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A Woman’s Write | Summer 2011: Volume 13, Issue 2 A Story of Survival Lorie Cohen Rowley is a former board member of Between Friends and an inspiration to us all. Please read her story of survival. Twenty-some years ago, I went through a 40-hour volunteer training program to counsel battered women, later serving on the board of Friends of Battered Women and Their Children. At the time, stalking laws were non-existent and most considered “domestic violence” limited to uneducated, inner-city women on welfare and urban, blue-collar areas with bars on every corner. In truth, domestic violence resides in affluent suburban homes as well, but shame and fear prevent many women from seeking help. Counseling women confirmed what I had known for years: I too was a victim of domestic violence, but my scars were not visible. Power and success stirred in with anger, guilt and shame are lethal ingredients for disaster. Who better to take out one’s frustrations on than a young, idealistic, overly anxious wife nurtured on fairy tales of happily ever after. Wanting only to please, I made excuses for every expletive fired at me. With three children under ten, no profession and a dozen fears holding me back, I stayed. Although never physically harmed, I suffered emotional abuse, the kind that chips away at your self-esteem. Luckily my foremothers were strong, self-sufficient women who instilled their strength in me. It took going back to school, two degrees, fourteen years of teaching as an adjunct and the courageous women I counseled at Friends to tell my ex-husband to leave. In truth, without Friends and those I met who helped me heal and gave me the impetus to move on, I might be like so many women I know who continue to stay. Without the commitment of men and women working at nominal wages to give victims of domestic violence a safe place to vent, find comfort, build confidence and persevere, countless numbers of women and children will continue to suffer the indignities of abuse. Hopefully if the mantra of Between Friends is repeated enough, namely that domestic violence in any form is unacceptable and cannot be tolerated, it will become a reality. A Women’s Write Summer 2011: Volume 13, Issue 2 The Executive Director’s Corner Dear Friends, Staff for the Relationship Education: A Choice for Hope (REACH) program collected data showing the pervasiveness of teen dating violence among our students and how important it is to reach them before the 7th grade! We found that 82% of the 7th graders we worked with have had a boyfriend or girlfriend. 14% had been abused by a dating partner and 9% had been physically hurt. In comparison, by the time our students reach 11th grade, 95% of them have had a dating experience. 52% have been abused by a dating partner; 29% have been physically hurt; and 81% know someone personally who has been in an abusive relationship! This fall, we conducted a REACH Sustainability and Expansion Planning Group comprised of Between Friends’ board and staff, school social workers, and our partners - Communities in Schools of Chicago and the Stakeholders Collaboration to Improve Student Health. For FY12, this group prioritized rebuilding the program to its former capacity through the addition of a second team of staff to reach more youth. We have targeted FY13, for the development of a Train-the-Trainer model so we can equip schools and other organizations to implement our evidence-based prevention programs with less dependence on REACH facilitators. To help us achieve these goals, we have a commitment from a long-standing individual donor to match new funding we receive up to $100,000. Our results show that the REACH Program has proven to be an excellent return on your investment and we have already leveraged this commitment to garner both new support as well as increased funding from current foundations. Antoine de Saint-Exupery said, “As for the future, your task is not to foresee it, but to enable it.” Join with us to enable more prevention programming - creating a future without domestic violence! Kathleen A. Doherty Executive Director A Story of Survival Executive Director’s Corner 25 Forces of Change 25th Anniversary Outreach Activities Reuniting Alumni Board Members Bubble Ball: A Big Success! Teens Teaching Teens Together We Can Make a Difference In This Issue: Kathy Doherty, Executive Director of Between Friends’, was invited to the Governor’s Inauguration in Springfield. She’s pictured here with Vicki Smith, the Executive Director of the Illinois Coalition Against Domestic Violence, and Attorney General Lisa Madigan. Celebrating 25 Years of Building a Community Without Domestic Violence

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A Story of SurvivalLorie Cohen Rowley is a former board member of Between Friends and an inspiration to us all. Please read her story of survival.

Twenty-some years ago, I went through a 40-hour volunteer training program to counsel battered women, later serving on the board of Friends of Battered Women and Their Children. At the time, stalking laws were non-existent and most considered “domestic violence” limited to uneducated, inner-city women on welfare and urban, blue-collar areas with bars on every corner.

In truth, domestic violence resides in affluent suburban homes as well, but shame and fear prevent many women from seeking help. Counseling women confirmed what I had known for years: I too was a victim of domestic violence, but my scars were not visible.

Power and success stirred in with anger, guilt and shame are lethal ingredients for disaster. Who better to take out one’s frustrations on than a young, idealistic, overly anxious wife nurtured on fairy tales of happily ever after. Wanting only to please, I made excuses for every expletive fired at me. With three children under ten, no profession and a dozen fears holding me back, I stayed.

Although never physically harmed, I suffered emotional abuse, the kind that chips away at your self-esteem. Luckily my foremothers were strong, self-sufficient women who instilled their strength in me. It took going back to school,

two degrees, fourteen years of teaching as an adjunct and the courageous women I counseled at Friends to tell my ex-husband to leave.

In truth, without Friends and those I met who helped me heal and gave me the impetus to move on, I might be like so many women I know who continue to stay. Without the commitment of men and women working at nominal wages to give victims of domestic violence a safe place to vent, find comfort, build confidence and persevere, countless numbers of women and children will continue to suffer the indignities of abuse.

Hopefully if the mantra of Between Friends is repeated enough, namely that domestic violence in any form is unacceptable and cannot be tolerated, it will become a reality.

A Women’s Write

Summer 2011: Volume 13, Issue 2

The Executive Director’s Corner Dear Friends,

Staff for the Relationship Education: A Choice for Hope (REACH) program collected data showing the pervasiveness of teen dating violence among our students and how important it is to reach them before the 7th grade!

We found that 82% of the 7th graders we worked with have had a boyfriend or girlfriend. 14% had been abused by a dating partner and 9% had been physically hurt. In comparison, by the time our students reach 11th grade, 95% of them have had a dating experience. 52% have been abused by a dating partner; 29% have been physically hurt; and 81% know someone personally who has been in an abusive relationship!

This fall, we conducted a REACH Sustainability and Expansion Planning Group comprised of Between Friends’ board and staff, school social workers, and our partners - Communities in Schools of Chicago and the Stakeholders Collaboration to Improve Student Health.

For FY12, this group prioritized rebuilding the program to its former capacity through the addition of a second team of staff to reach more youth. We have targeted FY13, for the development of a Train-the-Trainer model so we can equip schools and other organizations to implement our evidence-based prevention programs with less dependence on REACH facilitators.

To help us achieve these goals, we have a commitment from a long-standing individual donor to match new funding we receive up to $100,000. Our results show that the REACH Program has proven to be an excellent return on your investment and we have already leveraged this commitment to garner both new support as well as increased funding from current foundations.

Antoine de Saint-Exupery said, “As for the future, your task is not to foresee it, but to enable it.” Join with us to enable more prevention programming - creating a future without domestic violence!

Kathleen A. DohertyExecutive Director

A Story of Survival Executive Director’s Corner

25 Forces of Change 25th Anniversary Outreach Activities

• Reuniting Alumni Board Members• Bubble Ball: A Big Success!• Teens Teaching Teens• Together We Can Make a Difference

In This Issue:

Kathy Doherty, Executive Director of Between Friends’, was invited to the Governor’s Inauguration in Springfield. She’s pictured here with Vicki Smith, the Executive Director of the Illinois Coalition Against Domestic Violence, and Attorney General Lisa Madigan.

Celebrating 25 Years of Building a Community Without Domestic Violence

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Much has happened in the past 25 years to improve the lives of individuals impacted by domestic violence. In honor of Between Friends’ 25th anniversary, we are celebrating 25 people, laws, and events impacting the domestic violence community over the last 25 years. Each one is a Force of Change.

1. Between FriendsTwenty-five years ago, women from the North Shore/Evanston Junior League and the National Council of Jewish Women recognized the need to help battered women achieve safety and raised funds to support programming on Chicago’s north side. Since then, the organization has realized remarkable growth and has provided services to over 143,000 individuals.

2. Nicole Brown Simpson and O.J. Simpson Trial Following the 1994 murder of Nicole Brown, it was revealed that she suffered over 17 years of verbal, mental, physical and emotional abuse during her marriage. This case became a national conversation pushing more people to get involved and highlighting that domestic violence can happen in any household.

3. Junior LeagueThe Junior League of Evanston-North Shore and the Junior League of Chicago are women committed to building healthier communities. The organizations helped to create Between Friends in 1986. Later, with the guidance of the Chicago League’s Project CON:CERN, we succeeded in all initiatives of our first fundraising strategic plan.

4. Yesenia MaldonadoAt a time when few recognized the existence and impact of teen dating violence, Yesenia had the foresight to create our Relationship Education: A Choice for Hope (REACH) prevention program. This program has made a difference in the lives of over 72,000 youth.

5. Carl GreerCarl Greer’s belief in our mission has enabled Between Friends to create meaningful outcome measures for all our programs, most specifically REACH.

6. Young Women’s Action Team The Rogers Park Young Woman’s Action Team (YWAT) was created by Mariame Kaba in 2003. YWAT is engaged in efforts to stop teen dating violence and street harassment; addressing the school to prison pipeline; and empowering young men as allies in ending violence against women.

7. Every Woman Survivors of domestic violence come from all walks of life. She could be your next door neighbor or a celebrity. These women have not only transformed their own lives, but created great change in the movement to end violence against women.

8. Crisis LineIn 1994, Between Friends created Illinois’ first state-wide, toll-free, domestic violence hotline. Callers are able to anonymously receive services as well as information about the effects of domestic violence and their legal rights.

9. TechnologyWhile advances in technology, such as the use of social media to promote awareness and track disconnected 911 calls, have been advantageous, improved technology has also led to internet stalking and cyber abuse. In 2001, Verizon Wireless launched its HopeLine® initiative that collects, refurbishes, and distributes discarded wireless phones and accessories to domestic violence organizations and for use with survivors.

10. Lillian Miller Lillian was instrumental in establishing a counseling center on Howard Street for survivors of domestic violence. Her 23 years of service make her Between Friend’s longest serving volunteer.

11. VAWA and Joe Biden The Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), originally drafted by Senator Joe Biden in 1994, was a federal law that provided $1.6 billion to combat domestic violence by mandating stiffer penalties for perpetrators, improving police responses, and allocating funds for prevention and victims’ services.

12. Victim’s Economic Security and Safety Act – VESSA VESSA assists survivors of domestic violence in getting help without worrying about losing their jobs. The legislation prohibits employers and public agencies from discriminating against victims of domestic violence.

13. Ensuring Success in Schools Act – ESSA This act, passed in 2007, required the Illinois State Board of Education to create the Ensuring Success in School Task Force. This task force is charged with developing policies to be adopted by school districts for addressing the educational needs of students who are parents, expectant parents, or survivors of domestic or sexual violence to ensure their ability to stay in school, and successfully complete their education.

14. IDVA- Illinois Domestic Violence ActIDVA became law in 1986 and, for the first time, recognized that domestic violence is a serious crime.IDVA allows victims of domestic violence to obtain a court order against an abuser that turns conduct which is threatening and dangerous, but otherwise legal, into a crime.

15. Advocacy in IllinoisIDVA, established in 1978, was instrumental in the historic passage of the Illinois Domestic Violence Act. Today, they disseminate funding for domestic violence programs and advocate for legislation protecting abused women and their children. The Chicago Metropolitan Battered Women’s Network was started in 1980. The Network was instrumental in creating the new domestic violence courthouse (2005) and successfully advocated for the Domestic Violence Division (2010) to improve the operation of the courts.

Lillian Miller answered the crisis line for 23 years. She was honored at the Appreciation Event in April.

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16. Dorchen LeidholdtDorchen has been an activist and leader in the feminist movement against domestic violence since the mid-1970’s. She currently serves as the Director of the Center for Battered Women’s Legal Services at Sanctuary for Families in New York. She spear-headed state litigation that expanded the protections available to victims petitioning for orders of protection.

17. Nancy FreemanNancy Freeman began her work on our board in 1992. She oversaw the purchase of our current building in 1997 and the development of all of our programs. While Nancy retired from the board in 2006, she continues to promote the mission of Between Friends.

18. Panmela CastroPanmela Castro is an artist from Brazil who uses graffiti and street art to promote awareness regarding domestic violence and women’s rights. In 2006, Panmela created murals in the slums of Rio de Janeiro to educate women about the Maria da Penha Law, which was the first law created to reduce domestic violence in Brazil.

19. Chicago TribuneThe Chicago Tribune has consistently covered domestic violence and aided in the effort to push domestic violence to the center of their readers’ consciousness as not an individual problem, but a societal one that affects us all.

20. Chicago Foundation for WomenThe Chicago Foundation for Women (CFW) has provided more than 2,800 grants totaling more than $18 million. These grants, focusing on expanding economic security, ensuring freedom from violence, and enhancing access to health services and information, have empowered thousands of women and girls in our Chicagoland community.

21. AllstateIn 1995, Allstate led an effort to provide a comprehensive network of resources and direct services to help survivors. Allstate has partnered with Between Friends since 1999, lending volunteer support and donating thousands of dollars and in-kind services.

22. Jan RussellJan Russell currently serves as the Director of the Violence Against Women Policy Project with the Cook County Sheriff’s Department. While at the CPD she established the

nation’s first in-house program providing services to victims of domestic violence who were abused by members of the police department.

23. Dr. Paul Schewe, PhDDr. Paul Schewe, PhD is the Director of UIC’s Interdisciplinary Center for Research on Violence. Between Friends has participated in two statewide teen dating violence prevention evaluation projects led by Dr. Schewe and he continues to assist us in refining our prevention programs and the outcome measures used to evaluate these programs.

24. Lisa MadiganIn 2002, Lisa Madigan became the first female Illinois Attorney General. Madigan has taken great efforts to support women and children by creating trainings to provide law enforcement and first responders with better tools to prevent and solve crimes against women, prosecuting domestic abusers and sex offenders, helping victims cope with the trauma of violent crime, and developing a comprehensive directory to make services more readily available to women in need.

25. Anita Alvarez Anita Alvarez is the first female and Latina Cook County State’s Attorney. She mandated that all Assistant State’s Attorneys and investigators assigned to domestic violence complete a forty hour training to be better equipped to serve survivors. Ms. Alvarez also expanded the nationally recognized TAC (Targeted Abuser Call) program that brings together Assistant State’s Attorneys, independent advocates, investigators, civil attorneys and victim specialists to provide a specialized approach to high risk victims of domestic violence.

Former staff and volunteers gathered to understand how violence against women is portrayed through art at Between Friends’ Appreciation Event on April 5, 2011.

25th Anniversary Outreach Activities

Survivors express the need for a better educated and more responsive community. Here’s how we are responding:

In honor of Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month Between Friends hosted a poetry slam at Pressure Billiards & Café called Using Voices Not Fists In Honor of Nonviolence: A Night of Poetry By and For Youth. Youth came from all over the city to read their poetry expressing thoughts about everything from relationships to violence to living in their neighborhoods.

For Valentine’s Day we targeted students at the Howard Red Line stop. For our After School Outreach Project, we passed out packets containing candy and information about Between Friends and Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month to all students coming home from school.

Through our Healthcare Education Project we provided trainings to hospital staff to increase their confidence in screening patients for being abused. Training also provides them with tools to provide a nonjudgmental, listening ear. At Evanston Hospital, 13 Occupational and Physical Therapists were in attendance, while at St. Francis Hospital, 10 hospital staff were in attendance.

During Child Abuse Awareness Month, our Children’s Counselor, Caryn Moore, conducted training for over 25 professionals on Childhood Maltreatment and the Role of the Community at the Rogers Park Library. They learned about the impact of child abuse on children, families, and communities.

At our Appreciation Dinner in April, we thanked our staff and volunteers over the past 25 years for their passion, hard work, and commitment to the mission of Between Friends. We toured “Off the Beaten Path: for Violence, Women & Art” at the Cultural Center, an art exhibit addressing violence against women and the basic right to safety, security, and justice. Afterwards, we headed to Pizano’s for dinner and to honor Lillian Miller, the longest serving volunteer at Between Friends.

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BUBBLE BALL: A Big Success!The Jay Pritzker Pavilion in Millennium Park was beautifully adorned with trees, tulips, and giant paper bubbles on March 19th while 300 guests dressed in their finest as they joined us in celebrating our 25th anniversary at Bubble Ball. All you could see were big smiles as guests danced the night away to music spun by Toast and Jam and dined on creative cuisine from J&L Catering. When guests needed to give their dancing shoes a break or catch up with friends, they relaxed to music from Fernandez and Kimball, two Spanish guitarists. Marion Brooks, from NBC5, graciously emceed and got the party started.

At this event we unveiled the 25 Forces of Change, whose efforts over the last 25 years have improved the lives of those impacted by domestic violence. These forces were highlighted through a poster display featured for the occasion. We honored State’s Attorney Anita Alvarez one of our Forces of Change, who spoke about how her office is helping break the cycle of domestic violence.

This year’s Bubble Ball successfully raised over $100,000 for Between Friends! These funds are significant to advance the agency’s mission of providing programs and services to survivors of domestic violence.

A huge thanks to the Bubble Ball Event Chairs Beth McCormack and Michele Stauff. Without their vision and dedication, we would not have exceeded our goal!

We also want to thank the committee members for their efforts in making Bubble Ball a success: Lindsey Markus, Silent Auction Chair, Pamela Flaherty, Sponsorship Chair, Simone Esubi, PR and Marketing Chair, Abby Agliam, Heidi Edinger, Donna Gutman, Jennifer Mielnicki, Sarah Mordis, Elif Oker, Deb Reinhart, Vicki Sinar, Melody Todd, and Charla Weatherby Trinidad.

Guests danced the night away at the Bubble Ball.

Committee members worked tirelessly to make sure Bubble Ball was a smashing success! Some of the committee members are pictured from left to right: Amanda Espitia (Director of Development), Jennifer Mielnicki, Michele Stauff (Co-Chair), Elif Oker, Pam Flaherty, Abby Agliam, Donna Gutman, and Beth McCormack (Co-Chair).

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DONATIONSDomestic violence is an issue that affects every community, every single day of the year. The need for services is great and we thank those individuals and organizations who have donated in the past year. Their support allows us to continue to help victims of domestic violence get the support they need and deserve. Please consider joining their esteemed company by donating today.

Individuals

$1,000 to $4,999Nancy Bonner ∙ Lisa A. Carter ∙ Bonnie Chan ∙ Ellen Clark ∙ Carrie Cobb ∙ Michelle Cohen ∙ Kathy Doherty ∙Lionel and Mary Go ∙ Jeanne Kovach ∙ Heather Locus ∙ Lindsey Markus ∙ Patricia and Candelaro Martinez ∙ Kim Redding and Missy Lavender ∙ Christy Roberts ∙ Laurie and Mark ∙ George Saunders and Terry Rose ∙ Earl Rusnak

$500 to $999Catherine Bednarz ∙ Patrick Collins ∙ Frank and Camille Doherty ∙ Robert and Nancy Duffy ∙ Gloria Flock ∙ Andrea France ∙ Nancy Freeman ∙ Kathryn and Robert Garlow ∙ Timothy Glaude ∙ Jim Godbout ∙ Daniel and Donna Gutman ∙ Allison Hertzberg ∙ Kaci Holguin ∙ Sarah and Jeff Howard ∙ Ray Jebsen ∙ Patricia Locke ∙ Nanette McCarthy ∙ Steven Polachek ∙ Barbara Posner ∙ Susan and Ronald Provenzan ∙ Melissa Ann Resslar ∙ Kim Nason ∙ Sharon Sachse ∙ Melinda and Kevin Shanklin ∙ Jeffrey True ∙ Robert Walsh

$250 to $499Abby Agliam ∙ James and Angela Bachor ∙ Richard and Maureen Ballot ∙ Wendy Baum ∙ Kristina Beck ∙ Bruce and Judi ∙ Lynda and James Bell ∙ Kimberly and Dudley Bright ∙ Alison Clarke ∙ Dr. Mimis Cohen and Andrea-Biel ∙ Christopher Corona ∙ Dana Damyen ∙ Heidi Edinger ∙ Ellen Feldman ∙ Barbara and Terry Ferrari ∙ Joe and Katie Fifer ∙ Jim and Nisha Floyd ∙ Edward and Laura Gale ∙ Howard and Joyce Hayward ∙ Lauren and Bob Hoffman ∙ Paula Huckaby ∙ Shelia and Robert Hulseman ∙ LaFredia Johnson ∙ Frank J. Kern ∙ Julie Kuebler ∙ Sara Latham ∙ Brent Litwak ∙ Stacy Lerner ∙ Linda Lipton and Steven Lubet ∙ Julian Morris ∙ Dr. Shantha and Mr. Matthew Monippallil ∙ Brenda Moller ∙ Caroline Moellering ∙ Gerald and Mary Mielnicki ∙ Micheal Marcovici ∙ Glen Mangold ∙ Suzanne Lynch ∙ Micheal and Lynn Lullo ∙ Barbara Niehus ∙ Elf Oker ∙

Robert Pavich ∙ Lindsey Pearlman ∙ Kristen Prinz ∙ Margaret Puthest ∙ Amy Rashkow ∙ Russel Reid ∙ John and Kathleen Roeser ∙ Jean L. Rothbarth ∙ Ken and Lisa Smith ∙ Debra and Mark Snider ∙ Avery and Jan Spunt ∙ Lisa Stauff ∙ Juanita Temple ∙ Jim Thaxton and Patrick Jurgaitis ∙ Melody Todd ∙ George Tomaszew ∙ Ruth Savolaine ∙ Jeffrey Schnoll ∙ Amy Turk ∙ Deborah Steinbrink ∙ Karla Williams and Ron Elsey ∙ Lali and Ian Watt ∙ Margaret Waugh and Jeffrey Wat ∙ Julie and Chris Wisbrock ∙ Deborah Zelinsky ∙ Sheryl Zoeller

Foundation and Corporation Support $10,000 and aboveAlphawood Foundation ∙ VNA Foundation ∙ Verizon Wireless ∙ Ravenswood Health Care Foundation ∙ Irving Harris Foundation

$2,500 to $9,999Fourth Presbyterian Church-Women@Fourth Connect ∙ Schwartz Brothers Insurance ∙ John and Editha Kapoor Charitable Foundation ∙ Illinois Tool Works Foundation ∙ McMaster-Carr Supply Co ∙ Cubs Care ∙ Northern Trust Charitable Trust ∙ Denis Pierce ∙ Brookfield Investment Management Inc. ∙ Reach Out St. ∙ St. Francis Hospital ∙ Peoples Gas ∙ The Walter J. and Edith E. Best Foundation

$1,000 to $2,499Kramer’s Pet Sitting ∙ Reverend Sarah Butter ∙ Harrison Wallace Financial Group ∙ Spencer Stuart ∙ American Agricultural Insurance Company ∙ Lou Anne Kellman Revocable Trust ∙ Chubb Insurance ∙ First Congregational Church of Wilmette ∙ Sara Lee Corporation ∙ Illinois State Bar Association ∙ Bank Financial ∙ Geneva Investment Management of Chicago, LCC ∙ UBS Employee Giving Program ∙ Beermann Swerdlove LLP

$999 & Under ANONYMOUS - Hartman Family Foundation ∙ Hideout Inn, Inc. ∙ Hillcoat ∙ North Shore Community Bank & Trust ∙ HNTB Corporation ∙ Lakeland Toyota Scion, Inc ∙ Cactus Jack’s Auto ∙ George the salon ∙ Leslie J. Design ∙ Howard Brown ∙ Pierce and Associates ∙ Alpha Chi Omega ∙ Macfund ∙ Marineau Family Foundation ∙ Kamerlink, Stark, McCormack, & Powers, LLC ∙ United Stationers, Inc.∙ Mary Kathleen McVay Savard Trust ∙ Hirsch - Schwartz Foundation ∙ Northern Trust ∙ KLS Edition ∙ K&M Printing ∙ Conscious Connection

Donation Wish List

• 60 plain wooden picture frames (3”x5”) for decorating

• Supplies to decorate 60 picture frames: a pack of glitter pens, a package of gems, and 5 bottles of Elmer’s Glue

• 10 packs of new Crayola markers

• Unopened Acrylic paint

• 120 journals

• Flip Ultra Camcorder

• Digital audio recorder

• Stencils

• A subscription to Teen Voice magazine

• Gift certificates (grocery stores, department stores, movie rental stores, toy stores, restaurants, gas stations, and movie theaters)

• Visa gift cards

• CTA and Metra passes: monthly, weekly, or daily

• Dry and canned food items

• Reusable grocery bags

• Dolls, doll clothes, and people puppets

• 15 small and medium storage containers

• 10 pocket calendars for 2012

• Repave our parking lot

• 12 pint glasses

• Forks

• Coffee and tea

• Donated family law legal services

• Domestic Violence Report Subscription (from www.civicresearchinstitute.com at $150)

• 2 small dry erase boards with markers

• 200 lollipops and 150 pieces of additional candy

• Refurbish our multipurpose room: paint, small round table with chairs, and small desk

• 2 iPods and speaker docks

• 500 purple ribbons and safety pins

• Avery 5294 label stickers

• Dutch boy paint – off white

• Dress up trunk

To make a donation or for more information, please call our Director of Development at (773) 274-5232 x16.

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Reuniting Alumni Board MembersOn May 17th, Caroline Moellering and Nancy Freeman hosted a reunion of alumni board members. While enjoying a beautiful view of the city, board members reminisced about how their past decisions have shaped Between Friends today and they became reacquainted with old friends. As we celebrate our 25th anniversary, we want to thank alumni board members for laying the foundation that makes Between Friends the strong organization it is today.

Teens Teaching TeensCheck out this new Public Service Announcement video created by a group of teen leaders at Josephinum Academy in Chicago! They are sending this message out to their school and the community about the seriousness of teen dating violence. Please check it out at: vimeo.com/22402893.

Together we can Make a DifferenceIn honor of our anniversary, we have a goal of raising $125,000 from donors such as yourself. This goal is double last year’s goal! The impact

we can make with twice as much support is immeasurable.

Our staff has been able to accomplish the following throughout the years:

Advocated for thousands of survivors in court as they tell their stories to a judge and seek an Order of Protection;

Worked with pro bono attorneys to offer free legal help that allows survivors to make informed decisions about divorce, child custody, foreclosure, or bankruptcy;

Given thousands of women the tools to live safely away from their abuser;

Worked with hundreds of children to reduce the trauma of witnessing domestic violence resulting in a better relationship with their mother, their friends and their teachers at school;

Helped youth learn how to seek help not only for a friend experiencing an abusive relationship, but for themselves.

We are not just making an impact in the lives of the survivors who come to Between Friends. We are making a difference in the lives of future generations. With your additional support, we can guarantee that the cycle of domestic violence is broken.

Students participate in a poetry slam in February as a way to speak out against abuse.

Guests learned about how Between Friends and State’s Attorney Anita Alvarez are breaking the cycle of domestic violence. Featured above from left to right: Marion Brooks (NBC5 and Emcee), Kathy Doherty (Executive Director), Beth McCormack (Bubble Ball Co-Chair), Michele Stauff (Bubble Ball Co-Chair), and Anita Alvarez (Cook County State’s Attorney).

Students at Josephinum held a door decorating contest as a way of teaching their fellow peers about healthy relationships.

Donate ONLINE at BetweenFriendsChicago.org

MAIL A CHECK to: PO Box 608548 Chicago, IL 60660

CALL Amanda at (773) 274-5232x16

2011-2012 Board of Directors: Christopher Corona, President, Margaret Waugh, Vice President, Timothy Glaude, Treasurer, Nancy Bonner, Secretary, Lisa Carter, Dana Damyen, Kirk McLaurin, Ken Smith, Brenda Moller, Christine Wyrick.

Staff: Mollie Anderson, Grant Writer; Leslie Cook, Court Advocacy Coordinator; Kathleen Doherty, Executive Director; Amanda Espitia, Director

of Development; April Fehrenbacher, Court Advocate; Jennifer Lara, Counselor; Yesenia Maldonado, Director of Programs; Caryn Moore, Children’s Counselor; Colleen Norton, Prevention and Education Manager; Yolanda Owens, Senior Prevention & Education Specialist; Paul Robinson, Prevention & Education Specialist; Nancy Toncy, Clinical Supervisor; Maria Venegas, Court Advocate; Carrie Villa, Associate Director; and Christy Weber, Counselor.

Interns: Caiti Bieberich, Lindsay Copeland, Erika Diaz, Sarah Green, Kristen Houser, Jackie Huxel, Caitlin O’Rourke, Sarah Spunt.

Newsletter: Amanda Espitia, Editor. Design courtesy of Stacy Leventhal. Printing courtesy of Allstate Print and Communication C-enter.