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Pony Club, Parents & Pressure
Jennie KillileaSport Psychologist to the B.E.F. World Class Start & Potential
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Aims:
• Light-hearted look at parents & pressure
• How pressure can affect competition performance
• Developing the coping rider
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Jobs of the Pony Club Parent:
• Taxi Service/Lorry Driver
• Money Lender/Personal Bank
• Groom/Mucker-Outer/Instructor…..
• Development of Child
• Laundry Service (Clean numnah, itchy undies!)
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The Most Important Job of All….….the Development of the Child
• Significant others help to shape a child’s general development
• Significant others are parents, siblings, trainers, D.C.’s ……people whose opinions impact upon the child
• Their presence, behaviours & words have the potential to enhance or destroy a competition performance
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Sporting competitions have the potential to develop the child’s ….
• Positive self-perceptions (how they feel about themselves)
• Intrinsic motivation (doing for the sake of doing)• Positive affect (e.g. enjoyment, vigour)• Coping skills (e.g. dealing with things as they
arise)• Moral development (e.g. sporting behaviour)• Empathy with others• Lifetime friendships
Chris HarwoodLoughborough University
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What benefits do you want your child to gain from Pony
Club?(They’re probably similar to the ones on the previous slide…)
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What does your child want to get out of
Pony Club?
A child’s perspective on sports can be very different to an adults:
Ask them!
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Is your behaviour & what you say on competition days congruent to these
benefits?
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Are you awareif you…
Helpor Hinder
Pressureor Support
your child on competition days?
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Saying & Doing• By displaying certain behaviours & saying
certain things you potentially can add or reduce the amount of pressure a child feels
• Your reactions before, during & after competitions send clear messages to the child as to what motivates you as a person/parent/D.C.
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The ‘ ideal parent’ –what the kids say….
(taken from netball)• Has a positive, supportive attitude
• Does not nag
• Lets me come to them for support rather than offering unsolicited advice
• Does not ‘live’ for netball – I’m the player!
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Taken from work done by Richard Perry & Phil Moore
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Before the match:
• Gives me ‘personal space’ for the couple of hours before a match
• Makes sure that I have everything I need (drink, food kit etc)
• Gives positive (non-technical / tactical) messages – ‘good luck, play well’
• Is calm
• Not too inquisitive
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Taken from work done by Richard Perry & Phil Moore
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During the match:
• Supports the team whether winning or losing
• Sits with the other parents
• Stays calm
• Encourages me no matter what the score
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Taken from work done by Richard Perry & Phil Moore
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After the match:
• Smiles!
• Listens and waits to be asked for feedback
• Is honest when asked for feedback but picks out positives as well as negatives
• Does not criticise other players, selection, coaches, umpires, etc
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Taken from work done by Richard Perry & Phil Moore
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The ‘Unhelpful Parent’ – what the kids say….
• Tries to do the coach’s job
• Lives their life through me
• Creeps - coach
• Give me advice on how I should play/what to do
• Wants me to do things for them before the game (i.e. taking photos)
• Tells me that I don’t look well when I feel fine, and then I get paranoid and start to think I might be!
• If I’ve had a bad game I know, she/he doesn’t need to tell me!
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Taken from work done by Richard Perry & Phil Moore
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The ‘Nightmare Parent:’Homer Simpson
The Simpsons:
‘Dead Putting Society’
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How might pressure (from any source) affect competition
performances?
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Negative Perceptions
of Pressure
Anxiety Nerves
Below-par performance
LACK OF LACK OF ENJOYMENTENJOYMENT
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Does my child suffer from the NEGATIVE affects of competition
nerves or anxiety?
i.e. Are they ‘Bad Nerves?’
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‘Physical’ Nerves• Dry mouth• “Weak” muscles• Feeling sick• Shallow breathing• Pale complexion• Sweating• Feeling shaky• Butterflies in the stomach• Fumbling/clumsiness• Disturbed sleep
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‘Mental’ Nerves (anxiety)
• Poor concentration (e.g. going wrong in the dressage)
• Inability to focus (goes off on a ‘tangent)
• Inability to get timing right (e.g. missing strides in the show-jumping warm-up)
• Negative self-talk (e.g. saying to themselves ‘I can’t do this’)
• Poor time management (e.g. having lots of time to rushing to get ready)
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‘Emotional’ Nerves• Irritability
• Lethargy
• Lack of humour
• Rudeness
• Forgetfulness
• Impatience
• Anger
• Nervous laugh
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Don’t mistake these with teenagitis!
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Ask Yourself….
Do I inadvertentlyadd to competition nerves by putting pressure on
my child?
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Do I act the same whether she/he wins or loses?
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Do I really understand and appreciate that
riding ponies throws up a range of uncontrollable
elements?
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So, how can I SUPPORTmy child
at competitions?
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Positive Perceptions
of Pressure
Optimal performance
ENJOYMENTENJOYMENT
The Positive Cycle:
‘Excited’nerves
Positiveexperiences
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Encourage them to embrace ‘nerves’ as helpful to
performance• Expect them
• Have strategies for dealing with them
• Encourage them to think of ‘excited butterflies’ rather than ‘scared butterflies!’
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Expect them: Pippa Funnell gets them too!
• “I don’t say I don’t get nervous because I get very, very nervous, but I’m actually more confident now that the nerves are a good thing, because I know how to deal with them rather than thinking, ‘help, I feel nervous and they’re going to work against me.’”
• “Nerves actually help my performance because I know how to handle them. I won’t say I like the feeling because I hate the feeling.”
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Strategies for dealing with nerves & anxiety:
• Planning, preparation & time keeping• ‘Belly’ breathing (in through nose - belly rises; out through
mouth. Smooth & relaxed)• ‘Ditch the devil’ & ‘ listen to the angel’ (pretend there’s an
angel sitting on your shoulder saying good, positive things into your ear. Don’t listen to the little devil on the other shoulder!)
• ‘Approach’ coping strategies (e.g. ‘bogey fence planner’ –worried about a certain fence? Plan what you will do, e.g. ½ halt at tree, ride forwards, sit up & squeeze….)
• ‘What Ifs?’ (Worried about something happening? Decide on a ‘Plan B)
• Constructive evaluation (e.g. write about competitions in a diary – encourage them to describe howthey felt)
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“Have you had a ‘Grey Day’ or a ‘Sparkly Day?’”
Help riders to talk & understand the range of feelings &
emotions they experience before, during & after
competitions
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Rehearse your reactions to
disappointment & poor performances
Remember….
De-briefingnot De-griefing
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Dealing with Disappointment:• Give them some time (the ‘long ride home’)
• Get rider’s opinion first
• Pick out positive side
• Give reassurance
• Tell them that there will be other times
• Be positive about what they have learnt
• Smile
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Focus on:
• Factors that are under the control of the rider
• Process goals (e.g. accuracy in dressage test rather than a top 3 finish)
• Behaviour not personality
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And…..
….don’t mention the
money!
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Try to act the same at the ‘more important’
competitionsPlan ‘parent coping
strategies!’
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Parent Coping Strategies:
• Be aware of your own reactions to competitions & your child
• Anticipate ‘hot spots’ & avoid them• Distancing– let someone else work them in/put
fences up• Delegate– multi-tasking is tough in the
competition environment• Find a job (chief photographer)• Belly breathing
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..if all else fails have a G&T!
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D.C.’s & parents – Supporting the rider’s development:
• Enter rider at the right level of competition for their personaldevelopment (& pony’s)
• Remember that the child may be technically advanced/talented, yet behaviourally & emotionally average
• Ask questions such as ‘how did you perform?’ rather than ‘did you win?’
• Be creative with training & competitions
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DC’s & parents – Look to ‘bridge the gap’ between training &
competitions:• Set up ‘semi-competitions’(e.g. style
prizes, coaching rounds)• Practice reacting to pressure situations in
training: e.g. XC combination fence – ‘quick switch’to long route e.g. Practice the dressage warm-up, with a set ‘test time’ in rallies – you might even tell them to do their test early to see how they cope, discuss reactions afterwards)
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In Summary: Something to Think About…..
• A landmark psychology study asked children engaged in sporting activities the question;
‘Would you rather play simply for fun, or would you prefer
to win?’
• 95%said FUN…..
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