What is Your Dream?

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• Do you dream of lettuce?

• Do you dream of salad?

• Imagine your life 3X better.

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3 Big Questions:

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Who am I?

What matters?

What do I want?

What is Your Super Theory of

Life?

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Who We Are, What We Want and How We Get it.

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Super Theory

PleasureManipulate

BullyWanting

Boredom

SuccessSelf Control

Conform

DoingSocial Comparison

Integrity

ChoiceBeing

Intrinsic

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GREATEST GENERATION BOOMERS GEN 21

• 35 M (60+)

• Valuable

• Secure

• Loyal

• 75 M (40-60)

• Visible

• Successful

• Independent

• 126 M (15-40)

• Vital

• Happy

• Collaborative

Gen21: Open Minded, Optimistic, Confident, Collaborative, Autonomous

YOUNGEST: OPTIMISTICZZ MIDDLE:

REALISTICYYOLDEST:SKEPTICALXX

21st Century Generation

We Live 3 Lives

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Birth – 25……..Self Discovery

26 – 50………...Experience

50 +…………….WisdomIt’s not too late to live your

Dream Life.

The Story of Our Lives

STATUS QUO CRISIS

Don’t Want

Do Want

Envision

Collaborate

Growth Spiral

Deny

RationalizeDeath Spiral

Hero’s Journey

COWARD

HERO

Blame

Innovate

Bigger Dreams for ALL:

Dream Goals for a New Future

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Happiness: Life Satisfaction

Positive Emotion | Passionate Engagement | Personal Meaning

One Life, Now

1. Life Alignment

2. Life Autonomy

3. Life Achievement

Take the Dream Life Challenge.

Incompetence Capability Skill Design

Failure

Mediocrity

Success

Dream Life

Avoidance

Willingness

Interest

Desire

GTV

Our dreams are discovered when our Design and Desires

meet.

WHO AM I? Design

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WHO AM I? Design

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• Traits

• Talents

• Track Record

If you don’t know WHO you are, you won’t know WHAT you want.

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Pleasure

Success

Meaning

Design: Traits & Talents

Our Super Theory Determines Our Identity

Achievement, Job, Thoughts

Tribes

Body, Emotions, Traumas

Mind

Body

Spirit

1) What parts of your current life should be eliminated?

2) What do you need to add to your life that expresses your uniqueness?

3) What parts of your life should you invest in well above the average person’s life?

4) How are you going to be and live different than everyone else?

5) How do you define your unique approach to life?

What do you stand for?

Who Am I?Traits

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• Enduring Strengths

• How You Experience Reality

• How You Want to Offer Value

Discovering Your Soul’s Traits

• What do you most value about me?

• What do you most admire about me?

• What do you most enjoy about me?

VIA Signature Strengths Survey @ AmericanDreamProject.org

WHO AM I?INNATE TRAITS

• Creativity

• Curiosity

• Open-mindedness

• Love of Learning

• Perspective

• Bravery

• Persistence

• Integrity

• Vitality

• Love

• Kindness

• Social Intelligence

• Citizenship

• Fairness

• Leadership

• Forgiveness & Mercy

• Humility/Modesty

• Prudence

• Self-regulation

• Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence

• Gratitude

• Hope

• Humor

• Spirituality

Who am I?Talents: 3 Clues

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• Compliments

• Energy, Effort, Ease

• Desire for Mastery

Who Am I?Skills for the 21st

Century

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• Integrity

• Relationships

• Wisdom

Discovering Your Talents

• What do you most value about me?

• What would you like me to do more of?

• What would you like me to do less of?

Your Dream Lifestyle

• Life List

• Live Rich

WHAT MATTERS? Drive

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Drive: Prime Motive

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GainGrowGive

GiveGrowGain

Lost Boys of Sudan

What can I do?

“I can’t do everything, but I can do something.

I will not let the things I cannot do

prevent me from doing the things I can.”

* Helen Keller Paraphrased

Our Drive is Our Message

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Love or Fear

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What do I want?What does my soul

desire?

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• Are we cyborgs?• Do we all want to be rock stars?• Whose life are we living?• Unplug, Ask, Listen.• Pay attention to reality: never mistake a goal for a

dream.

Soul Reflection

1. Unplug, Ask, Listen

2. Read, Discuss3. Become Conscious

DESIRES: Lifestyle

What do I want?

Positive Emotions, Passionate Engagement, Personal Meaning

• Where You Live• How You Live• Why You Live

Desire

• Deepest longings.

• Choice if no one cared.

• Energy gain.

Lifestyle, Relationships, Career

Positive Emotions, Passionate Engagement, Personal Meaning

Where You Live | How You Live | Why You Live

LifestyleLifestyle

DESIRES: Career

DESIRES: Career

What do I want?

What do I want?

Future Proof Your Life

Be Unique.

Don’t Compete

You already are.

Just turn up the volume.

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Career: Be Original, Be Great, Be Passionate

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• Choice if no one cared.• Unconventional job fit.• Constant, creative learning.• Energy gain.

So How Great Do You Want To Be?

Source: Paul Arden

Good Quite Good Very GoodThe Best in Your Field.

The Best in the World.

Career:Design & Drive is What

Counts

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Stand Out, Don’t Fit In

Career: Drive

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Transform Ambition to Inspiration

• Blind ambition is slavery.

• Change YOUR World.

Be Global Proof:Design & Drive is What

Counts

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Stand Out, Don’t Fit In

Become an Expert with High Emotional Intelligence

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Career: Life Chapters

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10 Things You Want to Do Before You Die

Evolution of Work Value

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(Labor)

Knowledge Worker(Facts)

Creative Work(Ideas)

Wisdom Work(Judgment)

CAREERCAREER

DESIRES: Relationship

s

DESIRES: Relationship

s

What do I want?

What do I want?

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• Without Love there is no happiness.

• With Love there is no emptiness.

• Relationships are the source of all human meaning.

RelationshipsRelationships

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• Without Love there is no happiness.

• With Love there is no emptiness.

• Relationships are the source of all human meaning.

Our Deepest Longing is Genuine Love

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• Spam instead of intimacy.

• Sex instead of love.

• Options instead of commitment.

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Insecure, Undermining

Aggressive, Bargaining

Active Advocacy

Pleasure

Goals

Integrity

The Quality of Our Relationships Comes from Our Super Theory

Demands/Threats

Passive

Design: Traits & Talents

Achievement, Job, Thoughts

Body, Emotions, Traumas

If Love Drives You, Create More Love

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• Understand

• Affirm

• Involve

When your Design + Drive + Desire are all

connected, you are living your Dream.

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Wisdom

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• Reason – Examine your assumptions.

• Common Sense – What results are you getting?

• Intuition – What do you already know?

Soul’s Desire

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• Will not cause innocents to suffer.

• Happiness, Contentment, Patience

• Grateful, Optimistic

What is Your Dream?Relationships

LifestyleCareer

GrowthLeadership

What is Your Dream?

AmericanDreamProject.org

We Live 3 Lives

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Birth – 25……..Self Discovery

26 – 50………...Experience

50 +…………….WisdomIt’s not too late to live your

Dream Life.

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What if there was another way?

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The greatest good for the greatest The greatest good for the greatest number produces the greatest number produces the greatest

good for each individual.good for each individual. - John Nash- John Nash

CHOOSECHOOSE

Join the 21st Century Revolution

Find Your Voice

Act for the Common Good

Swim or Surf

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Promise Broken?

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• Failure of Leadership.• Decline of Middle Class.• Cost of Education Skyrocketing.• Society is not Designed to Produce Happiness.• Social Trends of Gen21

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BOOMER WORLD: Dream or Nightmare

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• OVER Work

• OVER Stress

• Over Consumption

Pleasure + Goals =

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The Dream Gap

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• Boomers are perplexed.• Real work, real meaning,

right now!• Business must be hothouse for

personal & professional growth.

Our Children Can’t AffordHomes

EducationInsurance

Rising Tide of Change

Social Justice

OPRAH

BONO

CLOONEY

PITT/JOLIE

POP CULTURE

Zero Waste

SUSTAINABILITY

PATAGONIA

GE WINDMILLS

WAL-MART

SUNEDISON

Labor Rights

SOCIAL ACCOUNTABILITY

NIKE

GAPSA 8000

Save the Future

PERSONAL MEANING

GEN21

BOOMER

MAKE A DIFFERENCE

REDEMPTION

Heal the World

PHILANTHROPY

GATES

CLINTON

BUFFET

BUSH 1

GOOGLEEBAY

The StormThe Storm

Revolutions1. Declaration of Independence “Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness”

2. Gettysburg Address & Emancipation Proclamation “…By the people, for the people.”

3. New Deal to Civil Rights “I have a dream.”

4. Noo Future “We have 40 years to save the world.”

“Is this the best we can do?”

LIFE

LIBERTY

HAPPINESS

What’s Happening?

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Gen21• Don’t want Boomer World (Over work, over stressed, over stuffed)

• Want Families that Work• Want the Truth, not Spin, not Hype• Want More than Success – a Life They Value and Enjoy• Their Dream is Their Career• Real Work/Real Meaning/Real Rewards• Want to Make Their Difference

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Gen21’s ConfusionRelationships – Avoid Commitment

Materialism – Take What You Can Get

Work – Too Many Choices / No Choices

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PATAGONIA

CLINTON

Rising Tide of Change

Social Justice

Heal the World

Zero Waste

Labor Rights

Save the Future

OPRAH

BONO

POP CULTURE

PHILANTHROPY

SUSTAINABILITY

PERSONAL MEANING

GATES

GE WINDMILLS

NIKE

GAP

GEN21

BOOMER

GOOGLEEBAY

CLOONEY

PITT/JOLIE

BUFFET

BUSH 1

WAL-MART

MAKE A DIFFERENCE

REDEMPTION

SOCIAL ACCOUNTABILITY

SUNEDISON

SA 8000

United Voice & Vision

Greatest good for each and all

Universal Principles

Life, Liberty & Pursuit of Happiness

Personal ActionDesign + Desire + Drive

New Enterprise Model(GTV)

New Education Model(Free Lifelong Learning)

New Civic Model(Common Good)

American Dream Project

What is Your Dream?

What is Your Promise?The Storm

Revolutions

1. Declaration of Independence “Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness”

2. Gettysburg Address & Emancipation Proclamation “…By the people, for the people.”

3. New Deal to Civil Rights “I have a dream.”

4. Noo Future “We have 40 years to save the world.”

“Is this the best we can do?”

LIFE

LIBERTY

HAPPINESS

Dream Life Requirements1. Conscious Integrity

2. Willful Choice

3. Creative Effort

4. Morally Significant Goals

Source: Chris Peterson 2006

4 American Revolutions

CRISIS

REVOLUTION

More Happiness

More Suffering

Private Greed +

Public Corruption +

Economic/Social/Technological Change

Threatens Our Future

Cause is Always the Same.

3 Paths to Your Dreams

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• Early Insight

• Reflective Walk

• Active Exploration

Life has Chapters.

The World Needs Your Dream and

Your Leadership

The GridMedia-Financial Complex

The GridMedia-Financial Complex

Belonging

Independence

Growth SecurityWisdomChange

the World

Still Be Home

for Dinner

What do we want?What do we want?

Source: M. Mark

(Belonging)

(Independence)

(Growth) (Security)FEAR

Traps of FearTraps of Fear

Controlling

StuffPleasure

Willfulness

Prime Directive + Prime Motive are necessary to avoid the traps of fear.

5 Sources of Anxiety5 Sources of Anxiety

1. Personal Confusion

2. Emotional Anxiety

3. Reality Distortion

4. Relationship Difficulties

5. Spiritual Uncertainty

WORK LOVE PLAY

Personal Interests

Make a difference Relationships

What we want: What we want: FulfillmentFulfillment

Change the World and Still Be Home for Dinner

PROBLEM:

Life cannot be scheduled

Trying to balance leads to more anxiety.

Balance is not fulfillment.

“If I schedule time with my children, my spouse and at the gym, I will feel balanced.”

I Can Mange My Time Better and Find Fulfillment.

11stst Catastrophic Catastrophic ErrorError

I Can Achieve My Way to Fulfillment.

22ndnd Catastrophic Catastrophic ErrorError

PROBLEM:

Salt water will not quench your thirst.

“If I do what I should…”

1. I will be acceptable, loveable, appreciated.

2. My life will turn out the way I need it to.

3. I will feel fulfilled…insecure, confident, perfectionist.

Magical Thinking will Make Me Happy.

33rdrd Catastrophic Catastrophic ErrorError

PROBLEM:

Self deception can lead to a counterfeit calling.

“If I follow my heart, live my dream, find my bliss… I will be fulfilled.”

WisdomWisdom

Identity Truth

Autonomy Love

Our Thinking is ThoughtlessOur Thinking is Thoughtless

• 40,000 Thoughts per Day:

Random, Repetitive, Unfocused

• 95% of our Decisions:

Unconscious, Habitual and Unreflective

• Thinking is Dominated by:

Bias and Confusion

Often Resulting in Self-inflicted Misery.

“Not everything that counts can be counted.”

- Albert Einstein

The Universe:

4 % is Matter we Understand

23% is Dark Matter

73% is Dark Energy

E=MC2

The Truth is Always More The Truth is Always More Than we KnowThan we Know

Action ChainAction Chain

Perception

Evaluation

Emotions

Action

The Quality of our Thinking Determines the Quality of our Lives

How We ThinkHow We Think

Intuitive

Practical

Analytical

Inner Self

Outer Self

Self Concept

High Achievers ThinkingHigh Achievers Thinking

Intuitive

Practical

Analytical

Inner Self

Outer Self

Self Concept

Just Who Do You Think You Are?

What happens if we are true to ourselves? If we are dysfunctional? Conforming? What are my Values? Thoughts? Decisions?

Identity

Integrity

Decisions

Values

Thoughts

Results

Actions

Wisdom Wisdom is theis the InsightInsight to useto use Knowledge, Judgment Knowledge, Judgment andand Virtue Virtue

for thefor the Greatest Good. Greatest Good.

……to to ThinkThink and and ActAct in a way that in a way that

results in results in fulfillmentfulfillment..

The Path to Wisdom is The Path to Wisdom is Focused ListeningFocused Listening

TheThe Right Right answers require theanswers require the Right Right questionsquestions..

8 Wisdom Questions8 Wisdom Questions

TALENT

DESIREPURPOSE

PRIME DIRECTIVE

How am I going to Change the World?How am I going to Change the World?

Am I a Slugbot?

Am I a Slug?Am I a Slug?

What am I?

8 Questions: Wisdom Question 1

•I am not my body…

•I am not my emotions…

•I am not my thoughts…

•I am not my roles…

WHAT AM I?

Belief Traps

Who is making my decisions?Who is making my decisions?

• My body…. Food, sleep

• Emotions…. Shopping, sex

• Mental anxiety…. Drinking, drugs, sports

• Roles…perfectionistic demands

If decisions are driven by:

Stress pushes us to lower levels of consciousness.

What virtues do I most admire?

8 Questions: Wisdom Question 2

Virtue: Values that are Habits

What am I great at?

8 Questions: Wisdom Question 3

•What do you receive COMPLIMENTS for?

•What would you do for FREE?

•What do you LOVE to do that you do WELL?

Finding our PRIME DIRECTIVE

Character TalentTalent

Weakness CompetenceVir

tues

Vir

tues

AbilityAbility•Success Stories

•Competent Feedback

•Positive Energy

•Who you Admire

Clues to Talent:

Your talent is the light that illuminates what your soul wants.

What do I want?What do I want?

Desire PurposeTalent + +

We are clear on what we don’t want.We are clear on what we don’t want.

1.Illness

2.Poverty

3.Loneliness

4.Boredom

5.Powerlessness

6.Meaninglessness

Disaster Movie or Hero’s Journey?Disaster Movie or Hero’s Journey?

Hero’s Journey: Adult MaturityHero’s Journey: Adult Maturity

Dysfunctional

Functional

Fulfilling Transcendent

Autonomous

Manipulative

Impulsive

Conscientious

Conforming

35%

55%

10%

ThoughtThought WillWill

Responsibilities

Wants

Choice

• Is able to ask for what you desire

• See multiple points of view without being confused (both/and)

• Patient and decisive

• Persistent and flexible

• Can act in ambiguous circumstance

• Clear on personal gifts and shortcomings

• Passionate interests and experiences joy

• Has a clear sense of purpose

AutonomyAutonomyAutonomy requires the highest level of personal maturity and wisdom.

It requires nothing less than a new understanding of who we are.

What does my Soul Desire?What does my Soul Desire?

Do want Don’t wantDesire

Mea

nin

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ean

ing

TalentTalent

Can Do Well

Inspires You Work

FamilyFriends

Romantic partnerHealth

Passionate interestsService Legacy

8 Questions: Wisdom Question 4

Positive VisionPositive Vision

Drudgery

What does it matter?What does it matter?

8 Questions: Wisdom Question 5

Meaning is not determined by Size of Impact. Purpose will change with Time.

Purpose

PurposeD

esir

eD

esir

e

TalentTalent

Empty

Restless

Driven

The source of all human purpose is Service

To Be Fulfilled:To Be Fulfilled: To Become Conscious of Our Lives’ To Become Conscious of Our Lives’

SignificanceSignificance

• What happens - is least important.

• Our motives, our gifts, our learning – are most important.

• Soul’s wisdom reveals what’s most important – where we are growing and where we are stuck.

Observe our lives from the Observe our lives from the viewpoint of our souls.viewpoint of our souls.

All we have to do is… ASK!All we have to do is… ASK!

Integrity = Engaging in your Prime

Directive 80% of your time.

PRIME DIRECTIVE

Still Be Home for DinnerStill Be Home for Dinner

PRIME MOTIVE

It is not how you schedule your time – it is

how you live your life that will determine

your level of fulfillment.

LoveLove and TruthTruth are the

MotherMother and FatherFather of all virtue.

We are all Character ActorsWe are all Character Actors

What is your “come from?”

SITUATION: LOVED ONE

“Don’t Worry, I’ll Clean the Car.”

•Loving Concern•Being Right

Intrinsic LoveIntrinsic Love

- ---+ +++

All Feelings Decay into a Concept

Practical: Are you meeting my needs?

Analytical: Are you doing what you are supposed to?

+ + + + + +- - - - - -

REAL Love

-- ++

1. Understand

2. Affirm

3. Involve

+

+

Intrinsic

Practical

Systemic

RomanceRomanceTOUCHTOUCH

THOUGHTFULNESSTHOUGHTFULNESS

TIMETIME

LOVE as a PRIME MOTIVE

• No manipulators or bullies allowed.

• Neither needy or demanding.

• Focus on strengths; quirks don’t matter.

Love from Your Soul

What can I do to Love What can I do to Love more powerfully?more powerfully?

8 Questions: Wisdom Question 6

When Real Love is our PRIME When Real Love is our PRIME MOTIVE, what happens?MOTIVE, what happens?

TRUTH as a PRIME MOTIVE

Love without Truth – Masochistic fool

Truth without Love – Sadistic dictator

Are you a virtuous idiot or an evil genius?

If Love is Heat, Truth is Light.

Truth TellingTruth TellingOPENHIDDEN

Bully 3

•Aggressive

•Dominate

•Demand

•Threaten

•Force

•Insist

Goal: Win

Result: Isolation

Peacemaker 1

•Passive

•Avoid Conflict

•Agreeable

Goal: Harmony

Result: Depression

Influencer 4

•Respectful

•Enthusiastic

•Authentic/ Sincere

Goal: Shared Reality

Result: Trust

Manipulator 2

•Passive Aggressive

•Deceive

•Guilt

•Blame

•Criticize

•Victim

Goal: Control

Result: Low Trust

8 Questions: Wisdom Question 7

What do I already know?What do I already know?

Find the Truth within.

Listen for the Wisdom of your soul.

• Courage

• Hunger

• Humility

Truth requires:

What can I do, now?What can I do, now?

8 Questions: Wisdom Question 8

Pursuit of Truth

• Believes in the myth of the right choice.

• Needs to examine all choices.

• Keeps options open.• Drowns in the anxiety

of over-choice.• Loses contact with

truth.

• Knows what they want.

• Believes in making the choice right.

• Engages in progressive action.

• Commits to valuing their choice.

• Discovers more truth.

High AchieverHigh Achiever MaximizerMaximizer

Matterhorn or

Splatterhorn

FulfillmentFulfillment

Self Discipline

Fulfillment

Emptiness

Self Absorbed

En

joy

En

joy

Pri

me

Dir

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tive

ValueValue

Prime MotivePrime Motive

The Feather of Truth

SCALE OF LIFE

Prime Directive: Your Gift

Prime Motive: Your Character

Change the World and Change the World and Still Be Home for Dinner Still Be Home for Dinner

Leave with a Loving HeartLoving Heart

an Open MindOpen MindNo RegretsNo Regrets.and