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Village Fall Family GatheringWith A Peaceful Heart
©Gary Sweeten &Cyndi WineingerP.O. Box 498455
Cincinnati, Ohio 45249
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Ministry Goals• The Spirit of the LORD is on me,
because the LORD has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor.
• He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners.
• Isaiah 61:1
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With a Peaceful Heart
• There’s a tiger after me!– Historic stressors• Acute threats
– Current stressors• Chronic threats
• We are hard wired the by Creator to survive through Fight or Flight reactions
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Contemporary Stressors
• Life’s little challenges– Chronic daily issues– Daily tigers
• Intimate Irritants– Marriage, Parenting, Work, Driving
• Special Needs-Special Stressors
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Parent Stressors• Most families said Stress comes from– We can never relax!
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Stressor
– Sickness of the SN Child or Spouse
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Stressor
– Constant clutter
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Stressor
– People say/do disrespectful things
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Stressor
– Training new care givers
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Stressor
– Going on vacation, travel
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Stressor
• Changes in schedule
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Brain & Stress • Activating Events
– Events that occur
– Any of the above events
– An anticipated event
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Mind Matters
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The Key to Peace
• Belief System– My Perception of the Event– My Self Talk about the Event– Powerful ideas like Shoulds / Ought's– My Memories– My Values
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Emotions that Result
• Consequential Feelings: • Mad• Sad• Glad• Guilty• Ashamed
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Actions that Result
• Decisive Behavior
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We Cannot Change
• Activating events– Sickness– Other people– Weather– School
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We Cannot Change
• Consequential Feelings
– Emotional Reactions are Automatic
– No Guilt for Feelings
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Can Change
• Belief System:
• Taking every thought prisoner to the mind of Christ.
• Think on whatever things are true and lovely
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Responding
• To Negative Activating Events
• Adult/Parental Time Out– Stop, Drop and Roll
– Get distance from the moment
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Rude Behavior
• Staring at your child– Step into it
– Roll Daniel Over
– Respectful Introduction
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More Rudeness
• Stupid Comments– Push– Pull– Paradox
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Seek His Peace
• Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2
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Peaceful Prayers
• Now I lay me down to sleep• I thank the Lord my soul will keep.• • No fear of night, • He will provide• His angels near,• My sleeping side
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Night Prayer
• At morning’s dawn, • I will awake,• To live again • For Jesus’ sake
• He gives me strength,The whole night rest,
• Enough each day• To give my best
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Worry
• Every evening I turn my worries over to God. He's going to be up all night anyway.
• Mary C. Crowley
• “When Christ died He left a will in which He gave His soul to His Father, His body to Joseph of Arimathea, His clothes to the soldiers, and His mother to John. But to His disciples, who had left all to follow Him, He left not silver or gold, but something far better - His PEACE!” – Matthew Henry
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copyright: November 2010 Dr. Gary Sweeten