / Blind Faith: My observations of faith & blind faith.


20 / Habits: Whether two persons would get along well will depend to a large extent on their

‘Habits’. Our parents, teachers make all out efforts in our childhood to inculcate good habits.


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Their success depends on our attitude to learn. When we become father, we make similar

efforts to educate good habits to our kids and then we realize that why our parents were so

fussy about our acquiring that habit. In other words, observe your habits and make necessary

improvement.

Refer my comments under Article No.05 given above. 21 / Jar:

How to Live Life?

Refer my comments under Article No.05 given above. 22 / Love: Have you ever thought as to what is Love and on whom? The definition of Love

may vary from person to person but please remember that if you have love for the family,

mankind then success and wealth will follow automatically.

23 / Candle:

In difficult times, ‘Hope’ gives us energy to fight the problem. You will agree that in modern

era, words like ‘Peace’, ‘Faith’, and ‘Love’ have lost their glamour as every one is now

accustomed to live on ‘Hope’ that current situation will improve. Please remember that if

your ‘Hope’ is alive, then you can swim through the rough water.

My comments: I always relied on Hopes and did every thing possible to clear out my

problems.

24 / Desire:

We set lofty goals in Life but it is unlikely that we will achieve every thing as planned. One

must remember that two things are essential to make your dream a reality namely ability

and willingness to exert. When things don’t happen the way we want, you must do the

retrospection of the Failure. What was lacking? Our Ability or Willingness? In my opinion,

experience is what you get when you don’t achieve the target. It is also necessary to adopt

the philosophy that ‘You may not get what you love and hence you must love what you get’.

I guarantee that Life becomes heaven if you really master this philosophy.

My comments: I learned this hard core reality in childhood from a reply given by my father to

a simple question raised.


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25 / Ekroop:

Life is nothing but a Laboratory. Whatever we learn (take macro meaning and not micro

meaning of what you learn in educational institutions) should be put to use for the benefit of

the society /mankind. Just observe your inner happiness when you are able to take few

steps in that direction.

26 / Inner voice-1:

At times we are not confident while taking decision in spite of Logical, Practical, Technical

analysis. We must seek the advice in such situation from the expert who can have unbiased

approach to decision making. However we must hear our ‘inner voice’ and take the final

decision accordingly. If your gut feeling does not permit then drop the decision.

My comments: I always took decision after hearing my inner voice. I took a very difficult

decision of marrying a widow and adopting her two kids based on my inner voice. My family

members were confident about me and my courage. The decision turned out to be successful.

When I allowed my inner voice to get overruled by love & affection, I had to suffer.

Also Refer Article My Deadly Accident.

27 / Inner voice-2:

At times we are not confident while taking decision in spite of Logical, Practical, Technical

analysis. We must seek the advice in such situation from the expert who can have unbiased

approach to decision making. However we must hear our ‘inner voice’ and take the final

decision accordingly. If your gut feeling does not permit then drop the decision.

28 / One Step:

We wish to achieve so many Goals in Life. We also decide the priorities and Time frame.

We make the list of all subsidiary jobs and their interdependence. However our mind may be

still be shaky because of difficult Goal. I would advice that don’t get panicky. Start the journey

towards your Goal. We take only one ‘Step’ at a time while walking. So remember the same

rule and start the activity in right earnest and success will be yours.

My comments: I have already mentioned that I compartmentalized my Life when I had to

accept the hard core reality of Life problems and then marched towards the immediate Goal

without disturbing thoughts of the future. Friends, just try, It’s simpler than it appears to be.


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29 / Appointment:

In modern era, we spend 10-12 hours outside house in connection with our job, profession. We

get practically 2-3 hours to spend with family, wife and kids and we must gainfully utilize this

time without bringing office tension in our mind. We should leave our designation, power

etc. outside the house and should enter the house in the capacity of ‘Son, father, husband,

brother etc.’ Just watch the difference. If we fail to do so, then we start taking family

members for granted and ruin the family relationship.

My comments: I always advocated Equality Complex and followed the same in real Life.

I learned this philosophy from my father. This attitude helps you to interact more freely with

masses. Friends, believe me that you stand to gain in the bargain in terms of overall

knowledge gained.

30 / Speed:

We all wish to become a ‘Big Shot’ in Life. But have you decided the ‘Speed’? Let me share

the secret that happiness is in the journey and not necessarily at the destination.

My comments: Friends, I tried to enjoy every situation in Life. Once you enjoy the activity,

then you don’t feel the burden of it. Monetary compensation automatically follows. I enjoyed

my studies and hence never felt any tension for giving any examination. Occupational /

Professional work was selected considering my temperament and hence there was no

problem.

31 / LOL:

At times we seek advice from expert because we are not competent to take decision. But what

is the guarantee that your consultant would give correct advice? I would suggest that one can

seek the advice if absolutely necessary but final decision should be taken considering the

varied opinions and our inner voice. Hence you can solely enjoy the pleasure in your success.

This approach is essential because there is a section of unsatisfied persons giving wrong

advice deliberately. You must remember the Lesson of Life i.e. ‘Seek advice but take action

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32 / Search:

Birth is not in our hands but how to Live is certainly in our hands. We all need happiness,

pleasure in Life but should define the ingredients of happiness and where we will get the

same? Otherwise entire life we may searching the same at a wrong place.

33 / Secret Energy:

We generally carry out ‘SWOT’ analysis of ourselves. However each one of us is bestowed

with ‘Secret Energy’ and it is the responsibility of the family members, teachers to make the

person aware of this secret energy. In difficult times, this secret energy comes to our rescue.

My comments: Unfortunately I came across people who tried to discourage me. They raised

questions on my ability. However I took this as a negative inspiration and gave back the

answer by my deeds. However I followed this approach in an extreme situation as a last

resort. I dealt with people after understanding their SWOT. I offered pro-active advice based

on Shreya Principle.

34 / Consultant:

We should also learn ‘decision making’. We should face the problems in life and should not

run away. We should take expert opinion only when absolutely necessary. We are more likely

to find the solution as the entire input is available with us. Our God fearing attitude has its

origin in inability to take firm decision. I hope you will excuse me for making such bold

statement.

My comments: I followed a well laid master plan for tackling any problem or difficult

situation. Read my Tips – Problem solving given in Section III.

35 / Life Span:

Our Life is divided in four compartments namely childhood (education), Adult (service,

family), Vanprasthashram) (Retired life spend for social service) and Sanyas (social service to

mankind). Earlier persons used to leave the house after retirement from job for rendering

social service by handing over responsibilities to next generation. However now we observe

that a person remains engrossed in day to day affairs even after retirement age resulting in

conflict with younger generation. I do agree that now we may not leave house but still we can

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But how many of us plan our retired life in this fashion? I am sure that you must be

wondering about my retirement plans. I had planned my retirement at the age of 24 (right on

1st day of my career 14-06-1975 Saturday). I have greatly reduced my professional practice and

enjoying my Life by offering medical consultation, studying finer aspects of Astrology

including Medical Astrology, Photography, Reading, updating my website, counselling etc. on

an honorary basis.

36 / King & his Queens:

Bhagwat Geeta has taught one important lesson that ‘Body’ is perishable but soul has a

perpetual existence and hence soul would leave the body and rebirth would take place. All

our belongings such as wealth, relatives, and friends would not accompany us after our death.

However we spend more energy for accumulating wealth, friends, nursing relations but

neglect call of the soul. Death is the only certainty in Life. Without death, Life would be more

complicated. Unless a person gets blessings of 4 Gods namely Fire (Agni which represents

work) Chandra (Moon which represents kind, good qualities of mind) Surya (Sun which

represents sharpening & use of knowledge) and Avakash (Space which represents detached

attitude) peaceful exit from this world /life is not possible. We should remember that every

day is the last day and should spend the day in the best possible manner. You can appreciate

this sentence if you can image getting up in the morning as ‘birth’ and sleeping at night as

‘death’. Once you accept this ideology, I am sure that you will get your best Life.

37 / Coffee:

You must have observed that Happiness and Problems follow each other. Change is

inevitable part of Life. What goes up eventually comes down. Every Act of pleasure (Luxury)

brings certain element of difficulty. How we react to difficulty? No body wants sorrows,

problems and difficulties. Some persons of soft nature become tensed even after tying over the

bad days. Some brave persons may become soft and pessimist after difficulty is sorted out. We

should accept problem as blessing without asking question as to why I am suffering. When

you get reward in Life, do you ask the question as to how I got his high reward

disproportionate to my Abilities? Please remember that Optimist finds opportunity in every

difficulty and Pessimist finds difficulty in every opportunity. We should accept the

difficulty without blaming any one and then try everything possible at our level and leave the

rest to GOD who knows what is best for us.


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My comments: I definitely got perturbed with my childhood but I accepted it as challenge.

No doubt, it affected my mind and mindset towards the society initially but soon I tied over

that feeling professionally.

38 / Thank God:

All of us face difficulties in day to day life. (I need not give list and increase your agony) Our

patience to overcome these trifle problems is wearing thin. In fact these small problems need

not spoil our mood. Shall I make small suggestion? You view the difficulty from positive

angle. Let me give example. (You find that trains are running late. You get irritated. You just

add the word ‘Thank God’ and reconstruct the same complaint. Thank God that trains are late.

If derailment or accident would have taken place then what you would do. ) Just try this trick

for guaranteed results. Read my Spandane Article ‘Thank God’ for more such examples.

39 / Death:

Death incidents witnessed by me.

40 / Worry:

In Marathi words ‘Chita’ and Chinta’ has a difference of only one dot but in terms of meaning

both the words convey different meaning. ‘Chita’ burns the body after death and ‘Chinta’

burns the person during Lifetime. Hence one must stop worrying and start Living. God

knows what is best for us. Here again I would like suggest a way out to overcome ‘Chinta’ i.e.

worry. Just think what maximum would happen? What you can do to avoid or combat with

the Chinta? Have you done that? What is the probability or chance that you would suffer

maximum consequences? What is your Life’s Law of Average? You will realize that you never

suffer to maximum extent if you have lead a honest and sincere life, cultivated habit of

lending helping hand to needy people etc.

My comments: I always study pros & cons of every problem form various angles. Having

realized that my Life’s Law of Average is fairly good, I have stopped worrying.

41 / Change:

We must realize that ‘Change’ is part of Life and also inevitable. Change should be

anticipated and we should mould ourselves for the change and there after change should be

accepted whole heartedly. Then again get ready to ‘Change’.


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42 / PERT-CPM:

You will be surprised if I say that your wife is Management Expert. You would ridicule me

by saying that she has not studied management. If I say that every Management graduate

can’t make a good Manger, then again you have temptation of writing me off. Please bear with

me. Well let me touch the subject proper. You must have read about the term ‘PERT & CPM’.

Any job (in office or residence) involves series of subsidiary jobs. Some of these jobs are

independent while some are interdependent. Once you can think and list all such sub jobs and

decide their dependence or interdependence, then you are assured of successful completion of

the same. Now you can react on my statement of calling your wife as Management Expert.

My comments: I learned this topic while studying for Final CA. Having understood the topic,

I applied the technique practically in every job/situation.

43 / Gudhi:

We should remember the ‘Contribution’ made by our parents, teachers, relatives, and society

in shaping our career and turning us in an individual of active habits. We owe thanks to these

people. This debt can never be repaid. The only way to repay this debt partly is by doing

something for the society, carrying our job whole heartedly, sincerely with full

synchronization of mind and body. Have you seen ‘Gudhi’? On a bamboo stick, ‘Tambya’ is

kept upside down. We should transfer our knowledge and expertise to next generation as per

the teaching of ‘Gudhi’. We can do this if we consider ourselves as ‘visitor’ in this world.

My comments: You may refer Article in Section I – My Social Service.

44 / GOD:

My concept of GOD has been explained.

My comments: You may refer Article in Section I – My GOD. 45 / Safety:

‘Security ‘has become buzz word of the day. In the changed scenario of bomb blast, terror

attacks, natural calamity, accidents, there is no guarantee that a person who leaves the house

in the morning would return safely in the evening. One must remember that our life is

decided by the Almighty super power and hence there is no point worrying about safety. No


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doubt, we should take the necessary care and precautions and leave the rest to GOD. Your

mind should sense the safety and it will automatically be seen on the face.

46 / Opportunity:

We should do justice to whatever opportunity we get. Opportunity does not knock your door

on and off. One needs to be optimist but should also have contingency plan in case things

don’t happen the way you anticipated.

47 / Changed mood of the society:

Value system in the society is changing very fast. What was correct and good yesterday

might have become old fashioned and rejected by younger generation. Every body is right in

his way but your right should not be at the cost of others. The dispute of two generations is

mainly because of this new mentality. Our behaviour should be such that minimum

inconvenience is caused to others.

48 / Kojagiri:

My experience of celebrating ‘kojagiri’ on sea beach near my second home with Neighbours.

49 / MOL-DIL:

My observations on relationship of Mother-in-law & daughter-in-law have been shared.

50 / Morning Walk:

My observations of people on jogging track have been shared.

51 / Communication skill:

Communication plays pivotal role in creating, maintaining and breaking relationship with the

world at large. We should not say what we mean unless called for but we must mean what

we say. This simple principle has the power to improve relationship.

My comments: I have adhered and sharpened this theory in my Life.

52 / Success Management:

Do you know the Success formula? Well, let me share the same.

Success = Minimum Ability / intelligence x hard work x Luck. The reply to what is success

will vary from person to person but what is important is to have overall proportionate


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SSuucccceessss oonn aallll sspphheerreess ooff LLiiffee.. BBaassiicc iinntteelllliiggeennccee ccaann bbee ffoouunndd oouutt aass wweellll aass iitt ccaann bbee mmeeaassuurreedd

//estimated. Luck element is known within few years of birth. Ability to do hard work lies

with everyone. What is required is desire. One should carry out SWOT analysis and then

decide the goal in life. One should set goals in different fronts such as education, career,

family, health, friends etc.

My comments: I have shared my formula of achieving the ‘Success’ in my Life. I give

minimum weightage to Luck factor and concentrate on other two. I constantly thrive to

enhance my ability with new technology & knowledge and I am always ready to slog. Thanks

to my typical relationship of few planets in my horoscope. ☺

53 / Time Management:

IItt iiss nneeeeddlleessss ttoo ssaayy tthhaatt ssuucccceessss ccaann nnoott bbee aacchhiieevveedd wwiitthh ddiissrreeggaarrdd ttoo TTiimmee MMaannaaggeemmeenntt..

TTiimmee iiss MMoonneeyy.. SSaavvee bbootthh ffoorr aacchhiieevviinngg ssuucccceessss iinn lliiffee.. TTiimmee ccaann’’tt bbee ssttoorreedd.. TTiimmee uusseedd

jjuuddiicciioouussllyy ccaann hheellpp yyoouu ttoo mmeeeett ggooaallss sseett iinn lliiffee.. TTiimmee sshhoouulldd bbee ssppeenntt proportionately on

various activities. It is unfortunate that younger generation is not very serious about Time

Management. At every stage one must realize what is the call of the day? What are your

priorities in life? What are your duties and responsibilities? What are your social obligations?

How you are spending TIME at present?

My comments: I have tried to cover the complex topic in a lucid manner for the benefit of

readers. These are Time tested Tips from my Life.

54 / Clock:

We expect that Clock must show correct time. ‘Correct timing’ also plays important role in

Life. We must remember 3 things while taking any action namely correct time, correct

reason/cause and correct proportion. Your action becomes effective only when all the above

three ingredients are present. Usually we take action based on 1 or 2 ingredients.

55 / Death experience:

My death experiences. I could have died on all these occasions but still survived and hence

sharing that experience.


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56 / Reflections:

Today, I am on the verge of retirement and trying to make Balance Sheet of what I gained

and what I lost in my life. When I decided to make this accounting, first thought that crept in

mind was of ‘Principles /Guiding stars’ which assisted me in my Life journey.

57 / Happy Mans Shirt:

Sharing my discovery of Happy Man’s Shirt. ☺

58 / Failure Management:

Everyone is afraid of Failure in life. How one can taste success all the time? Success and

failure follow each other in most of the cases. Confidence is generally lost with failure.

Experience is what you get when you don’t achieve your goal. Failure is the first step

towards success. I am not saying this just to pacify you but if you read autobiographies of

great personalities, you will agree with me. Have you witnessed how a baby takes her first

step? She falls down again and again in the initial stage but keeps trying. Why not follow this

when we are confronted with failure?

59 / Anger Management:

When ever things don’t happen the way we want gives birth to Anger. It is needless to say

that Anger is first most important enemy of a man. You are aware that anger is responsible for

causing diseases such as BP, Diabetes, Heart trouble etc. Person looses the control on his

mind and can’t decide what is good and bad.

My comments: Once upon a time, I was Angry young man. Now My wife calls me Angry old

man. These Tips are very effective.

60 / I am OK you are OK:

We all have born under same circumstances with no control on our parents, place of birth,

financial condition. We were neither pessimistic nor optimistic. We were born with neither

good qualities nor bad qualities. Through exposure to our environment, our parents, teachers,

friends and society in general, we developed mental pictures of ourselves. Circumstances

exert greater influence on our daily conscious activities & us. Kindly analyze your

Behaviour while dealing with others. In which slot you find yourself generally.

I am OK - You are OK / I am OK- You are Not OK


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I am not OK, You are OK / I am not OK, You are Not OK

You should note down your behaviour and try to work in I am OK / You are OK zone.

I am not O

61 / Parent-Adult-Child:

We all inherit 3 Ego status such as Parent (attitude, opinion) Child (feelings, emotions) and

adult (thoughts, learning). All these Egos are essential and play vital role in balancing our

behaviour. We move in and out of these egos in response to what is going on around us.

Child ego wants something; Adult ego makes the decision and Parent Okays the decision of

adult.

I am not O

62 / Service & service providers:

Are we proud service providers? Think twice before you answer. All through Life we are

service receivers. Whether this has a bearing while rendering service?

63 / Faith:

We must have basic faith in our kids considering their abilities. I am sharing my experience.

64 / Camel:

We set our educational goal, make all out efforts to achieve the same. It is also necessary that

we must do the job or carry out the profession-occupation which would demand our

educational knowledge gained. You must have observed that many persons compromise on

this concept of utilization of educational expertise achieved and take any job for earning

money. Under such circumstances, do you think it is possible for them to give justice to the

job? We also observe that intelligent girls complete higher education such as Architecture,

Engineering etc. but once they hook NRI, they would leave their job/profession and would go

abroad as Kitchen-in-Charge. What a waste of energy in completing education and

government money? Don’t you think its time to think on this?

65 / Fashion:

I have tried to look at the word ‘Fashion’ from different perspective.

66 / Objective Answers:

Problem faced by parents in communication with young ones has been shared.


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67 / Observation:

Visual definitions of subjective concepts such as risk, devotion, happiness, frustration etc.

68 / Conflict:

Conflict is part of our LIFE and is inevitable. We may not be fortunate to avoid all conflicts

but we can certainly try to manage them well in time. Understanding reasons of conflict &

acceptance of conflict etc. are most essential for its management. The points of agreements and

disagreements should be jotted down and solution should be thought to reduce the

differences by both the aggrieved parties without involving arbitrator.

69 / ABJ-TTP/P Technique:

You will agree that Theoretically every thing is possible. But have you considered Technical

possibility and thereafter Practical possibility? When all three possibilities are present then

and then only the Goal is achieved positively. However when you fail to achieve the desired

results, what is first reaction? Is it blaming somebody? Is justify the results? Or for a change

you accept the hard fact? Blaming somebody for the failure or justifying the failure may not

help you. In case you want to win over that unpleasant situation, you need to accept the

reality. Just see the difference by doing this. Many doors will open for the next try. Don’t ever

ask the question to God as to why I am forced to face this situation? Have you raised question

on getting disproportionate success not commensurate with your abilities?

70 / My Father:

My website has been dedicated to the fond memories of my Father.

71 / Suffocation:

Ours is a Male dominated world. Have you at any point of time realized / given serious

thought / understood the suffocation of female population. ‘Women Day’ is celebrated on

8 th March. When will Males realize the hidden contribution of ladies in all spheres of life?

It is said that there is backing of a lady behind the success of a man.

72 / My Social Service:

How I rendered social service without joining politics?


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73 / Love & Duty:

At times you are confronted with ‘Love and Duty.’ I am the opinion that when you really

Love somebody then only you carry out proper duties in respect of that person. We should

carry out our duty considering what is right for that person not what is liked by him. This

applies not only for family relationship but also at place of work. You should carry out the job

according to its natural justice and not according to the wrongful wishes of your Bosses. Have

you read the book ‘How to manage the Boss?’

74 / Cow-GOD & Man:

Story of a selfish Man. Also recorded a video in support of the Article.

75 / Diwalichi Story:

My comments on ‘Diwalichi story’ heard on TV.

76 / Cow & Begging:

I have tried to redefine the term begging from the observing ‘cow begging for food’.

77 / The Art of Living:

The Art of Living’ is call of the day. I don’t remember having heard this concept of ‘The Art

of Living’ from my parents. However now in spite of obtaining higher education, it is a pity

that we have to learn this Art. I have placed before the readers various real time problem

situations, problems, attitudes, stress situations etc. If one thinks seriously on every point,

notes down the thought process, then one can decide his own ‘Art or Style of Living’.

78 / Cow-Freedom & Man:

One can not enjoy freedom without the formal set of Rules & regulations.

79 / Beauty:

The Beauty is not what you see in mirror. The word ‘beauty’ can be looked from different

perspective.

80 / Sparrow’s Parable:

Moral story on social service and public tendency.


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81 / Change yourself, not the world:

Many times we have no control as to how the other person should react, behave etc. If you

want to change the society, then you should change first.

82 / Anomalies of Human Behaviour:

Human being is considered as most intellectual ‘animal’ in the universe. He can use his brain,

can think from various angles, knows the risk factors, can analyze cost-benefits of his actions

etc. If it is so, his behaviour is supposed to be consistent, rational etc. But we observe in day to

day life that it is not so.

83 / Behaviour Therapy for wood be Brides:

‘Relationship’ is born simultaneously with our birth. Relationship is a complex phenomenon.

I am aware that developing any relationship is a long drawn process. Although this Therapy

has been prescribed to would be ‘Brides’ but any daughter-in-law can start following this

therapy depending upon the circumstances to redevelop, mould, reconcile relationship with

In-laws. In fact many of the above Tips can be successfully used to improve relationships with

people.

84 / Behaviour Therapy for wood be Bridegrooms:

‘Relationship’ is born simultaneously with our birth. Relationship is a complex phenomenon.

I am aware that developing any relationship is a long drawn process. Although this Therapy

has been prescribed to would be ‘Bridegroom’ but ‘Any Bridegroom’ can start following this

therapy depending upon the intention to redevelop, mould, reconcile relationship with wife.

In fact many of the above Tips can be successfully used to improve relationships with people.

85 / Slave:

Whenever we hear the word ‘slave’, a dumb servant comes before our eyes. In history this

word taught us as to how slaves were punished, kept starving etc. by their masters.

We always take the literal meaning of this word. It is a pity that we don’t take macro

meaning of the word. All of us must accept one basic fact that we all are slaves, by whatever

sugar-coated name it is called.

86 / Pilot on Drive:

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‘Pilot’ (or completing higher education etc.) but you should also respect others. Every one

should respect the individuality of another person. You have no inherent right to insult the

other person. Respecting others is like saluting ‘God’ because it is said that God is hidden in

every person.

87 / Exploitation:

If you take the macro meaning of the term ‘Exploitation’, you would observe that we survive

or for that matter succeed purely on exploitation. I have narrated few instances of day to day

exploitation. Lets join together to end Exploitation.

88 / Donation:

I have shared my views on Donation.

89 / Track:

Whether track has anything to do with a man? The answer was obviously yes. Surprised?

Whether you realize or not but we all follow the hidden track from the word go. i.e. since our

birth to death. However, the word ‘Track’ is seldom used. Well friends, I am sure that if one

tries to run his life’s race on some of the hidden tracks mentioned in the Article, his life will be

not only successful but one can even witness heaven on earth in his own life.

90 / Ramesh:

All of us face difficulties in day to day life. (I need not give a list and increase your agony)

Our patience to overcome these trifle problems is wearing thin. In fact these small problems

need not spoil our mood. Shall I make a small suggestion? You can view this difficulty from

positive angle.

Friends, I am confident that this article would change your outlook towards your life. When

ever you get confronted with petty problems, think of this story. If that happens, then I

would feel that my efforts are rewarded.

91 / Umbrella:

If one has to ‘carry unpleasant relationships’ in family/office and at the same time ‘carry

expectations’ from superiors, parents, teachers, spouse, kids and other family members, then

what is the problem of ‘carrying an umbrella’?


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My comments: View point of my Father in carrying umbrella has been given new dimension.

92 / Five Hs in our Life:

There are 5 Hs which play a vital role in our life namely House, Home, Hostel, Hotel and

Hospital.

93 / Question paper:

Different type of Question paper for every Indian citizen to answer.

94 / Corruption:

My views on corruption and my experience in this regard have been shared.

95 / Nataranga:

Review of Marathi Movie ‘Nataranga’ from management perspective.

96 / Spandane SMS:

Ready compilation of Mobile SMS for various occassions.

97 / Tips on saving Electricity consumption:

This compilation of Tips has been prepared to create awareness about necessity of reducing

Electricity consumption Let us Act positively by implementing the various Tips for saving

electricity consumption. Electricity Saved is Electricity Generated.

98 / Save Water:

This compilation of Tips has been prepared to create awareness about necessity of reducing

water consumption in view of unpredictable monsoon over last few years.

99 / Crisis Management:

This Article has been compiled to prepare all of us for meeting the challenge of CRISIS and

diluting its effect.

100 / Global recession & Common man:

Global Recession has become a Topic of discussion since September 2008. I have outlined Few

Tips under various categories which would enable every one to not only Save Money but it

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improving planning skills, understanding importance of co-operation, improvement in

personal relationship, good health, mental peace and Happiness from Inside out etc.

101 / My Life Philosophy:

I followed certain principles in my life which enabled me to achieve balanced success in

Life. I am sure that whosoever tries to follow the same can also make his Life happy.

102 / Tips for improving relationship:

We can develop better relationship with others if we understand their entry in our life.

A person may come into your life for a ‘reason, for a season or for a life.’ If this focus is clear,

we can decide our relationship pattern.

103 / Cricket & Life:

Do you feel that there could be a relation between cricket and Life? First look at the word

‘cricket’ and try to learn some thing from the word itself. You need same qualities whether it is

Cricket or Life.

104 / Man & the Tree:

Friends, do you feel that there is a relationship between a man & the tree. I feel that a very

close relationship is prevalent between a man and the tree. This subject flashed in my mind

when recently I was specially shooting the big trees and their trunks.

105 / Money –Possessions –Happiness:

Many a time’s happiness is equated with wealth and or material possessions. Friends, what

you think? Is there any relationship between these three ingredients?

106 / Demand & Supply –New Perspective:

If we look at the various problems, one can realize that the root cause is ‘imbalance between

demand & supply.’ Though the said reason is obvious, it is rarely accepted for the purpose of

problem solving. At best it is accepted in the forum of dignified people who have no control

on execution of the solution.

107 / Skill:

The ‘Managerial skill’ is the buzz word of the day. White collared people usually have a

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to do the skilled job in the office. Seldom it is realized that practically every job requires skill

and every skill is not taught in the educational institution. Some skills are in the family and

are transferred from one generation to another.

108 / Three sides of Life Triangle:

In Young age, you have time and energy but no money to enjoy!!! In Middle age, you have

energy and money but no time to enjoy!!! In old age, you have time and money but no energy

to enjoy!!!! I have made an honest attempt to address this burning issue.

109 / Three stages of Marriage:

There are three stages of Marriage namely MAD for each other / MADE for each other /

MAD because of each other.

110 / Behaviour Therapy for Senior Citizen:

If your relationship gets clicked spontaneously, then nothing likes it. But there is no guarantee

that it would so happen. Hence you must try to establishment relationship by adhering to

various Tips listed in the Article. Why not make an attempt to develop relationship

professionally instead of relying on your mood /ringing of bells in your mind?

111 / Jail-Jailor-Prisoner:

I have looked at these words from different perspective. To look at the terms on macro level,

our birth itself gives rise to the triangle of jail, jailor and prisoner.

112 / Result:

I have looked at the word from different perspective. In fact we await results every minute,

every hour, every month in fact every movement from birth till death. Confused? Read the

Article.

113 / Monsoon Breeze – my experience:

I have shared experience of heavy breeze during monsoon supported by 4 videos recorded in

a short span of 30 minutes. I have captured the mood swings of the nature.

My comments: I always like to share my knowledge, experience for the benefit of others. It’s a

pro-active behaviour on my part.


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114 / Fallen Tree:

Is there any relationship between a Tree and a Man? Can we learn from Trees?

115 / Crow:

I have narrated New Moral Story based on Video clipping of CROW.

Refer my comments given under Article no.05 above.

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