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St. Mary’s is the oldest, continuously existing parochial school in the state of Tennessee. We have been serving families for over 135 years. St. Mary’s School is confident and committed to forming children for life beyond the classroom. Our teachers integrate highly challenging academics with faith and character development. An awareness of moral challenges and respect for self and others are revealed as students are directed toward

As an accredited school with a 16:1 As an accredited school with a 16:1 student/teacher ratio we offer a well rounded educational experience with a depth that is not typically found in schools today. St. Mary’s is proud to provide this strong academic program so that all students can reach maximum potential. Students are offered language arts, science, math, history, religion, a library with accelerated books, a computer lab, Latin in grades 2-8 and Spanish in grades K -6th grade.

athletic program which supports opportunities for growth in self-discipline and a Christian attitude in athletics.

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The Passion Police for TeensKids from all generations have varying ways of expressing a relationship

status while experiencing some form of romantic love. Your parents or grandparents found themselves “going steady”. This meant that he liked her and she liked him and they decided to be exclusive. In my generation, the evolution of exclusive romantic love was expressed in the statement “we are going together”. Youth in the 90’s were “going out” which meant they were in a committed relationship of boyfriend and girlfriend. Our parents and grandparents were not really going much of anywhere when “going steady”, just as there was no particular destination when I was “going with” a particular girl when in high school. Kids in the 90’s “going out”? Not very far, actually.

Today, adolescents are somewhat frustrated by the ambiguity of the lingo around romantic love. Self-admittedly, they find themselves confused by their own colloquialisms that describe the status of a relationship. As you observe two teens reflecting romance in the eyes, you may ask a question that dates you from your own youth-romance era. “Are you going out?” “Dating?” you may ask. This of course, makes you sound like a complete cornball. After a roll of the eyes and a sigh (which is teen-speak for you are a moron), the reply is “No, we’re just talkin’”. This may mean they have held hands, want to hold hands or perhaps have a sexual relationship and see themselves being married someday. Other terms that may describe a potentially romantic relationship that are equally curious are: hooking up, official, FACEBOOK official, dating, together…etc…. Who really knows what any of these terms actually mean?

So, as a parent how do I handle romantic love with a teenager? I think it is fair to say that most teens have romantic love on the brain. How could they not? While not all messages are healthy, our culture points to romantic love as the epitome of human expression. Some teens focus on other cultural tasks and delay romantic love until later in life (20’s). Others centralize romantic love by age thirteen! Their total identity seems to form around who they are “talkin to” or “official with”. Like a monkey swinging from one tree to another, some students major in romance and minor in school, sports, church, friendships and other normal parts of being a kid.

As a parent, what do you want for your child with regard to romantic love? Most of us simply want healthy relational development. Question: can your adolescent perform brain surgery? Of course he/she can! You and I both know it is possible. We also know the outcome. It will be really messy and the patient would probably die! Can your child do brain surgery someday? Maybe. With the proper tools, training and supervision over time, it is possible you have a brilliant future brain surgeon in your home! Allow me to suggest Pepper’s Principles of Proper Protection of Passion for Parents.1. Increase communication. Many parents flip completely out at the

thought of knowing anything that happens romantically with their child. The tendency is to let off the gas. Press on the gas! Get in their business early and often! If you start off this way, secrets are eliminated and you have the opportunity to guide. If not and you try to start communication later, you are in for a power struggle.

2. Increase supervision. They are children handling one of the most powerful weapons in the world. Romantic love has the ability to lift a child to the heights where eagles soar or saw a kid in half when it goes poorly. The more you know, the more you can help. Manage any alone time to take away temptation that may take the relationship to a much more serious state than either of them intended.

3. Decrease attention you give to the relationship. A common mistake parents make in romantic love of their kids is to treat it like a mini-marriage. Parents – remember what I am about to say and drive it home to your teens – THE RELATIONSHIP WON’T LAST! (More effectively shared with a child before a relationship begins.) It may make YOU feel good to have double-dating partners, but it gives needless fuel to emotions that have enough fuel of their own. Your children need affirmation and attention in SO many other areas of life!

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4. Be the soft place to land. Since the relationship won’t last, maintain a position of guidance with your teen because it will hurt when the relationship ends (another reason NOT to encourage romantic love for teens). This pain probably does not teach them the lasting life lessons you would like to see them take away. It just hurts. The opportunity that exists is one that builds trust between you and your child in a deepening relationship of care and empathy rather than an “I told you so” dynamic.

5. Encourage age-appropriate obsessions. There are rich experiences right in front of your child’s nose that produce much more gain than romantic love. Friendships, academics, sports, art, music, outdoor activities and family life will prove to stand the test of time long after he has forgotten her name!

As parents our responsibility changes, but never goes away, teaching our children about relationships. If you want your children to perform brain surgery (good relationships), make sure they have the right tools, proper training, supervision and enough time for necessary skills to develop.

Pepper Pratt, Ph.D. is the Executive Director at Youth Town of Tennessee. His recently released book, We’re Just Talking – A Biblical manual for romantic love for teens, is available at www.amazon.com. He will teach the parent track for Hub City Disciple-Now at West Jackson Baptist Church February 28 - March 1 and present Preparing for Adolescence at Englewood Baptist Church on March 22. There is no charge for either event. Call either church for more information.

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3. START A HOBBY OR ENGAGE IN SPORTS

Most individuals are busy with work or family, but it is important to take time to engage in relaxing activities. On the other hand, idleness is the beginning of all vices (Proverb). Pick up a simple hobby that you may enjoy or a sports activity that isn’t too rigorous especially if you really are not that physical fit. You will be surprised to learn that you may actually excel in arts and crafts, playing musical instruments, golf or tennis. It may just be a hidden

talent waiting to be discovered.

3. IMPROVE EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL WELL BEING

A visit to the spa for a massage or facial or doing yoga could be a worthwhile and rejuvenating experience. All too often, we neglect our own personal needs simply because of our hectic schedules. Even a simple reading

material to boost your emotional and spiritual well-being can do wonders. Daily devotion or prayers can improve your relationship with God as you seek inner peace and attend church services regularly.

4. KNOW YOUR RISK FOR HEART DISEASE AND HAVE A CHECK UP

If you have high blood pressure, diabetes, kidney disease, had a stroke or have a family member who had a heart attack in their early 50’s or 60’s, you are at risk of having heart disease. Plan a visit to your doctor who will assess your cardiovascular risk after reviewing your medical history. If you have hypertension and/or diabetes mellitus, maintain adequate control of your blood pressure and sugar level by taking your medications and watching your diet. Stop smoking as your risk for heart disease drops to 50% in one year and after five years, the risk approaches that of a non-smoker.

It is 2014 and we should take steps to improve our health and emotional well-being. Start the year right and you won’t regret that you did!

Before the end of each year, we all look back and review events in our life and come up with a resolution and

ways to improve our material, spiritual, psychological and physical well-being. In this fast paced world, we become absorbed with mundane responsibilities and work that we often take our own health for granted. Our family, spouses and children come before ourselves and so we procrastinate seeking medical attention because of time constraints and a hectic work and family life. But, wait a minute, another year has passed and what have we done?

Two decades after leaving my home country, the Philippines, I recently had the opportunity to go home and be with my family to enjoy Christmas and New Year. What made the experience even more exciting was I had several relatives from the United States and Canada, who were also spending the holidays at home. Little did we know that it would be a challenging time for the family, as one of my visiting aunts had to be rushed to the hospital due to acute congestive heart failure or fluid overload. We spent hours waiting in the ER until she was finally admitted on New Year’s Eve and she stayed in the hospital for several days. She was sent home on multiple medications, including aspirin, diuretic, beta blocker and ACE inhibitor and will be scheduled for further follow up with her cardiologist in the U.S. for her mitral valve prolapse and moderate to severe mitral regurgitation.

After this experience with my own family, I thought that a heart healthy to-do list would be appropriate to share with you for the year 2014. Here are my suggestions for a fit and healthy lifestyle for 2014:

1. START EATING HEALTHY

Changing your eating habits is a difficult thing to do. Learning which foods to avoid that increase heart disease risk and which foods are healthy is a great way to start. Portion control is as important as knowing what to eat. Consume low calorie, low sodium, lean protein and nutrient-rich food like fruits and vegetables and foods rich in fiber. Limit intake of high fat and high salt foods which could lead to heart disease and hypertension. Allow yourself to indulge once in a while and give yourself a treat.

2. EXERCISE REGULARLY and LOSE WEIGHT

Daily physical activity and exercise increases one’s stamina and physical well-being and promote weight loss. It is recommended to engage in at least 30 minutes of moderate exercise a day, which is good for your cardiovascular health. There are several types of exercises out there, and it is essential that you pick the one that you will enjoy and do consistently. Some individuals do better to enroll in a gym and participate in group exercise routines, while others prefer to do it at home using DVD’s or their own exercise equipment. One of the most popular exercises is Zumba, which is a Latin-inspired fitness program that burns 500 to 1000 calories in an hour, depending upon the intensity. For people who are in better physical shape, the Cross-Fit or Insanity programs may be another option. Remember to always consult your physician before engaging in strenuous physical activities most especially if you have a heart condition.

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3. START A HOBBY OR ENGAGE IN SPORTS

Most individuals are busy with work or family, but it is important to take time to engage in relaxing activities. On the other hand, idleness is the beginning of all vices (Proverb). Pick up a simple hobby that you may enjoy or a sports activity that isn’t too rigorous especially if you really are not that physical fit. You will be surprised to learn that you may actually excel in arts and crafts, playing musical instruments, golf or tennis. It may just be a hidden

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3. IMPROVE EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL WELL BEING

material to boost your emotional and spiritual well-being can do wonders. Daily devotion or prayers can improve your relationship with God as you seek inner peace and attend church services regularly.

efore the end of each year, we all look back and review events in our life and come up with a resolution and

ways to improve our material, spiritual, psychological and physical well-being. In this fast paced world, we become absorbed with mundane responsibilities and work that we often take our own health for granted. Our family, spouses and children come before ourselves and so we procrastinate seeking medical attention because of time constraints and a hectic work and family life. But, wait a minute,

2014 - HAVE TIME FOR YOURSELF!

Dr. Sandra V. Dee specializes in women’s heart health, clinical and interventional cardiology with the Jackson Clinic. She received her medical degree at the University of Santo Tomas, Manila,

Philippines. She completed her Cardiology fellowship at the University of Tennessee in Memphis and Interventional Cardiology Fellowship at the

University of Virginia. Dr. Dee is board certified in Cardiology

By Sandra V. Dee, M.D., FACC