Maintaining Your Spiritual Health In Ministry

Philip G. Monroe, Biblical Seminary, withPhilip G. Ryken, Tenth Presbyterian Church

Hazardous to Your Health: Pastoring Through Church Challenges

Seminaries capably teach:

Biblical studies Theology

Systematic, Historical, and Practical Missions Preaching Counseling Leadership

But, we struggle to provide

Renewal opportunities Real support for real ministry

challenges Adequate preparation and practice in

dealing with yourself during ministry stress

Session map

A few observations from a counselor/consultant to pastors

Spiritual care teams: A simple but revolutionary plan for pastor care

Interview with Philip Ryken regarding his experiences with ministry stress and spiritual care

Practical helps for you and your congregation

Q & A

Use this session to

Reflect on your spiritual and relational health in ministry

Reflect on the opportunities and challenges facing your ongoing spiritual vitality

Consider one way you increase y0ur spiritual vitality by being more connected to others

Initial observations

Pastors love serving God and others Ministry stress is real!

Visionary leaders suffer! “Oh Jerusalem, Jerusalem, how I would have…”

Attacks from within the congregation hurt the worst!

“advice, encouragement, ideas” are really criticisms

Pastors expect themselves to handle everything well

More observations

Many report feelings of failure, discouragement, and emotional flatness

Invalidate praise from others Most hate conflict, feel lonely Have roller-coaster emotions Love the Gospel but feel distant from

it because they partake only to prepare for teaching/preaching

Origins of stress in pastoral ministry

Criticism/conflicts Political pressures Legalism in the

church Counseling crises Too much work,

not enough help Administrative

duties

Finances Sexual temptation Family distress Health Loneliness Spiritual dryness The “fishbowl” Boundary

intrusions

…but the greatest stressor is…

Unrealistic expectations, by self and others (actual vs. ideal ministry

duties)

Leading to trying harder, “I do not know where my work starts or where

it ends” Neglecting self/family for kingdom work

*Did you know? 84% of pastors believe their family should be healthier than others

Statistic from www.ellisonresearch.com

Some unrealistic expectations

It shouldn’t be that hard to maintain a robust prayer life

I’m smart. I am prepared to respond well to future ministry challenges

I can be a good leader and family man at the same time

I can manage my own spiritual renewal by myself

Two Lies of the Church/Pastor

Pastors (and their families) ought to be able to manage their spiritual lives on their own

Pastors (and their families) know best what they need for spiritual renewal and will ask for it when necessary

The problem…

In short, our most significant failing in the church is that we

(a) leave leaders alone to manage their own spiritual lives and

(b) fail to encourage them to their primary calling to prayer and the Word.

The result…

Expectations + stress + isolation = ? tired, starving shepherds

Did you know? Stress from a lack of social support is

more predictive than financial stress of negative mood and physical ailments?

In Search of a Revolution

The Truth: Most of you know that you need brothers and sisters to sustain your spiritual growth

The Truth Too: Most of you have not developed relationships with those willing pursue your spiritual health Does anyone know you enough to write

you a “Dear Timothy” letter?

One Solution: Spiritual Care Teams

A group of wise, prayerful, friends willing to wade into your life to act as shepherd and friend, to support, advise, encourage worship, and hold accountable

A group who moves beyond the generic to your hidden parts—your strengths and weaknesses—and who loves you anyway

A group who loves enough to listen and speak at the right times

Some thoughts from Dr. Ryken

What challenges in pastoral ministry have the largest negative impact on your spiritual vitality?

What disciplines or practices have been most helpful in maintaining your spiritual vitality?

What is your experience with a spiritual care team? Its focus? Its structure? What does it do

best? Need improvement? Inside vs. outside care?

Nuts and Bolts of SCTs

Who Those who can give a monthly commitment Spiritually mature, not reporting to you or

family and not merely mutual accountability Both sexes?

How The group to meet without you to pray Meet for worship as well as “business” Meet with family/spouse if appropriate

Nuts and Bolts, Con’t.

What Develop list of concerns, joys, growth areas,

questions to ask, etc. Review schedule matters Regularly talk about temptations of all kinds Focus on the 4 Rs▪ Remembering what God is doing in your life▪ Realistically assessing your behavior and your beliefs▪ Repenting so that our public and private life matches▪ Repeatedly submit to your primary work: prayer and

the Word!

SCTs won’t work if…

You aren’t honest with self and the team

They are too enamored with you or their own counsel

The group function like a business committee

Prayer is an afterthought The focus becomes overly negative

But I don’t have anyone to ask

Consider… Coaching: Mick Noel and C4ML Mentoring: David Wiedis

(ServingLeaders) Counseling: Diane Langberg &

Associates Peer Groups: Sign up for pilot groups

if interested

Considering Christ: Heb. 12:3 The cure for your ministry weariness

comes not from mental rest but from meditational activity!

What a strange cure for mental weariness….I should have expected an invitation to mental rest….The weariness of the body is cured by slumber; but the weariness of the mind can be cured only by stimulus

George Matheson, Leaves for Quiet Hours, 141

Contact info

For slides: www.wisecounsel.wordpress.com

For referrals: pmonroe@biblical.edu, or 215.368.5000, x142

www.biblical.edu