Self Awareness/Self Esteem

YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK

The single major factor determining orlimiting your success and happinessis your self image or your self esteem.

Esteem means…..to appreciate the value of.Self image…….determines your sensitivity to the

needs of others, your ability to solve problems, your ability to handle responsibility and your judgment.

Positive Self-Image = Positive Self Confidence

How does someone gain self confidence?

Built on experiences of success from early childhood on. Dwell on success not failure.

Self Awareness means

• More than presenting a good image and feeling good about yourself. It’s honestly looking at your inner self and learning to deal with your feelings and situations.

• The important things is not how you are feeling, but how you choose to respond to it.

Sides of self…

Physical self

Social self

Spiritual self

Maslow’s Theory

What does Maslow’s Theory State?

Theory in Psychology by Abraham Maslow. As humans meet “basic needs” they seek to satisfy needs that occupy a higher level.

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Need

The Johari Window

What is the Johari Window?

The open quadrant represents…

• Things that both I know about myself and that you know about me.

• Taking a leadership class…

The blind quadrant represents…

• Things that you know about me but that I am unaware of.

• Eye contact…

The hidden quadrant represents…

• Things I know about myself, that you do not know.

• Secrets…

The unknown quadrant represents…

• Things that neither I know about myself, nor you know about me.

• Dreams…

Two basic forms of respect

• Recognition respect• Appraisal respect

Liked, Respected, or Feared

Confusion

Today I was talking to a teacher in her mid twenties. She said

"I think the students should just respect me and do as they are told." August 31, 2002. Brussels

Those in positions of authority often expect and try to demand that those beneath them show 'respect.' But if they have not

first earned respect by showing it (which is done by respecting the other person's feelings and needs), they may find that their power is actually based on fear. Once a person no longer fears

such an authority figure (AF), then the AF's power base quickly disappears out from under them, often leaving them

feeling frustrated, powerless, confused and resentful.

Power vs Influence

• What is Power?– The capacity to produce effects on others or the

potential to influence.

• What is Authority?– A power or right delegated or given

• What is Influence?– As the change in a target agent’s attitudes, values,

beliefs, or behaviors, as the result of influence tactics

Liked, Respected, or Feared

How to Earn Respect

• Short-term• Long-term• Humility• Competence

Humility

• Share the praise• Attribute success to others, not yourself• Ask others for advice

Leading by example

• Work ethic• Punctuality• Organization• Follow-through• Delegation and participation

Acknowledging mistakes

• You’re human, too!• Honest• Relatable

Accountability

• Representing your group• Being an advocate• Taking risks for your group

How NOT to Earn Respect

• Dishonesty [Office Clip]• Threatening• Tardiness• Apathy• Incompetence

RESPECT

Measuring Respect

• ASK!!!!• Response to delegation• Morale• Successful communication• Desire for improvement• Your respect level for others• Self-respect• Manage your reputation

Advanced Techniques

• Returning respect– Ask others for advice– Show trust

• Earning respect from different audiences– Find out values of different audiences

• Earning respect from your enemies– Play fair