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Radiance May/June 2013 1 TRUTH CONSCIOUSNESS BLISS PROSPERITY VOLUME 3 ISSUE 3 MAY/JUNE 2013 Myths that Kill, Myths that Heal: Storytelling Yourself By Gahl E. Sassoon Two Questions that Can Change Your Life By Raphael Cushnir Lessons I Learned from My Grandmother By Rev. Basia Christ, PhD Two Secrets "The Secret" Didn't Tell You By Rev. Danielle Marie Hewitt Your Magical Mind: Are You Using It? By Dianne Collins Dating Adventurously By Ellany T. Kincross 7 "Bites" to Meaningful Meals By Deanna Minich, PhD, CN It's Never Too Late (or Too Soon) to Live Your Dream By George and Sedena Cappannelli adiance R A Publication of the Temple of Light Spiritual Community

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Myths that Kill,Myths that Heal:

Storytelling YourselfBy Gahl E. Sassoon

Two Questions thatCan Change Your Life

By Raphael Cushnir

Lessons I Learnedfrom My Grandmother

By Rev. Basia Christ, PhD

Two Secrets "The Secret" Didn't Tell YouBy Rev. Danielle Marie Hewitt

Your Magical Mind:Are You Using It?By Dianne Collins

Dating AdventurouslyBy Ellany T. Kincross

7 "Bites"to Meaningful MealsBy Deanna Minich, PhD, CN

It's Never Too Late(or Too Soon)to Live Your DreamBy George and Sedena Cappannelli

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CONTENTS5 Two Secrets "The Secret" Didn't Tell You

A message from Rev. Danielle Marie Hewitt, Publisher

and Founder of the Temple of Light Spiritual Wellness

Your Magical Mind: Are You Using It?

By Dianne Collins7

It's Never Too Late (or Too Soon) to Live Your Dream

By George and Sedena Cappannelli

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7 "Bites" to Meaningful Meals

By Deanna Minich, PhD, CN16

Academy of Light21

Reclaim Your Power

By Sarah MacLean27On-site Practitioners12

10 Dating Adventurously

By Ellany T. Kincross

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MAGAZINE STAFFPublished by Rev. Danielle Marie, Spiritual Director of Temple of Light Spiritual Community

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Two Secrets The Secret Didn’t Tell Youby Rev. Danielle Marie Hewitt,Founder & Spiritual Director

Years ago before I had children, a friend said upon having his first son, “He filled a void in me I didn’t even know existed.” When I heard those words, it occurred to me we might be

without something that could make us profoundly happy and at peace. If we are unaware of the void, we likely would not know to ask for that which fills it, what it is, and how to get it. We may resign ourselves and not ask for more. Those words ignited in me the energy of being a “seeker,” to look for things and ways to be happier even if I thought what I had was acceptable. They taught me it was all right to want more. In subsequent years, I also needed to learn what I truly wanted and I deserved it.

When we do decide what we want, imagine having it, and take measures and means to create it, we have knowingly or unknowingly engaged the Laws of Attrac-tion.

In 2006, when the DVD and book The Secret were re-leased, it became fashionable to think positively about what you want so the Law of Attraction, which deter-mines the order of the universe and our lives through the process of “like attracts like” brings it to you. The Secret taught us that as we think and feel, a corre-sponding frequency is sent out into the universe that attracts back to us events and circumstances on that same frequency. The Secret also sparked a great deal of controversy and doubting Thomas’s who claimed it did not or could not work. For some people, the reason the Law of Attraction may not have worked is because there are two secrets The Secret didn’t tell us.

The first secret is the “Power of the Want”

In the years of working with friends, clients, and stu-dents, I have seen many of them claim to want some-thing they only think they want, or what they want is re-duced by what they feel is all they are entitled to want, or worse yet, they ask for something they think they are supposed to want.

The Law of Attraction responds to frequencies. When frequencies are limited, weak, or not in alignment, the response the Universe gives will match that which is given and the results are in accordance. The Power of the Want can also be weakened if there is indecisive-ness or the person asks for inconsistent things. For ex-ample, if someone is not in their dream job and deep down longs for a career change, but does not have the courage or vision to see a job change is possible, they may ask for more money in their current job believing that is the remedy to their unhappiness.

You cannot fool the Universe. Its energy gauges the true frequency level of the manifestation and will re-spond accordingly. A slight raise may come in time and with a great deal of extra effort; however, a cou-rageous, openhearted, empowered manifestation of the truest and strongest alignment of the job of your dreams will come with such speed, clarity, and path laid out that you will be left in wonder at the difference.

How can you tell if you are manifesting things that are not in alignment with your true heart? Easy. Things come slowly, tediously, with great effort and struggle, and you ask yourself, “What am I doing wrong?” The

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Rev. Danielle Marie is a Master ThetaHealer® who practices a healing art based primarily on ThetaHealing®, but with several personal additions and modifications. Rev. Danielle Marie's sessions are life-changing, creating shifts in her clients' perceptions resulting in the most positive changes imaginable. Rev. Danielle Marie has been a student of metaphysics since

2000 and studied under several mentors, including Vianna Stibal and Dr. Doreen Virtue. As a metaphysical minister, she believes in the innate intuitive ability gifted to each of us. Teaching this and witnessing healings has become her life's work and passion. She believes we can live free from pain and suffering and be in a constant state of peace and joy.

answer is you are not being true to your greatest heart desires.

I recently attended training in San Jose with a mentor-ship program called “Thrive Academy.” On the first day of training as service providers, we were asked to nail down the answer to the “What do you do?” question. About 25% of us struggled with the answer because we were unclear, too expansive, or had too many answers. In my case, all three applied. We were coached to get it down to one that clearly addressed how we help peo-ple with what problem.

For the next few days, I had trouble staying focused and integrating with the group. I didn’t realize until the last day I was experiencing a release of what I thought I was supposed to be doing as compared to what I truly wanted in my heart of hearts. I thought my goal for the Temple of Light was to reach as many people world-wide as possible offering them means and ways to live a spiritual life. I thought what I wanted was to create a congregation of thousands. All of my efforts to cre-ate such a thing single handedly felt like I was moving a mountain without traction. I was exhausted.

I heard the question “What am I doing wrong?” in my head hundreds of times. What came to me so clearly on the final day was what I truly wanted more than anything is to serve the holistic healing practitioners by giving them a place to seek and learn, to practice and teach their healings arts, find community, friends, and a place to play. I want to help the healing ambassadors that go out and touch the world to gain their momen-tum. They, as an empowered, group, can reach thou-sands of people. Suddenly it seemed easy and within reach. Since I got into alignment with my deepest, tru-est desires, the Law of Attraction has shown up in ways I would never had dreamed possible.

The second secret is the “Purity of the want”

If you are absolutely sure you are imagining and mani-festing the thing, place, or person of your dreams, and you still haven’t hit the Law of Attraction jack pot, per-haps your thoughts may not be pure. You may have parallel counter thoughts whispering to the Universe simultaneously you are not worthy of what you want, your family will belittle or shun you, your friends won’t feel connected to you, you are uncomfortable with that much attention, your physical image isn’t good enough, you wouldn’t know how to manage all that money, your spouse will have their ego bruised if you

suddenly make more than them, neighbors will think you are “woo woo,” and more...

Remember the Universe responds to frequencies. If the frequency of what you want is matched with a fre-quency of you being afraid to get it, it cancels itself out.

My journey of creating our spiritual center was greatly tempered by my fears of not being approved of or ac-cepted by the community we served. I discovered these were feelings I had created regarding my birth family.

It didn’t change overnight, but gradually I began to have more self-approval and more self-acceptance. More and more people came into our center saying wonderful things and promising to come back, bring friends, and tell people about it.

As the shift continued, we received less complaints and more compliments, less people wanting things and more people offering to help, less financial shortage, and more abundance.

In the first chapter of The Enlightened Entrepreneur by Grace Bulger, she writes the energy of the CEO (or or-ganization leader) is that which guides and creates the energy of the organization. This concept opened my eyes that as founder and director my thoughts about myself would trickle down the organization chart and the customer base. The purity of my thoughts and feel-ings surrounded me with every person in ways I had not previously understood.

As my clarity of what I truly want increases and the counter revolutionary thoughts decreases, I no longer feel as though there is void that I cannot fill. I also know that in six months time or over the next couple of years, my heartfelt desires may change, shift, or adjust slight-ly. It’s all good as long as we are feeling things are com-ing easy and effortlessly. Remember, if your goals feel like a struggle and you are exhausted, revisit the Power and Purity of what you are manifesting and the Law of Attraction will work for you so much better.

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What if… meditation isn’t just a relaxation or spiritual practice,

but a natural faculty of your mind you are well advised to use regularly?

What if… the ability of your mind to travel anywhere in space and time isn’t just a serendipity that delights you with an amazing connection, but an inherent power that you can develop?

What if… the ability of energy to be converted into various states is not just a fact of science, but an impor-tant human dynamic we are here to master?

When there is something in life you really want, we say, “If you put your mind to it you can do it. “What does it really mean to “put your mind to something?” I like to think we are kindred spirits here to remind each other of what we al-ready know. In that sense I am here now to activate remembrance of the natural powers of your magical mind. Traditional education has not begun to teach us about the inher-ent faculties of our mind and how to use them.

Let’s contemplate what I distin-guish as the 5 Natural Faculties of

Your Magical Mind:Are you using it?By Dianne Collins

Mind and their dynamic principles – powers of mind that supply us with the ability to awaken, to choose, to create, and master our experiences and outcomes in life.

“All is mind.” –Buddha

The Buddha declared, the yogic sage Patanjali taught, and leading quantum scientists today agree: All is mind. Mind in this sense doesn’t mean the cognitive, rational mind nor does mind equate to the brain. (Consider the brain as the transmit-ter-receiver of mind.) Mind means consciousness – the fundamental field of awareness that connects us as one. Some people associate the mind with the intellect, but we are using it in this broader way as the individualized form of the all-perva-sive consciousness.

The mind as consciousness encom-passes whatever you are aware of in a given moment in spacetime, including your intent, thoughts, feelings, emotions, and bodily sensations. All this is experienced by the mind. You may ask, “What about the heart?” Cutting-edge brain researchers consider the physical heart the fifth part of our brain as it contains 60% neurons, the same type of cells that make up

our brain. In wisdom traditions, the spiritual heart is considered to be the seat of the mind. In a real sense, your mind is your life because it is through mind you are related to ev-erything in this dazzling, exquisite universe.

Let’s have a meditative visualiza-tion to experience this.

Imagine you are floating. We all are floating in a giant invisible field and the field is intelligent. It is a field of energy and infinite potential. Paradoxically, the field is within, outside, and surrounding us. We are in constant relationship and in-teraction with this field —a field of mind. We can consciously connect with this field of universal intelli-gence by learning to regularly call upon the life force of our 5 Natural Faculties of Mind and their corre-sponding dynamic principles.

5 Natural Faculties of MindPower of Observation, its dynamic is Intent

The first faculty of Observation means we are creating our experi-ence of life according to what we bring to our Observations. Intent is the dynamic we use to create.

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Quantum physicists say we live in an Observer-created Reality. Ob-servation is not merely looking at something. It means to hold some-thing in awareness in a way you make it real. It is a creative act of consciousness activated by the dy-namic of Intent.

There is no absolute way that real-ity is. It lies in waiting as waves of probability until we choose one of the possibilities with our Intent.

(Note: In QuantumThink®, we make an important distinction between Intent and Intention – Intention being a course of action leading to an end goal – and Intent being an activation of the energy-intelligent conscious field, a quality of being that attracts results consistent with the specific Intent.)

Our power of Observation is awe-some because it means what we see and experience is dependent upon what we as human Observers bring to our Observation.

Observation is a unique action of consciousness placing focus, atten-tion, and Intent through thought. There is a significant difference between thinking as an act of con-sciousness and merely having auto-matic thoughts flooding the mind. Thinking as a conscious act includes a consciously generated Intent. When you become aware of some-thing or someone with a particular Intent, you get a new experience which becomes your reality.

How do we use the faculty of Ob-servation? How you think about your life partner is an act of Obser-vation. You experience your part-ner based on judgments, thoughts, and intent you have about him or her. Even though a person appears to be a particular way, it is what we bring to our Observation that gives

us our experience of them. If you notice you bring a limited judgment to your Observation of your part-ner, you can create a new Intent and watch the magic happen as your relationship takes on a harmo-nious direction.

For example, suppose you have a habit of saying to your partner that he/she doesn’t listen to you. As long as you hold that judgment in your field of awareness, the physics of mind will probably bring about that experience. Not to mention, your connection with your partner may seem distant. So what to do?

Catch yourself in that judgment, realize from a quantum perspec-tive your judgment is not the truth – and then create the Intent that I love our communication gets deeper and more harmonious all the time. It isn’t that this statement of In-tent is the truth either; the idea is you are creating a context you are choosing to live from in the form of Intent. This activation of the re-lational field will bring results that match your new context.

Power of Nonlocation, its dynamic is Intuition

The second faculty of Nonlocation means our mind can go anywhere instantly across spacetime to send or receive information. Intuition is the dynamic we use to tune in to universal intelligence.

This might sound strange – that we have a faculty of Nonlocation. What does it mean? One of the most important discoveries of sci-ence today is we have a nonlocal mind which means our mind is not local to our body. In fact, our mind is not located anywhere because the mind doesn’t have a spatial or temporal quality the way ordinary objects do. Since the mind is not

limited in space or time, we can send and receive information at a distance. When you have a quan-tum occurrence like when you’re thinking about a friend you haven’t spoken with for a while and the next minute the phone rings and it’s their voice, this is the faculty of Nonlocation in action.

Intuition is the dynamic that en-ables us to tap into Nonlocation and the apprehension of some-thing without prior knowledge or physical access. Take your Intuition to a higher octave by using it con-sciously in a disciplined way regu-larly. You might have an Intuition to take a different route on your way home. Listen to that prompting. When you are shopping for a partic-ular item you can save time by tun-ing in and knowing exactly to which store to go. You may be pointed to a particular aisle or as link to click on in the Google search online.

Power of Transmutation, its dy-namic is Energy

The third faculty of Transmutation means we can transform and uplift our experience. Energy is the dy-namic that can be converted into various states, especially from a lower or denser state into a higher or more refined state. Since we are energetic beings and Energy is con-vertible, we can use the power of Transmutation to convert human energy states, especially emotions.

Suppose anger arises. The anger En-ergy is there. What will we do with it? We can use the faculty of Trans-mutation to take the anger into a higher form such as converting it to compassion. When you become adept with the faculty of Transmu-tation, you tune into energy, par-ticularly subtle energy, such as the energy of emotion, a place, an idea

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you have for a new project, or a new group of people to meet.

You may have old ideas or thoughts that don’t feel energetically correct for who you are now. Transmute this Energy to a higher state. Use your Intent, directing the Energy with focus.

Power of Meditation, its dynamic is Awareness

The fourth faculty of Meditation means we can live as the watcher and the doer simultaneously and thereby be continuously refreshed by universal source. Awareness is the dynamic that enables us to be centered, awakened, and at choice.

The faculty of Meditation enables us to instantly access present-mo-ment Awareness. It is only in this state we have authentic choice be-cause we free ourselves of limited conditioning. Meditation strength-ens its dynamic, Awareness.

Meditation is not new. Yet, Medita-tion with its dynamic, Awareness, can be used consciously even when you are not in a sitting Meditation. When you become Aware of your movements, words, and Intent, this a walking-talking, living Meditation.

When you sit for formal medita-tion, the idea is to still the flood of automatic thoughts, not by forc-ing them, but simply by watching them. At some point in the Medita-tive state, thought waves cease, or become so far in the background, you experience the mystical silence within–a connection with con-sciousness or Awareness.

In that state, we experience well being, a restful, rejuvenating state. It connects us in the field of all fields, the field of our source. So you are not just sitting there iso-lated in some state of bliss (though pretty good in and of itself!); you

are in direct contact with life force. This is why it is important to relate to Meditation as a spiritual practice and something the spiritual aspect of us requires for well being, just as our physical aspect requires proper food and rest.

Power of Manifestation, its dy-namic is Resonance

The fifth faculty of Manifestation means we attract what we vibrate and emanate out into the world. Resonance is the dynamic that de-termines what manifests for us due to its attraction force within fields of energy and intelligence.

When we are in tune and some-thing comes together, we say it has Manifested harmoniously. When we Resonate with something we are coherently connected to it. Everything is vibrating in this uni-verse of energy. Modern scientific String Theory proposes that the fundamental units of reality are not particles but tiny vibrating looped strings like on an infinitesimal vio-lin, except they vibrate at different frequencies.

An interesting thing about Reso-nance is you can literally feel, ex-perience, and sense it in your body. You meet someone new and you feel an immediate connection. You say you Resonated with her/him. From that Resonant connec-tion something wonderful unfolds. If you don’t connect, or no Reso-nance, quite possibly nothing much Manifests from that relationship.

Use the faculty of Manifestation to consciously generate Resonances with people, places, things—even with your computer or cell phone. For example, imagine you are throwing a party. As soon as you decide to have the party, you be-gin generating the Resonant field

around it. The invitation you send out begins to condition the field. Our friend invited us recently to his wife’s 30th birthday party. First, he called to say we would be re-ceiving an invitation to a fabulous party. Then the beautiful invita-tion arrived in the mail, decorated with iridescent colors and sparkly things. The invitation requested us to come dressed for a magical evening. He conditioned the field all the way by this communication. You can imagine the evening would be beautiful, well-planned, idyllic, magical – and it was! Conditioning the Resonant field not only Mani-fested our friend’s Intent; it had the guests co-creating the Resonance with him.

When you become finely attuned to the 5 Natural Faculties of Mind, you go beyond space, time, and matter to the realm of Infinite Pos-sibility to discover again that your mind is magical, you are a sculptor of reality, and consciousness is your clay. Practice with Intent. Remem-ber and honor your magical mind. When you master your mind, you master your life.

Dianne Collins is the au-thor of the award-winning bestseller, “Do You Quan-tumThink? New Think-ing That Will Rock Your World,” and the creator of the QuantumThink®

system of thinking. She consults celebrities and executives, entrepreneurs and students, artists and homemakers in thinking for a new world.Contact Dianne at www.diannecollins.com [email protected] her Facebook page: www.facebook.com/DoYouQuantumThink Follow her on Twitter: @diannecollins and @quantumthink; twitter.com/diannecollins

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It happens when we least expect it. We are walking out of Starbucks, working out in the gym or are out for drinks with a friend. With no warning whatsoever, we find ourselves making eye contact

with a stranger. Eyes meet, smiles are exchanged and an introduction occurs. Sometimes plans for a first date are made. The moments leading up to a first date are filled with magic and anticipation.

During that first date, both parties spend time discuss-ing the basics with the following questions: Where did you go to school? What did you study? What do you do for a living? What are you hobbies? What type of mov-ies or TV do you enjoy? What are your favorite vacation spots?

At the end of the date, each party leaves feeling as though he or she has gotten to know a little bit about the other. However, has each party learned anything about each other beyond the basics? No. The problem that arises when we meet a new love interest is we immediately don a mask that closely mirrors what we think the other person wants us to be.

“She wants me to be the strong, supportive type. That’s what I’ll show her.”

“He needs me to be pleasing, agreeable, and easy-go-ing. That’s what I’ll show him.”

Wearing a mask is effective for only a short time. Why? Our soul and spirit do not like to be shadowed. In time, one of the partners takes off the mask because he is tired of hiding his authenticity, and the problems begin. He has grown weary of having to be someone he isn’t in order to please his partner. Maskless, he struggles to reclaim his authentic self and becomes challenging to deal with. The partner still wearing a mask is repulsed

by this shift. This is where the struggles begin.

As a psychic who assists clients in getting into the right alignment to meet the partner of their dreams, I advise clients it is possible to avoid the challenges wearing a mask initiates by choosing to step into a relationship with your authentic self in full view.

In other words, approach dating as an adventure. In-stead of hiding behind the image you think your pro-spective love interest wants, show the real you. Ad-venturous dating means you are willing to put your authentic self out there, even if someone finds the real you unattractive.

In many cases, people refrain from dating adventur-ously because they believe they will be rejected by showing their true selves. However, when you truly ac-cept all your flaws, you will never fear rejection again. The Love yourself and others will, too. When you reject yourself, others will follow suit. Masks are unnecessary when you discover your inner light.

I had a client who struggled with masks in her relation-ship. Cindy wore a challenging mask. She was demand-ing, cold, and calculating. In the beginning, she told Ryan she had specific needs and expectations.

Cindy demanded they go out a lot and travel together and he provide her with a lots of love. Ryan wore his own mask, the mask of a man who was accommodat-ing, pleasing, and who tried to give Cindy what she wanted. Ryan felt up to the task most of the time, but occasionally he didn’t. When he retreated and with-drew, they had big fights.

After several months, Ryan took off his mask. He was frustrated because he felt he’d sacrificed his authentic-

Dating AdventurouslyBy Ellany T. Kincross

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ity. Additionally, he was tired of pleasing a woman who appeared to never be happy about anything.

Cindy was horrified by the removal of his mask. Their fights became ferocious. Then Cindy told him she loved him. They soon broke up. Cindy was devastated. Ryan, while sad, was secretly relieved.

Did Cindy or Ryan know the other person’s real self? When Cindy and I worked together, we talked about her and Ryan’s mask. She admitted she wasn’t her au-thentic self with Ryan out of fear he’d reject her. Under-neath, Danielle felt she was too needy and assumed he did not want a needy woman.

For nine months after they broke up, Cindy and Ryan fell into a pattern of texting each other which some-times led them to bed which proved to be frustrating for both parties. Cindy claimed the sex was amazing, but felt Ryan returned to his unmasked self immediate-ly after he had an orgasm.

Ryan, while attracted to Cindy, felt awkward in her presence. Ultimately, he’d choose to embrace his un-masked self, which upset Cindy. I explained sex was the only way Ryan could be authentic with her. When they weren’t having sex, Ryan felt bitter. He was upset for hiding his authenticity for so long. The bitterness he felt was partially projected at Cindy because he felt she made him hide behind his real self.

Cindy said she never expected Ryan to behave a certain way. Unable to see her role in the dynamic, Cindy had a different perspective. She saw the sexual encounters as an opportunity to reignite their relationship. After sex, she bombarded Ryan with prying questions about how he felt and asked to start dating again.

Ryan would shut down and became silent. Not getting what she wanted, Cindy got angry and swore off Ryan. She’d vent and stated she was going to move on.

Once the text messages started again, the next scenar-io played out again, repeating for a year. Their biggest lesson was to understand the power of being authen-tic. Ultimately, Cindy realized she needed to address her issues so she could heal and meet the right man.

Hollywood’s version of this no-no is the 2009 movie “The Ugly Truth.” Katherine Heigl plays Abby, a produc-er for a failing morning show. Mike, played by Gerard Butler, hosts a dating show called “The Ugly Truth. “

Through a series of coincidences, the evening before her station manager decides to offer Mike a segment

on Abby’s show, Abby watches Mike’s show. The man-ager is hoping for a much-needed ratings boost.

In their first meeting, Abby and Mike immediately dis-like to each other, but they agree to work together for the benefit of the show.

Later Abby meets Colin, the man of her dreams. Mike offers to assist her in landing him. The catch: Abby must follow Mike’s advice, and only his advice. Abby agrees. As both Abby and Mike put their plan into action, we see the unsuspecting Colin begin to fall for Abby.

Mike’s segment on Abby’s show becomes so popular he is offered a bigger gig for a nationwide competitor. Abby is sent on a business trip with Mike to convince him to stay with her network.

Abby cancels her romantic weekend with Colin. After a successful appearance on the Late, Late Show, Abby and Mike celebrate. Abby tells Mike to stay so they can save the morning show. Mike admits he doesn’t want to move because he wants to stay close to his family.

In the elevator later, Mike kisses Abby and they are both confused. Mike goes to his room. Abby arrives at her room to find Colin. Mike goes to Abby’s room where he sees Colin surprising Abby. When Abby sees Mike, she realizes Colin only likes the woman she has pretended to be, while Mike likes the real her.

Abby breaks up with Colin and shows him how needy and naive she truly is. Mike is upset over losing Abby and leaves for the another gig. The movie ends with Abby and Mike expressing their feelings for each other.

The law of attraction teaches us that “like attracts like.” By making a commitment to date adventurously, you will attract a partner who resonates the same qualities back to you. I cannot think of a happier ending than two souls who walk the path to a great adventure together.

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Ellany T. Kincross is a third-generation psychic,

sensitive, and healer who has been doing readings

for over fifteen years. She wrote "The Journey to

I Do: A Psychic's Guide to Finding the Right Rela-

tionship" from which this article is reprinted. She

began having psychic impressions and premonitions at a young

age. Her most powerful was seeing the destruction of 9/11 the

day before it happened. She is the creator of these workshops:

The Path to Reconnection, Heart of the Matter, and Cutting Psychic

Cords. www.angelicsight.com. Cell 949-226-1335 (no texts, please)

http://angelicsight.com/wordpress

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Are your days whirling by, leaving you with very little time to savor your meals? Has eating

become just another thing on your “to do” list?

You’re not alone – a majority of Americans complain they are of-ten doing something else while eating, whether driving, talking on the phone, or answering e-mails, leaving them deficient in one of the most important nutrients – the en-joyment of eating. In a time-starved society, try practicing one of the following tips per week for lasting effects to help you remain healthy while living on the fly.

1. Don’t stuff yourself

If you want to live a long, healthy life, don’t eat too much. In Japan, one of the places on

7 “Bites” to Meaningful MealsBy Deanna Minich, PhD, CN

the planet where there is a high concentration of centenarians, the popular phrase “hara hachi bu” is used – it means eat only until you are 80% full. Studies show that animals that put on long-term calorie-restricted di-ets without malnutrition live up to 60% longer and get less chronic conditions like high blood pressure, Type 2 diabe-tes, and obesity. Eating about 15% less than you’d typically eat can make the body work bet-ter and, ultimately, make it less prone to disease.

2. Make your plate an artist’s palette

The problem with modern-day eating is that either we are eat-ing a bland, brown, yellow, and white diet or we may be eating colors, but they tend to be ar-tificial It is essential we get the full rainbow variety of natural colors on our plate so we can be assured we are getting the right compounds for our bod-ies. Red foods, like tomatoes and watermelon, contain the antioxidant, lycopene, shown

to play a role in reducing the development of certain can-cers and may play be important for warding off heart problems. Orange foods like carrots are great sources of beta-carotene, a vitamin A precursor. When we eat the orange beta-caro-tene pigment, it converts to vitamin A in the body. Eating orange fruits and vegetables can help our immune system and eyes to function better. Yellow-green foods are packed with phytonutrients like lutein for eye health, chlorophyll to protect cells from damage, and folic acid, an essential nutrient for growth and development. And, finally, blue-purple foods are excellent sources of brain-protective antioxidants. Eat-ing berries can keep the mind sharp and focused. The goal is to get the artist’s palette on the plate!

3. Eat mindfully

Most people eat while they are multi-tasking, whether watching television, reading the newspaper, surfing the in-

“Oneness” by Manami Lingerfelt

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ternet, or even driving. Stud-ies show that people watching TV while eating may not eat as healthy as those who don’t. In fact, they tend to consume less fruits and vegetables and more soft drinks. People that pay at-tention to eating when they eat tend to experience less psy-chological stress, and, in turn, better metabolic shifts, like improved blood sugar control, particularly in Type 2 diabetics.

4. Don’t eat foods you can’t pronounce

Many foods are ladened with synthesized, artificial, and downright unhealthy additives. The more processed food we eat, the greater chance it con-tains a plethora of additives that have potentially unknown effects on human physiology, especially when they are cou-pled with a host of other addi-tives. Keep your foods simple, whole, unprocessed foods in their naked state --sold without the dressing of plastic, metal, cardboard, or Styrofoam. Next best are products with uncom-plicated ingredient lists that contain actual food constitu-ents you recognize rather than a load of synthetic additives. If there are some unpronounce-ables in the list, ensure they are minimal and not artificial any-thing!

5. Eat seasonally

Eating seasonally puts us in touch with our physical sur-roundings and grounds us in our environment. When we overlook seasonal eating, we are less in harmony with the natural rhythms of the planet, our hometown, and our bod-

ies. Eating seasonally connects us more deeply to the lineage of the food and supports local agriculture, ultimately reducing waste and expense. This con-cept is important considering that the average meal travels 1500 miles or more to the dinner plate. Additionally, seasonally grown food may have differ-ent quantities and/or qualities of nutrients we might not find in food brought in from other states or countries because they do are not subject to ex-tensive transportation.

6. Relax when you eat

A commonly held belief is that stress is the root of many dis-eases. The collection of the many types of stressors in our lives, whether physical stress, psychological stress, or even eating stress (eating too many of the wrong foods or eating too much) can significantly change our body’s hormones like cortisol and insulin, and ul-timately result in conditions like belly fat, metabolic syndrome, and Type 2 diabetes. One small way to quench the negative ef-fects of stress in your life is to relax when you eat, especially if you want to absorb the nutri-ents in your food. A published study showed that being re-laxed was even more impor-tant than chewing your food thoroughly when it came to di-gesting carbohydrates.

7. Don’t go on a diet

The word diet denotes depri-vation and doom. Repeated studies have shown people will lose weight on any diet – initially – and then will return somewhere back in the range

Deanna Minich, PhD,

CN, (www.foodandspir-

it.com) is a nutritionist

who sees more to food

than calories and macronutrients. She

helps guide others in using foods and

eating as tools for personal growth and

nourishment for the soul. She has written

four books on nutrition, on topics rang-

ing from food additives to dietary supple-

ments and even to the connection of food

to spirituality.

of their previous weight. Of course, there are exceptions, but for the most part, if we have the mindset of embarking on something that is temporary then our results will be short-lived. I tell patients to aim for something that stays and sticks – changing one’s life by alter-ing our thoughts and feelings about foods is more powerful because we tap into our deep connections with food and eat-ing rather than skimming the surface with calorie counting!

Although eating may seem over-whelming in light of the flurry of activity that is sweeping your life forward at full speed, downshift as much as you can with your next bite by being mindful, relaxing, and appreciating the artistic array of foods before you. By experiencing eating as fun and healthful, you’ll have more energy and good health to keep you taking a bite out of life!

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Do you remember dreaming that one day you would be a great writer, painter, or composer? Do you remember wanting to invent a remarkable new product, pitch

a perfect game, find the cure to a debilitating illness, rally the troops to save the day, become a great actress, enter the courtroom to right an injustice, or throw your hat into the political ring to make a difference? Do you remember dreaming of bringing a brood of children into the world and raising them with incredible amounts of love and consciousness? Do you remember wanting to play music or sing melodies issued from your heart? Do you remember dreaming of being a coach or a teacher, a dancer, choreographer, cook, carpenter or fisherman, an astronaut or mountain climber, a religious or spiritual leader, a humanitarian or a healer?

Perhaps in your case, you did not know exactly what you wanted to do with your life, but you felt a longing you could not put a name to, a restless tug to do some-thing more and different than others around you were doing.

Perhaps both of these things were and still are some-times true for you - specific longings to do or express

I t’s Never Too Late (or Too Soon) to Live Your DreamBy George and Sedena Cappannelli

yourself in a given way or a restlessness that issues from not knowing quite what you want to do or how. If this is true for you, then we invite you to spend a few moments with us exploring the possibility that the next stage of your journey not only can be more satisfying and rewarding, but also more in alignment with the dream you came here to manifest.

The first step we recommend in this exploration is to take time to be alone, time to listen to some of the hints and promptings that come from that still small voice within you. If you are willing to take this first step, we believe you will soon discover this longing, this dream you once had is still very much alive inside you. We also believe you will discover that by directing your atten-tion to that place where your dream still lives, you will either rediscover or discover the beginning of a path-way that can, no matter how old or young you are, lead you to live more of the life you were born to live.

The Power of Your Dream

Our personal experience confirms the fact that when we are in touch with our personal dream and stay true to its call, stay true to what is called our destiny, we are not only more creative, impassioned, and energetic, but also more involved in our lives, connected to oth-

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ers and in tune with the natural rhythms of life. When we are in touch with our dream, we are also more con-cerned about the well-being of others, this planet, and all of the species that reside here. In short, in our ex-perience, being in touch with our dream is an essential key to living more consciously and aging wisely and to fulfilling what we call our spiritual promise or heritage.

For more than 30 years, we have been experimenting with and testing this premise not only in our personal lives, but also through our work with hundreds of ma-jor organizations and with thousands of individuals who have attended our organizational and public pro-grams. During this time, we have come to verify that those who are in touch with and living even portions of their dream are more content, impassioned, engaged, loving, healthy, and successful. In addition, following the call of our dream is not just important to us as in-dividuals, it appear to be equally essential to the grand scheme of things.

Yes, our dreams hold a blueprint for a unique and suc-cessful life, in fact, for the precise life many of us long for and believe somewhere in our hearts is possible. And yet it may not be and often is not the life we are living. We could, of course, spend months exploring why this is true. But in the end, we believe what mat-ters most is not why, but what we can do to correct this misalignment.

Our exploration indicates this blueprint is often as close as the longing we feel our hearts. Indeed, we have discovered it doesn’t matter whether it has been days or decades since we last paid any attention to our dream, it is always there, as close as our next breath.

If you have been faithful to your dream you know this to be true and we applaud and celebrate your efforts. But then again, our applause is unnecessary for you al-ready know the value of the journey that was written indelibly in your heart long ago.

If you have not yet been as faithful to your dream as you have wanted to be then you also know or, at the very least, sense what we are saying is true. For we know that you, like us, periodically receive, sometimes quietly, sometimes insistently, those whispers, prods, prompts, and even demands that you pay more atten-tion from that still small voice within.

So here in this moment we invite you to pause and take

a little time to touch that place in your heart where your dream still resides. We ask you to get quiet enough to hear what that still small voice is saying so that you, too, can once again regain that glint in your eye, that spring in your step, and that flow of loving that is not just a possibility, but your right and privilege as a spiritual being who is currently having this physical experience called life.

No matter what your experience has been, whether it has been the hot, dedicated pursuit of a dream that has been clear and compelling for a long time or whether you turn away and are now living with that restlessness, knowing there was or is something else, something you sense is more inspiring that you want to do. We invite you to lean back in your chair, close your eyes, and for just a few moments go to that quiet place inside you not limited by the boundaries of physical time or practi-cal considerations.

Please do not just read these last few paragraph and move on. Stop, take a few, slow deep breaths, and give yourself the gift of getting back in touch with your dream. You will, we know, be deeply grateful to your-self for doing so. You will be taking your next steps to honoring what the poet Mary Oliver has called, “this one wild and precious thing called your life.”

There are, of course, numerous techniques that can as-sist you to get in touch with this inner experience. Dif-

ferent forms of slow, focused breath-ing; various reflective and meditative practices; the use of mantras and simple phrases spoken on the out-breath and the in-breath; a walk in a favorite woodland; a run along a wild and beautiful beach; moments spent

gazing into the innocent eyes of your child, or that re-markable being you are spending your life with. Any and all of these practices and a host of others will do. Whatever allows you to connect to your heart and be available to the guidance that comes from within you - anything that allows you to remember your dream, is perfect.

Even if this first re-connection to your dream is only a vague sense, a hint of a direction, the barest impulse, or a fleeting image, allow yourself to glimpse it, sense it, feel it. Do not hold on too tightly or be disappointed if it does not materialize as a complete game plan for the rest of your life. Let it unfold in whatever way is ap-

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“Our dreams hold a blueprint for a unique and successful life...”

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propriate and for which you are ready. Touch into that special reservoir of energy that is your dream and let it evoke in you the beginnings of a renewed sense of hope, purpose, and passion.

If by chance you find yourself suddenly feeling the im-pulse to blow the dust off those paintbrushes; open the cover of the piano or your toolbox; or dig out that note-book you tucked away on the bottom bookshelf of a bookcase that is full of ideas for a humanitarian project, business venture, or novel you once wanted to create, then go ahead.

Truly, no matter how old you are or what you have cho-sen to do thus far in your life to earn your daily bread, if you give yourself permission to touch even the edges of that dream that lives inside you, we are confident that you will experience a sense of rightness, of align-ment with something that is deeply familiar.

Of course, you may also experience pangs of regret for not listening to that still small voice more often and lis-tening instead to those who said you had to be reason-able and responsible, that you needed to find a practi-cal and proven way to support yourself, and eventually, perhaps, a family. Don’t let that regret stop you from re-connecting to your dream. Keep following the hints and impulses. Stay in touch with that sense of align-ment and naturalness and let it be your guide.

How can you be sure you are at the right place, the place where your dream resides? You’ll know. So wel-come it. Be grateful to it for the fact that the light of wonder and longing is alive and well inside of you. You may also want to keep this re-connection private for a while. You know what they say about protecting vulner-able beginnings. Hold it sacred and nurture it, and above all, be willing to allow these first moments, these new re-connections to grow stronger and come more alive inside of you.

If you do not know where these first hints or images will lead you or how to bring them more to life, let that be okay. The only thing that matters now is your will-ingness, availability, and openness. The only thing that matters now is you honor this re-connection and allow these first stirring to lead you step by step toward that greater unfoldment of the life you were born to live.

We celebrate your courage in taking these steps and leave you with a remarkable quote from Oriah Moun-tain Dreamer, the author of The Invitation. We also

leave you with our sincere hope you will also keep some of encouragement we offer and extraordinary words from this gifted writer close to your heart. And most of all, we hope you will celebrate the very distinct, special and unique notes you and only you have to come to this earth to add to the great song that is life.

“It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dreams, for the adventure of being alive.”

George and Sedena Cappan-

nelli are co-authors of "Do

Not Go Quietly, A Guide To

Living Consciously and Ag-

ing Wisely For People Who

Weren't Born Yesterday" (Hay House, 2013). They are also co-

founders of AgeNation, a digital media company dedicated to

informing, inspiring and engaging Boomers and elders on the

challenges and opportunities in a world in which 50% of our

population will be over 50 for the first time in history.

They are experts on individual, organizational and society change

and they have been assisting and inspiring hundreds of the pre-

mier organizations in the private, public and non-profit sectors as

well as thousands of leaders and people in the general public to

accomplish their objectives for more than 25 years.

They have written another book, "Say Yes To Change and Authen-

ticity," and they have recently launched the World Council of Wis-

dom Keepers that include such notables as Jean Houston, Ram

Dass, Angeles Arrien, Barbara Marx Hubbard, Michael Meade, Dr.

Gladys McGarey and Reverend Michael Bernard Beckwith.

For information, visit: www.DoNotGoQuietlyTheBook.com and

www.AgeNation.com.

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This workshop will increase the power and scope of your Reiki abilities. In this workshop you will learn the Reiki II symbols and how to use them, how to heal unwanted habits, distant healing, more Japanese Healing Techniques and the Level II Attunement. “Reiki the Healing Touch” manuals made available as needed. ICRT Practitioner’s Certificate awarded.

Universal Healing Touch Level 3 with Deborah Shea Three-day Course Meets: Dates in 2014 to be announced. Donation of $333 for class & certifica-tionThis course dives even deeper into transformational and personal work where you will learn about Celestial and Ketheric layer diseases, imbalances and more….

Advanced Reiki Training with Tony Giuf-freda, ICRT Reiki Master One-day Course Offered on August 11th or December 8th. Meets from 10am to 6pm. Pre-requisite: Reiki Level 1 and 2 (any instructor). This course is a requirement for Reiki Master. Donation of $225 for class & certificationThis ART Level workshop includes Reiki meditation, the use of crystals with Reiki & how to make a Reiki grid, the Usui Master symbol, and the Usui Master attunement. You will receive an Advanced Reiki Manual. ICRT ART Certificate awarded.

Crystals Healing Arts with Deborah Shea Every Thursday 7:30pm to 9:30pm. Donation of $25 per class (Certification Option: Donation of $100, completion of 40 sessions and demonstration of ability)Each week learn how to use and tune into a different crystal & the methods of application. Learn how these amaz-ing tools can be put to use in every day life.

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Two-day Course offered on August 17th & 18, or Decem-ber 14th & 15th. Meets from 10am to 6pm. Pre-requisite: Reiki Level 1, 2 & Advanced Reiki Training (from any instructor) Dona-tion of $650 for class & certification

This Master/Teacher Level workshop includes two Tibetan symbols, the Usui/Tibetan Master attunement, The Healing Attunement process, instruction on how to give attunements for ALL levels of Reiki, self-attun-ement, and time to practice. You will receive a Master/Teacher Manual. ICRT Reiki Master Certificate awarded.

Weekly ongoing classes can be joined at any time and will continue in 2014.

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Myths that Kill, Myths that Heal:Storytelling YourselfBy Gahl E. Sassoon

At just five-years-old, I encountered the dark side of storytelling. It was during the Yom Kippur

War (1973), when Israel waged war with several neighboring Arab countries. I remember looking out my window seeing war planes cross the sky when my mother shouted for me to run to the shelter. I took it rather personally that people I didn’t know were trying to kill me.

While my family huddled in the bomb shelter, I asked my mother (my father was fighting in the Go-lan Heights) the reason for the con-flict. She tried her best to convey 3000 years of history—how various religions and nations had all come to believe that this particular slice of turf had been promised to each one of them. I remember feeling terribly confused and asking, “If everyone loves this land so much, why does it create so much hate?”

I never got an answer. My mother had other things to worry about. I think that on that day the seed of my career was sown, the inciting in-cident that later sprouted into what I do today, finding the commonali-

ties among all cultures and religions and battling those who overly mag-nify the differences. Maybe that is why I travel the world teaching and sharing stories from different my-thologies to people from diverse religions.

Jews, Muslims, and Christians all claim they are the true inheritors of the Patriarch Abraham’s (mean-ing of name, Father of Nations) legacy. However, a close reading of the book Genesis shows that Abraham had nothing but a spiri-tual bequest to leave after him. The only land he ever purchased in the so-called promised Land was a cave he bought in which to bury his wife. In fact, he paid 400 Shekel for it (about $100 in today’s exchange rate).

How symbolic that the only real thing Abraham left for his sons to fight over is a place of death, deep in the bosom of the Underworld. Death, indeed.

In 1929, sixty-seven Jews and nine Arabs were killed in a massacre car-ried out by Arabs. In 1994, an Amer-ican-Jew shot twenty-nine Palestin-ians.

That childhood war story demon-strated that while some myths can kill, others can heal. Storytelling is a powerful tool encoded in our DNA, a gift bequeathed to human-ity by whatever or whoever cre-ated us. Darwinism describes that we evolved from Homo-Habilis, the tool-making hominid.

However, I suspect the first tools we created were not sharp stones and flints, but rather words weaved into sentences, a tapestry of sto-ries—legends told around the fire by early tribal elders. These stories helped us to survive, build societ-ies, and pass down vital informa-tion from one generation to the next.

The New Testament asserts that “God is the Word” and Kabbalah proclaims that “God created the universe” with a story! Since Gen-esis tells us we are created in the image of God, we, too, can create a richer life by constructing deeper, more meaningful stories.

Life has taught me that practicing this transcendent gift of storytell-ing on a daily basis can improve the

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quality of our lives. When people ask, “How are you?” don’t just mut-ter “Fine.”

Instead, tell them a good story, find and relate a synchronicity, a joke, or a moving tale. Thus, you practice being more like God, the ultimate storyteller.

...In thirty-two most hidden and wonderful paths of wisdom did JAH the Lord of Hosts engrave his name...He created this universe by the three books: Number, Stories, and Com-munication.

1:1 Sefer Yetzirah – The Book of Cre-ation (Attributed to Abraham)

The Holy-Writ’s style and method-ology gave birth to the rules and structure of movie scripting. For ex-ample, what in Hollywood is called the character’s-arc or the protago-

nist’s transformation is illustrated by the concept of redemption in the Bible.

Jacob starts his life as a liar and thief. He steals a blessing from his twin brother, but ends his life as a wise mystic and sage.

In the Bible you will find many les-sons that are funny, quirky, pro-found, and intense, even if you don’t believe God wrote it. The ancient scripture, most likely com-piled and written 2500 years ago, can still help us understand our lives today.

So please, remember to story-tell yourself into happiness. Since we all one day (this lifetime or anoth-er) will attain enlightenment and return to light, all our stories are bound to have a happy end…

Gahl Sasson is an

established author

and has been teach-

ing workshops on

Kabbalah, Astrol-

ogy, and Mysticism

around the globe for

over a decade. His first book, "A Wish

Can Change Your Life," has been trans-

lated into over seven languages and is

endorsed by HH the 14th Dalai Lama.

His latest work, "Cosmic Navigator," is

the essential reference guide to under-

standing your astrological makeup.

He writes for the Huffington Post, Astrol-

ogy.com, and appeared on Infinite Quest.

He teaches at Esalen, Omega Institute,

and the Open Center in NYC. He has ap-

peared on CNN, ABC News, KTLA-TV

Los Angeles among other television sta-

tions. He currently resides in Los Ange-

les, but tours regularly throughout North

America, Europe, and Asia. His web site

is www.CosmicNavigator.com

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I’ve spent much of my life seeking peace. I’ve explored the world’s spiritual and mystic traditions: living in a Zen Buddhist monastery, meditating in ashrams and temples throughout India and the

Far East, and teaching English to Tibetan Buddhist Nuns in Dharamsala. I’ve also worked with some of today’s great teachers, including Deepak Chopra, Byron Katie, Debbie Ford, and Gary Zukav.

Though many say I’m blessed to have had all of these fantastic experiences, and I am, I realize the way to truly finding peace has nothing to do with where I’ve traveled, with whom I’ve worked, or what I’ve accom-plished. Instead, I discovered the key to peace isn’t somewhere else or in another time or place, the key to peace is hidden in plain sight, right here, right now. You see, what I had been looking for all along, was what was looking, here and now.

Though the outside world may influence, delight, or stress you out, underneath all the buzz, there’s a cen-ter of ever-present calm and peacefulness you can find inside yourself, anytime. And all you have to do is pay attention to it, tune into it.

As you read the words on this page, turn your atten-tion to the one who’s reading them: the one who is experiencing your life. For a moment, you’ll have a di-rect experience of your true essence. This aspect of you is ever-present. Some people call it your true na-ture others say it’s your soul or your spirit. If you turn your attention inward, often, you will deeply know this peaceful part of you and align your choices with this center-point of peace, transcending the external mea-sures of this world. I call this alignment, this awareness being soul-centered.

Reclaim Your Power!By Sarah McLean

This aspect of you is also the source of your attention. Your attention arises from your soul. The kind of atten-tion I am talking about is your natural, non-judgmental, welcoming, loving attention. And your attention is powerful – full of power. It energizes and enlivens all things in your life. What you pay attention to and how you pay attention is how you use your power. When you take charge of what you are paying attention to, you can reclaim your power. Following are ways to do just that.

Determine how you focus.

Are you present to what is actually happening in your life and what’s going on around you, or are you distract-ed and multitasking? If you find you’re often not paying attention to what’s going on, or how you are feeling, or even your own intuition, but are instead focused on the past or the future, you can change this.

First, make a choice to refocus your attention back to the moment at hand. This is called a practice of mind-fulness, a practice of engaging your senses to what you are doing and experiencing in the present moment, without judgment. Mindfulness helps to train your at-tention to do one thing at a time and keep your atten-tion in the present moment – and engaged in your life so you can savor it.

Also, when you are attuned to the present moment, you have access to your wisdom and intuition. When you are engaged in the moment at hand, you’ll become more self-aware, find inspiration, and access your cre-ativity. You’ll be guided to make better choices.

Choose to spend time in this moment. You can do it. This moment now is when your life is.

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Notice what captures your attention.

Your attention is your power. You only have so much attention and you can take your power back by training your attention. Instead of being distracted from what you want, just think of all the advertisements, logos, or demands on your life, you can become more mindful about what you pay attention to. Train yourself to be alert to what you want to experience in your life, de-termining what you want to pay attention to, what you want to see and experience.

Whatever you focus your attention on is enlivened in your life, once you determine what that is, pay atten-tion and keep your eyes out for it. Sometimes what cap-tures your attention is something from the outside, and other times it can be a habit of mind. It’s a simple shift in perception. For example, rather than looking for what’s wrong, choose to see what’s right. Notice how life is happening for you rather than to you. Look for beauty rather than suffering. Decide what you want to enliven in your life. Whatever your focus, when you re-claim your attention, you reclaim your power.

Be more self-aware.

During the day, turn your attention inward to feel the sensations within your body and the sensations of breathing. As you do, you’ll become more attuned to the present moment and become more self-aware. Experience all sensations, not just the good ones; this helps you to keep the stress level down. If you feel un-comfortable, unloved, or unhappy, don’t distract your-self, or talk yourself into something else. Instead, feel all of your feelings. Choose to meet life with an open mind: instead of assigning labels, judgments, or letting preconceived notions stand in your way of feeling your feelings, or seeing clearly, take on a beginner’s mind, a clear mind, as you experience life as it is. You’ll no-tice your body’s responses to the choices you are faced with. Your body and breath don’t lie.

Be nicer to yourself.

Give yourself the loving attention you seek. How do you feel about you? How are you treating others? What do you say to yourself over and over? Instead of focus-ing on how others treat you or feel about you, or trying to please or compare yourself to others, notice your in-ternal dialogue and sweeten it up. Honor yourself and others by being truly honest with yourself and them. In-

stead of saying yes when you mean no, or no when you mean yes, tell the truth. Take your power back by stay-ing in your integrity - say what you mean and choose more nourishing situations or environments, whether it’s the company you keep, the food you eat, or the en-vironment you are in.

Time out for a time in.

Give yourself time every day for meditation. Choose a simple practice that will allow you to turn your atten-tion inward and connect with the source of your atten-tion. Meditation will help you to focus more clearly, be more present to the moment at hand, and be more self-aware, so you can focus on what you want to focus on.

Meditation also helps you to take your power back from your dependence on the ever-changing external world and stuff, including your environment, posses-sions, successes, failures, and other people’s opinions. Instead, you will be more soul-centered as you discover who you truly are, what you truly feel, what you really want, what truly matters to you, and where your true source of happiness lies.

It is possible to take your power back by becoming aware of how you pay attention, choosing what you pay attention to, becoming more self-aware, being kinder to yourself, and regularly connecting to the source of your attention. Becoming aware of your awareness gives you the key to experiencing peace, joy, fulfillment and creativity. You don’t even have to leave your living room to do it.

Sarah McLean, best-selling Hay House author of

"Soul-Centered: Transform Your Life in 8 Weeks

with Meditation," inspires one to deepen their

own contemplative and meditation practice, and

maintain awareness of their centerpoint of peace,

equanimity, and joy.

She was the founding program director of the Chopra Center for

Wellbeing in California, and also served as the director for the

School for the Work of Byron Katie, and now directs the McLean

Meditation Institute (MMI) for Transformative Meditation Training

in Sedona, Arizona. MMI offers meditation classes, self-discovery

retreats, and a teacher certification program so anyone can learn

to meditate and discover the keys to becoming more self-aware, vi-

brant, confident, powerful, intuitive, and compassionate. Download

free meditations at www.McLeanMeditation.com.

Photo Credit: Janise Witt

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My wife’s voice, on the phone, was panicked.

“What’s wrong?” I asked.

“Stay there,” she said. “I’m coming home.”

“Is it bad?”

“Yes, it’s bad.”

In the 20 minutes it took for Lynda to arrive, I sat on the porch trying to imagine what had happened. Was it about illness? Work? Money?

Lynda pulled into the driveway, and I followed her inside. She looked me in the eye for a split second, then looked away.

“I’m having an affair,” she said. “I don’t think I can stop.”

There it was. The single thing I had never considered.

For the next three months, as we separated, I was utterly lost. Every moment felt like a punch in the gut. I knew there was something I need-ed to do with my pain, but what? I asked a friend, an ex-Zen monk, who said, “Nothing. Do absolutely

nothing to change how you feel. Every time your mind tries to figure this out, just reel it back in. Every time you’re tempted by distraction, stay put and pay close attention.”

My friend’s advice sounded excru-ciating, but it also struck a chord. I decided to try it, to just sit in the soup of my suffering. I lived that way for another three months.

Then one day during my morning meditation, I had a mysterious flash of grace: I was filled with peace, joy, and a love beyond comprehension. My circumstances hadn’t changed, yet everything felt completely dif-ferent. I thought it might be a reac-tion to all the pain, like a pendulum swinging, but I never swung back the other way.

It’s been seven years now, and whenever I tell this story, people ask, “Are you saying you live in a state of bliss all the time?” The an-swer, of course, is no. It’s always available to me, but I’m not always available to it.

Over time, I began to investigate what brought me toward that won-

derful state, and what steered me away from it. As I shared my obser-vations, it became clear that what I found within myself also applied to others. Whenever something happens in our lives that we don’t want, we instinctively push it away. This is true of both the smallest an-noyance, like a mosquito, and the greatest misery, like the death of a loved one. Such a contraction can be physical, emotional, mental, or all three. Contractions are as natu-ral as they are unavoidable. But when we stay contracted past the initial response, that’s resistance—a decision to say no to reality. Resis-tance can last just a few moments or a lifetime.

Whether conscious or not, resis-tance is always a choice. Over-weight? Can’t bear to look in the mirror. Dead-end job? Zone out till quitting time. Appalled by the state of the world? Boycott the nightly news. The more we resist, the more stuck we become. And what we refuse to feel never goes away;

Two Questions that can Change Your LifeBy Raphael Cushnir

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it festers. Resistance causes us to abandon our bodies, the present moment, and any chance of chang-ing things for the better.

Resistance is like stepping on a hose with all our might and command-ing the water to flow. But if we can simply step off the hose and allow the water of our reactions to flow through us, we eventually arrive at a state of expansion. While on the surface this may seem passive, it’s anything but. In an expanded state, we’re freer, more creative, and bet-ter able to break through barriers.

The more I began to talk about re-leasing resistance, the more people asked me how to do it in real time—when traffic was backed up, the baby was screaming, or the same old argument was spinning out of control. In response I conceived the simple process called Living the Questions. Simple, but not easy. It takes courage, practice, and a will-ingness to open where we’re ha-bitually closed.

The initial step is to become aware of what we’re resisting and de-cide whether we even want to let go. If we do, there are only two questions to ask. The first is: What is happening right now? In asking, we pay specific at-tention to the sensations in our bodies and any emotions associ-ated with them. Instead of look-ing for an answer, we just allow what’s there to make itself known.

The second question is: Can I be with it? To be with what’s happen-ing means embracing whatever we find with no agenda whatsoever. In the expansion that follows, what’s been trapped is free to chart its own course.

A few months ago, I met with a 40-year-old woman named Susan who hated her job as a home health aid. She judged herself harshly for her feelings, but realized she’d never feel successful until she had a flashy, executive position. At the same time, she felt paralyzed by the prospect of career change. A job counselor friend kept offering to help, but she was too tense to schedule a meeting.

Susan greeted me with a healthy dose of skepticism. “Look,” she said. “I feel my feelings. I read plen-ty of self-help. How can something so basic as these two questions get me over such a big block?”

Rather than provide a conceptual response, I suggested we dive right in. “Focus on your work dilemma,” I said, “with all its intense frustra-tion. Let it fill you up. Now, with particular attention on your body, tell me what is happening right now?”

Susan closed her eyes and took a deep breath. After a few moments she responded, “There’s a tight-

ness in my chest. And my jaw’s clenched.”

“Can you be with it?” I asked. “Not the whole issue—just the tightness and the clenching. For this moment only, can you accept with 100 per-cent of your being that it’s actually happening? You don’t have to like it. You don’t have to give up your

desire to change it. All you have to do is open to it completely.”

Susan shrugged, decided to give it a try. For a minute or so I sat with her in stillness. Then I repeated the first question. “What is happening right now?”

“I’m angry,” she said. “At myself for being stuck, at the people I work with… at life.”

I sensed we were getting closer to her core resistance but weren’t there yet. So I asked Susan to be with that anger and see where it led. I watched her face redden and her whole body go rigid. Then she abruptly pulled out of the experi-ence.

“Why am I doing this?” she protest-ed. “It makes me feel what a failure I am. That’s exactly what I don’t want.”

I explained to Susan how she’d reached a point that can trip up even the most emotionally literate. We’re often willing to feel difficult feelings, but only for a brief period before contracting against them. This creates the illusion of emo-

tional flow while preventing real shifts. To expand fully means allowing emotions to rise and fall, to come and go in their own time. Even though it can feel like forever, letting go of resistance in this manner always yields the quickest result.

“Wait a minute,” Susan said. “Are you saying the best way for me to become successful is to feel more like a failure?”

“At first, yes. Because that sense of failure is what you’ve resisted for so long. Opening to it is the only way out.”

Susan hesitated, then realized there was little to lose. She settled

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“There’s sadness,” she said, “most-ly in my throat. And I feel young. Really, really young.”

Soon Susan was crying, at first just a few tears, then big, racking sobs. Eventually, the crying subsided, and for the first time I could feel Susan’s vitality, her presence. She could, too.

“Okay, now I get it,” she said softly. “No more pushing it away. I still feel sad, but also hopeful. More…real.”

“What about the job issue?” I asked. “From this place, could you meet your career counselor friend?”

Susan thought about it for a mo-ment, nodded, and we both knew she was on her way.

Months later, I checked in to see how she was doing. “I’m still search-ing for the right job,” she said. “But the sense of failure lifted quickly. It’s like I can finally accept my own worth. So, to be honest, the job change doesn’t seem as pressing.”

For most of us, the first time we shift from resistance to expansion just by accepting what’s already happening, there’s a similar “aha.” Once that occurs, and we’re moti-vated to continue with self-inquiry, we see we’re in some degree of resistance almost all the time. A pounding headache, money woes, other people’s opinions—there’s no end to what we resist. Every-where we turn, there’s another op-portunity to inquire and open.

While no quick fix, Living the Ques-tions is self-inquiry at its most prac-tical and immediate. After a few days of practice, the questions be-gin to function at a level deeper than language. We no longer need to recite them. Instead they be-come our essential attitude.

There are, however, three subtle ways to undermine the process. The first is by analyzing—instead of asking what is happening right now, we get stuck trying to figure out why. This creates a false expec-tation, abetted by our cognitive culture, that understanding feel-ings will make them go away. Sure there’s a time for analysis, but only after we’ve embraced our emotion-al reality. Otherwise, we struggle to untangle that hose while stepping on it even harder.

The second way to undermine the process is by judging—we decide something is wrong with what’s happening. Whether we find fault with others or ourselves, judging is an impediment to presence.

The third way is by bargaining, pre-tending to be with what’s happen-ing to make it change as quickly as possible. This attempt to outfox re-ality bars us from real acceptance.

Once we’re able to steer clear of analyzing, judging, and bargaining, the questions become a powerful tool for navigating life’s challenges.

Regarding my marriage, the deci-sion to end it came with complete acceptance about two years after the initial separation. The timing al-lowed me to take full responsibility for my role in the trauma, gave Lyn-da the opportunity to find her own healing path, and helped us remain the closest of friends.

Everything I learned on my jour-ney turns out to be nothing new. I stumbled onto an insight at the root of all the world’s great wisdom traditions: what we resist persists. When we summon the courage to release that resistance, we find joy that endures not in spite of our sor-rows, but paradoxically right along with them.

Raphael Cushnir is

a leading voice in

the world of emo-

tional connection

and present moment

awareness. He is the author of six books,

lectures worldwide, and has shared his

unique approach to personal and pro-

fessional development with millions of

readers in "O," The Oprah Magazine,

Beliefnet, "Spirituality and Health," "Psy-

chology Today," and The Huffington Post.

Raphael's own heart was opened by an

experience of profound grief. He will be

presenting his workshop, The One Thing

Holding You Back: Unleashing the Power

of Emotional Connection, at the Esalen

Institute, in Big Sur, May 17-19. For

more info: cushnir.com

AN INVITATION Please join us

every Sunday for a Kirtan Circle from 9:30 to 10:30 a.m.

The Sunday gather-ings

will be held from 11:00 a.m. until

12:30 p.m. with tea and food served afterward.

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Intuition, Healing & Consciousness Skill Building ClassesEVENT DESCRIPTION INSTRUCTOR DAYS TIME DONATIONS

Crystal Healing - Laying on of Stones Workshop

In this workshop you will learn where and how to properly place crystals on the 7 main

energy centers/ chakras of the body. All participants receive certificate of

completion and attunement.

Deborah Shea Sunday, May 5 1pm - 5pm $45 prepaid or $56 at the door

Commanding Wealth Circle Using your theta brain wave along with the proven success of The One Command, You will be guided

past obstacles to create a new financial reality.

Breianne Pryse Sundays (1st) May 5 & June 2

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Conscious Intimacy & Sexuality for the 21st Century

TBA Rev. Ayanna Mojica

Mondays, May 6 & May 13

7pm - 9pm $22 per class

The Great Awakening Learn how to or just observe Channeling in a semi-trance state.

Steve Lesko, PhD Tuesdays (1st & 3rd) May 7 & 21, June 4

& 18

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Reiki Share/Healing Journey Reiki Attunements, Drumming, Meditation, Chanting, Singing Bowls

Tony Giuffreda Wednesdays (All) 7pm - 9pm FREE

Shamangelic Healing Ceremony

Intimate group healing ceremony (12 person limit) is a full shamanic journey. With crystal singing

bowls, Reiki energy work and invocations.

Hosted by Tony Guiffreda;

Featuring: Amoraea

Saturday, May 18 7:30pm - 10pm $44

Good Vibrations: Body & Soul Awakening

Chakra Workshop Desiree Lee Saturday, May 25 2:30pm - 4:30pm $35 prepaid or $40 at the door

Meditation Energetics Guided meditation that will teach you how to utilize your own inner guidance systems

and connect with your guides.

Rev. Mother Kathy Saturdays (2nd & 4th)

May 25, June 8 & 22 (No class May 11)

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Music, Sound, Dance & Movement for Your Emotional & Physical HealthEVENT DESCRIPTION INSTRUCTOR DAYS TIME DONATIONSIntegrative Dance A movement journey of emotions, feeling

and exploration for unlocking the soul. (No experience necessary other than willing

to let go and relax with ease)

John Salat Sundays (1st) May 5 & June 2

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Sacred Movement Lab A movement class for body, mind and soul. A space to be authentic and let go into a state of presence where movement is organic and free. Dancers of all physical abilities are welcome.

Jennifer Lothrigel Sundays (2nd) May 12 & June 9

5pm - 6:30pm $15

Dance Artistry & Self Expression

Inducing an altered state through hypnotherapy, you are guided to remove emotional blocks

through graceful dance movements.

Renee Devereaux, MS

Sundays (3rd) May 19 & June 16

1pm - 2pm $10

Divine Openings Enlightenment Initiation & Healing Circle

Opening your 7 major energy centers increasing the flow of Divine energy through all the chakras.

Ngoc Luzardo Thursday, May 16 7pm - 9:30pm $30 per session

Sound Healing Journey Ancient sacred instrument didgeridoo is used to create healing vibrations. This is a deeply

transformational experience that is unique to each participant's personal journey.

Seth Pincus Fridays (3rd) May 17 w/Rev Ayanna Mojica on Chiron Gong and

June 21

7pm - 9pm $15 prepaid and $20 at the door

QiGong Healing & Meditation Releases tension in the body, mind, and spirit. Helpts to relieve many unresolved physical, emotional, and spiritual issues and illnesses

Sun Yoo Saturdays (2nd) May 11 & June 8

2:30pm-3:45 pm Donations welcome

Drum for Joy Circle Groove & harmonize with rhythms from West Africa & the Middle East

Pam Nishikawa & Winnie Rafael

Saturdays (3rd)May 18 & June 15

7pm-9pm $10

Workshops & Classes

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Check out all the links in this magazine atwww.RadianceMagazine.org

United Conscious Community Interfaith MeetingsEVENT DESCRIPTION INSTRUCTOR DAYS TIME DONATIONS

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instruments and voice.

Joshua Bowser & Lemia

Astarabadi

Sundays 9:30am - 10:30am

Suggested love donation $5

Sunday Gathering Sound Healing, Guided Meditation, Inspirational Message, Channeled

Healing Meditation and Closing Kirtan Song.

Rev. Danielle Marie & Seth

Pincus

Sundays 11am - 12:30pm

Suggested love donation

$5-$10

Book Club Divine Spiritual Wisdom

Explore powerful and sacred Divine Spiritual Wisdom. We will read Code of the Masters, Lifting the

Veil, Divine Doctor, Alchemy of Love relationships, and Healing Fire

of the Sun by Dr. Joseph Michael Levry.

Joshua Bowser & Lemia

Astarabadi

Mondays 5:30pm - 6:30pm

Love donations welcome!

Ananda Meditation Experience the joy of meditation in a relaxed and supportive setting with sincere like-minded souls interested in meditating, learning, sharing, and

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Laura Cohen Thursdays 7:30pm-9pm Suggested love donation $5

Yoga at the Temple!EVENT DESCRIPTION INSTRUCTOR DAYS TIME DONATIONSNaam Yoga Evenings Naam Yoga combines the ancient

and powerful sciences of yoga with Universal Kabbalah.

Senior Discount available!

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Mondays and Wednesdays

6:30pm-8pm $15 per session or $130 for 10

Naam Yoga Mornings Naam Yoga combines the ancient and powerful sciences of yoga with

Universal Kabbalah. Senior Discount available!

Lemia Astarabadi &

Joshua Bowser

Tuesdays and Thursdays

9:30am - 11am

$15 per session or $130 for 10

Spiritual Yoga for Healing This restorative Yoga incorporates movement, sound, essential oils

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Dina Kleiman Tuesdays 12pm - 1pm $12

Beyond the Lotus Yoga Enjoy a beautiful Yoga experience for all levels. Honor yourself with a calm

and healing hour of Yoga.

Karen Youssefzadeh

Thursdays 6:30pm - 7:45pm

$15

Workshops & Classes

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Personal Development, Networking & EducationEVENT DESCRIPTION INSTRUCTOR DAYS TIME DONATIONS

Holistic Healing Fair

Healers, vendors, vegan food, live music and/or DJ. Come stay all day!

Temple of Light Spiritual

Community

Saturdays (1st) May 4

12 - 5pm FREE

Exploring the work of Eckhart Tolle

Meditation, discussion, Q&A, idea sharing and relaxation. Children welcome!

Jason Clark Saturdays 5pm - 7pm FREE

Growing Your Conjure: The Foundations of Growing, Knowing, Healing and Revealing Your Spirit

Orion will share the elements of conjure that aid all who seek its wisdom in claiming

the shape of their lives. Limited seating available. RSVP to Mary Stuart E-mail: [email protected] or 714-321-3395

Orion Foxwood

Monday, May 6 7pm - 10pm $30 prepaid $35 at the door

Celebrate Your Radiance

An event dedicated to the +55 citizens in our community. Holistic healers donate their

time and provide FREE healings all day.

Healthy Living Club at Laguna

Woods

Saturdays (2nd) May 11 & June 8

10am - 2pm FREE

Honoring the Divine Mother Celebration

Live music, sound healing, essential oil ritual for the sacred lunar energy, belly dancers, vendors, vegetarian food, community, and

celebration!

Joshua and Lemia

Saturday, May 11

6pm - 10pm $21 per person, Mom's are free!

Cobra's New Society Conference

Creating the foundation of a new society that will exist after the Event. If you want to be a leader, simply choose yourself and join us! Those with expertise in leadership, healing, media, art, new technologies, finance, law, spirituality and all other aspects of life are

welcome to attend. To register: www.portal2012.org/Laguna.html

Rob Potter Friday, Saturday & Sunday,

May 24 - 26

$300 prepaid or $325 at the door

New Earth Expo

Sign up for the mailing list, when you receive an e-mail confirming your e-mail address, a window will appear with your FREE passes,

and then you print it! www.newearthexpo.net

Dean Price Saturday, June 1 10am - 6pm General Admission $10, FREE PASSES

available

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Personal Development, Networking & EducationEVENT DESCRIPTION INSTRUCTOR DAYS TIME DONATIONS

Holistic Healing Fair

Healers, vendors, vegan food, live music and/or DJ. Come stay all day!

Temple of Light Spiritual

Community

Saturdays (1st) May 4

12 - 5pm FREE

Exploring the work of Eckhart Tolle

Meditation, discussion, Q&A, idea sharing and relaxation. Children welcome!

Jason Clark Saturdays 5pm - 7pm FREE

Growing Your Conjure: The Foundations of Growing, Knowing, Healing and Revealing Your Spirit

Orion will share the elements of conjure that aid all who seek its wisdom in claiming

the shape of their lives. Limited seating available. RSVP to Mary Stuart E-mail: [email protected] or 714-321-3395

Orion Foxwood

Monday, May 6 7pm - 10pm $30 prepaid $35 at the door

Celebrate Your Radiance

An event dedicated to the +55 citizens in our community. Holistic healers donate their

time and provide FREE healings all day.

Healthy Living Club at Laguna

Woods

Saturdays (2nd) May 11 & June 8

10am - 2pm FREE

Honoring the Divine Mother Celebration

Live music, sound healing, essential oil ritual for the sacred lunar energy, belly dancers, vendors, vegetarian food, community, and

celebration!

Joshua and Lemia

Saturday, May 11

6pm - 10pm $21 per person, Mom's are free!

Cobra's New Society Conference

Creating the foundation of a new society that will exist after the Event. If you want to be a leader, simply choose yourself and join us! Those with expertise in leadership, healing, media, art, new technologies, finance, law, spirituality and all other aspects of life are

welcome to attend. To register: www.portal2012.org/Laguna.html

Rob Potter Friday, Saturday & Sunday,

May 24 - 26

$300 prepaid or $325 at the door

New Earth Expo

Sign up for the mailing list, when you receive an e-mail confirming your e-mail address, a window will appear with your FREE passes,

and then you print it! www.newearthexpo.net

Dean Price Saturday, June 1 10am - 6pm General Admission $10, FREE PASSES

available

I grew up in the 1950s watching TV shows such as Father Knows Best, The Donna Reed Show, I Love Lucy, Ozzie & Harriet, and other examples of how the perfect family was.

While watching these shows, I looked around the room at my family and wondered what happened to us? I felt as if I was the only one who noticed we were nothing like that! My parents constantly argued. When they got angry, they took it physically out on me, not my sib-lings. (I had not learned the word dysfunctional. That came later in life.)

I also had not learned that everyone’s family was not perfect. We never spoke about the abuse that went on behind closed doors. In today’s world, my parents’ way of disciplining children would never be acceptable. They would have had their children removed from their home. However, then it was accepted. I thought all chil-dren were beaten with belts and had to kneel on un-cooked split peas until their knees bled. (I later found out it wasn’t.)

At twelve years of age, my parents divorced. Soon af-terwards, they both abandoned me. My father took my younger siblings while my older sisters went to live with my mother. Thank God, my paternal grandparents took me in when they heard my father planned on placing me in an orphanage. It wasn’t easy living with them as they were very old-fashioned.

Lessons I Learned from My GrandmotherBy Rev. Basia Christ, Ph.D.

My grandmother ruled the roost. Although she was only 5 feet tall, when she spoke, I listened (and so did my grandfather).

She wasn’t someone who expressed her love in words, but I knew she loved me by her actions. I remember this lesson well and it came in quite handy later when men would say “I love you,” but their actions showed me something else.

I couldn’t wear makeup or date until I was 17 (even though I graduated from high school when I was 16). My grandmother did not believe in girl’s wearing slacks or jeans (heaven forbid!), so I went to school always dressed in a dress or skirt and blouse.

Looking back, my grandmother taught me many things for which I am grateful.

For instance, when I was 13, she heard me praying for a certain boy to like me. She came into my bedroom and said lovingly, “Basia, Basia, Basia. Don’t ask God for something specific like that. Ask for what is best for you!” (The boy ended up getting several girls pregnant and my grandmother looked at me with that “I told you so” look.)

She also taught me to speak like a lady(although I sometimes forgot). I never heard her say a swear word or curse God. I never heard her gossip about anyone or

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say negative things. She didn’t judge people and taught me the same. She always said, “You never know what kind of life the person had or why they do what they do. And you never will until you walk in their shoes.”

She cautioned me to “never to let a boy touch you be-fore you’re married. Once they get the milk for free, they don’t want the cow anymore.” And I didn’t – most-ly out of fear for what she would have done to me!

When I felt sad times, she would hold me on her lap and say, “You have to have the rain in order to appreci-ate the sunshine.” It was her way of telling me to ride through the bumps because things will get better.

She taught me how to love – unconditionally. I had got-ten in trouble a few times by acting out in school and sometimes hanging with the wrong crowd. Of course, I was grounded, but eventually realized she did it be-cause she loved me. She used a lot of tough love before the phrase was coined.

She believed in washing the floors on her hands and knees (eventually I got the job and had to do it the same way). She put coffee grounds on the carpets and swept them off because it supposedly got more dirt out of them. She put egg shells in the soil of her many plants as food (and they grew like wildflowers). She put pennies on the doorways going in and out of her home for good luck (I still do, too). She burned green candles for prosperity and made me eat pickled herring on New Year’s Eve so I would have a good year (it never worked, but year after year, out it came at midnight)!

She taught me to trust my gut when meeting some-one, to watch out for red flags. Of course, this is a habit honed over time, but I eventually learned how to do it.

As she got older, her mind began to wander. The pic-ture with this article is one I took of her standing at her doorway, watching my one-, two-, and three-year old children sitting on the cement stairs outside of her door waiting for me to get them. She had glaucoma and cat-aracts and could no longer crochet the beautiful table-cloths she used to give friends as gifts. She could no longer watch her favorite TV shows; she just listened to them. She was legally blind, but too proud to tell any-one. She never complained about her aches and pains.

My grandfather died in 1969. When I went to work full time in downtown Chicago at 16 years of age, I called every day to check on her.

By 1975, I was married with three children and still called

her every day. Her health began to fail. She fell down the stairs twice and caught the sleeve of her nightgown on fire checking to see if the burner was on (it was).

My father eventually put her into a nursing home be-cause she could no longer take care of herself. When I brought my children to visit her, sometimes she knew us, but gradually she had no idea who we were. She would speak to us in Polish as if she was a little girl and I was her friend. It broke my heart to see her that way.

By 1978, I was a single mom with three children, newly divorced. I didn’t have the heart to tell her my marriage ended badly (she never liked him and cautioned me to not marry him). However, she never believed in di-vorce. She always told me, “People think life is better on the other side of hill, but it never is.” (She had mar-ried early, never went to high school, yet was one of the smartest women I have known.)

She passed away in 1979 at 77 years of age. By this time, she had lost so much weight she looked like a small child lying in the casket. I held her hand and kissed her cheek good-bye just before they closed the lid. I felt alone with a giant hole in my heart.

Many years later, a psychic told me she saw a small woman standing over my head sweeping with a straw broom who was my mother, but not my mother. When the psychic asked if I knew who it was, I nodded “yes.” When I go back to Chicago to visit my family, I visit her grave. I can feel her presence still and speak to her ev-ery day. Sometimes when I forget to do something, I can still hear her voice, “Basia, Basia, Basia. You would lose your head if it wasn’t attached!”

She was … and is … the only mother I knew and loved.

Rev. Basia Christ, Ph.D. graduated from

University of Metaphysical Sciences in

December 2012. She has written "From Ash

to Flame: 28 Women Who Saved My Life"

(available soon on Amazon). Christ is working

on "Breaking Adam's Rib: The Rise of the

Divine Feminine." She has written for "Today's Woman," "Beach

Cities Style", and "Empowering Women" magazines and the "OC

Register." She believes we are all connected and donated her kidney

anonymously in November 2010. Christ has given presentations on

how human trafficking is taking place in Orange County and how

California is the largest importer of trafficked victims. She also is

available for presentations on gender equality and living kidney

donations. www.basiachrist.com

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