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3,000 Years of Psychology and Philosophy Distilled Down To

One Page For Your Use

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ObjectivesPresent a way of looking at how you became who you are.Present some ideas about growth at our current stage in life.Provide a vocabulary that may be useful during the rest of the University.Provide some metaphors to show parallels between your development and your company’s.Set the stage for the discussions to follow.Have some fun along the way.

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Children today are tyrants. They contradict their parents, gobble their food, and tyrannize their teachers.

- Socrates (469–399 BC)

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We are here on Earth to do good for others.

What the others are here for, I do not know.

- W. H. Auden (1907–1973)

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And, from the philosophy of Egypt 4,200 years ago………

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The mouth of a perfectly happy man is filled with beer.

- Egyptian saying (2200 BC), proverb

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What’s The Connection With Leadership?

• You lead with all of your person, and all change starts with you.

• Your leadership takes place in the context of your life’s journey.

• The principles that apply to psychology also apply metaphorically to your marriage, your family, your company, and your country.

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Many would say that if only they could become better managers, their lives would be more meaningful.

It would be truer to say that if we could find our true meaning, we would stand a chance of becoming better managers.

Becoming a better manager would be a byproduct of a practice aimed at reaching the source of our most pressing need: the need to be whole and significant.

Albert Low

Zen & Creative Management

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All children are born to grow, to develop, to live, to love…-Alice Miller

Life

Experience

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I am…

I have to be….

This is what it means to be a man or a

woman…

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AVOIDANCE

Once we learn to avoid something we have a strong tendency to continue to avoid it.

“I’m not going there again”.

“I’m not hanging around to see what happens”.

We do not test the hypotheses we formed earlier in life.

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AVOIDANCE

Corporate Metaphor

“Policies are the scar tissue of prior mistakes.”

-IBM Executive

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Learned Helplessness

•There’s no way out of here.

•What I do doesn’t make a difference

•Why bother?

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Learned Helplessness

Corporate Metaphor

“We tried that once and it didn’t work.”

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Are we stuck?

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It is never too late to be what you might have been.

- George Eliot

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Erik EriksonStages of Psychosocial Development

(Last 4 of 8 Stages)

Adolescence 19-40 40-65 65-∞

Identity vs. Role Confusion

Intimacy vs.Isolation

Generativity vs.Stagnation

Ego Integrity vs.Despair

How can I be close to you and be my own

person?

Who am I? Will I make the world a better place?

Will I grow or stagnate?

Peers

Love Relationships

Parenting & Legacy

Reflection on and acceptance of one's life

Do I feel fulfilled and complete?

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COMFORTZONE

How to move out of the comfort zone

• “Yoga” Approach

• Behaviorist’s Approach: Do some things because you are afraid of them, not in spite of being afraid of them.

• Cognitive approach: Understand and explore your underlying assumptions.

• Befriend your defenses. “Thank you for helping me out so far, but…”

• Have someone with you.

We are like tea bags — we don't know our own strength until we're in hot water.

- Jutta Baum Busche

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What I Know About Myself

What I Don’t Know About

Myself… My

Unconscious

What is not

There

What Others Know About Me

The Obvious

Blindspots Denial

Unsensed Patterns

Projection: What others see

in me that’s really about themselves

What Others Don’t Know About Me

My Secrets

The Invisible Unconscious

The Johari Windows 2.0Though, not everything others see is about me…

The “Plochman Addition”

The “Plochman Addition”

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Brain

researchers estimate that your

unconscious database outweighs the conscious

on an order exceeding ten million to one.

This database is the source of your hidden, natural genius.

In other words, a part of you is much smarter than you are.

The wise people regularly consult that smarter part.

Michael J. Gelb

What I Know About Myself

What I Don’t Know About

Myself… My

Unconscious

What is not There

What Others Know About Me

The Obvious

Blindspots (can be good!)

Denial Unsensed Patterns

Projection: What others see

in me that’s really about themselves

What Others Don’t Know About Me

My Secrets

The Invisible Unconscious

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Thoughts

Feelings

In spite of the historical nature of our development, all we ever need to work with is with us right now, in this moment.

Intuition

Sensations

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Summary

Change and great leadership begin within:

We must become the change we want to see in the world.

- “Mahatma” Mohandas Gandhi

(1869–1948)

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Summary

And to change within we need to deepen our understanding of ourselves.

Your work is to discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it.

- Siddhartha Guatama Buddha

490-410 B.C.E.

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Summary

Some of which is to reintegrate parts of ourselves that we submerged earlier in life.

We shall never cease from exploration And the end of all our exploring   Will be to arrive where we startedAnd know the place for the first time.

- T.S. Eliot

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Summary

Reintegration = Integrity

Give me beauty in the inward soul; may the outward and the inward man be at one.

- Socrates

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Summary

In self-exploration we deepen our understanding of others.

He then learns that in going down into the secrets of his own mind he has descended into the secrets of all minds.

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Summary

Our unconscious provides a deep reservoir of wisdom that connects us to others and perhaps to the transpersonal.

I myself believe that the evidence for God lies primarily in inner personal experiences.

- William James

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Summary

Inner wisdom supports right action[In minor matters I] consider all the pros and cons. In vital matters such as the choice of a mate or a profession, the decision should come from the unconscious, from somewhere within…

In the important decisions of personal life, we should be governed, I think, by the deep inner needs of our nature.

- Sigmund Freud

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Intimacy vs.Isolation

Identity vs. Role Confusion

BirthEarly

Development

The Barricade

YoungAdulthood

YPO WPO

Leadership Style

Interpersonal Style

Mid-Life

Integrate

Integrate

Here’s how the world works and how I am in relationship to it.

I am…

I have to be….

Generativity vs.Stagnation

Ego Integrity vs.Despair

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Act as if what you do makes a difference.

It does.

- William James