Get Rid of Get Rid of Emotional Emotional Clutter:Clutter:

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What is Emotional What is Emotional Clutter?Clutter?

What is Emotional Clutter?What is Emotional Clutter?

Stockpiles of negative emotions and Stockpiles of negative emotions and old beliefs that no longer applyold beliefs that no longer apply

What is Emotional What is Emotional Clutter?Clutter?

Stockpiles of negative emotions and Stockpiles of negative emotions and old beliefs that no longer applyold beliefs that no longer apply

Anything that clutters up your lifeAnything that clutters up your life

What Does Emotional What Does Emotional Clutter Do?Clutter Do?

Keeps you from seeing what options Keeps you from seeing what options and resources you haveand resources you have

What Does Emotional What Does Emotional Clutter Do?Clutter Do?

Keeps you from seeing what options Keeps you from seeing what options and resources you haveand resources you have

Prevents you from moving forwardPrevents you from moving forward

What Does Emotional What Does Emotional Clutter Do?Clutter Do?

Keeps you from seeing what options Keeps you from seeing what options and resources you haveand resources you have

Prevents you from moving forwardPrevents you from moving forward

Keeps you STUCKKeeps you STUCK

Why is it important to Why is it important to do something about it?do something about it?

If YOU…If YOU…

Feel STUCKFeel STUCK

If YOU…If YOU…

Feel STUCKFeel STUCK Want to be more successfulWant to be more successful

If YOU…If YOU…

Feel STUCKFeel STUCK Want to be more successfulWant to be more successful Want to be happierWant to be happier

If YOU…If YOU…

Feel STUCKFeel STUCK Want to be more successfulWant to be more successful Want to be happierWant to be happier Want more satisfying relationshipsWant more satisfying relationships

If YOU…If YOU…

Feel STUCKFeel STUCK Want to be more successfulWant to be more successful Want to be happierWant to be happier Want more satisfying relationshipsWant more satisfying relationships Want to be able to live your Life’s Want to be able to live your Life’s

PurposePurpose

If YOU…If YOU…

Feel STUCKFeel STUCK Want to be more successfulWant to be more successful Want to be happierWant to be happier Want more satisfying relationshipsWant more satisfying relationships Want to be able to live your Life’s Want to be able to live your Life’s

PurposePurpose

You need to get rid of your Emotional You need to get rid of your Emotional Clutter!!Clutter!!

How Emotional Clutter Is How Emotional Clutter Is BornBorn

Emotional Clutter is the Emotional Clutter is the result of…result of…

Emotional Clutter is the Emotional Clutter is the result of…result of…

1.1. Negative emotions from past Negative emotions from past experiences experiences

Emotional Clutter is the Emotional Clutter is the result of…result of…

1.1. Negative emotions from past Negative emotions from past experiences experiences

ANDAND

2.2. Beliefs that are really no longer Beliefs that are really no longer true.true.

Emotional Clutter is the Emotional Clutter is the result of…result of…

1.1. Negative emotions from past Negative emotions from past experiences experiences

ANDAND

2.2. Beliefs that are really no longer trueBeliefs that are really no longer true

ANDAND

3.3. Failure to enforce boundaries.Failure to enforce boundaries.

Negative EmotionsNegative Emotions

What are they?What are they?

AngerAnger

HurtHurt

SadnessSadness

FearFear

GuiltGuilt

AnxietyAnxiety

Our emotions have Our emotions have messages messages

to send us…to send us…

What are those What are those messages?messages?

Messages from EmotionsMessages from Emotions

Messages from EmotionsMessages from Emotions

Signal that there is something you Signal that there is something you need to pay attention to need to pay attention to

Messages from EmotionsMessages from Emotions

Signal that there is something you Signal that there is something you need to pay attention toneed to pay attention to

Tell you to take action Tell you to take action

Messages from EmotionsMessages from Emotions

Signal that there is something you Signal that there is something you need to pay attention toneed to pay attention to

Tell you to take action Tell you to take action

Once you take action, emotion flows Once you take action, emotion flows through you and is gonethrough you and is gone

Let’s look at some Let’s look at some examples…examples…

AngerAnger

AngerAnger

What is the message?What is the message?

AngerAngerWhat is the message?What is the message?

A boundary has been violatedA boundary has been violated

AngerAngerWhat is the message?What is the message?

A boundary has been violatedA boundary has been violated

OROR Someone is being phony with youSomeone is being phony with you

AngerAngerWhat is the action?What is the action?

AngerAngerWhat is the action?What is the action?

Set the boundary or enforce the Set the boundary or enforce the boundary, and the anger will flow boundary, and the anger will flow through you and disappear.through you and disappear.

HurtHurt

HurtHurtWhat is the message?What is the message?

HurtHurtWhat is the message?What is the message?

A boundary has been violatedA boundary has been violated

HurtHurtWhat is the message?What is the message?

A boundary has been violatedA boundary has been violated

You are not being treated You are not being treated respectfullyrespectfully

HurtHurtWhat is the action?What is the action?

HurtHurtWhat is the action?What is the action?

Set the boundary or enforce the Set the boundary or enforce the boundary, and the hurt will flow boundary, and the hurt will flow through you and disappear.through you and disappear.

SadnessSadness

SadnessSadnessWhat is the message?What is the message?

SadnessSadnessWhat is the message?What is the message?

There is a loss to be dealt withThere is a loss to be dealt with

SadnessSadnessWhat is the action?What is the action?

SadnessSadnessWhat is the action?What is the action?

Deal with the loss—grieve it, resolve it by honoring Deal with the loss—grieve it, resolve it by honoring the loss, figure out the positive learning from it--the loss, figure out the positive learning from it--and the emotion flows on through youand the emotion flows on through you

FearFear

FearFearWhat is the message?What is the message?

FearFearWhat is the message?What is the message?

There is danger that needs to be There is danger that needs to be addressedaddressed

FearFearWhat is the action?What is the action?

FearFearWhat is the action?What is the action?

Determine if there is danger and take Determine if there is danger and take action to deal with itaction to deal with it

Fight or FlightFight or Flight

When we feel fear, our bodies are When we feel fear, our bodies are hard-wired to respond with hard-wired to respond with

FIGHTFIGHT

or or

FLIGHTFLIGHT

Fight or FlightFight or Flight

Our body gets us ready to eitherOur body gets us ready to either

Stand and fightStand and fight

OROR

Run away and fleeRun away and flee

(All animals have this instinct)(All animals have this instinct)

When we stockpile Fear, it When we stockpile Fear, it can create a 3can create a 3rdrd response to response to

Danger:Danger:FREEZEFREEZE

Freezing when there is Freezing when there is danger danger

is not a very helpful is not a very helpful response!response!

When you determine if there is When you determine if there is danger--and take action—danger--and take action—

the fear flows through you and the fear flows through you and disappears.disappears.

GuiltGuilt

GuiltGuiltWhat is the message?What is the message?

GuiltGuiltWhat is the message?What is the message?

GuiltGuiltWhat is the message?What is the message?

You have violated someone else’s You have violated someone else’s boundariesboundaries

GuiltGuiltWhat is the message?What is the message?

You have violated someone else’s boundariesYou have violated someone else’s boundaries OR you have violated your own boundariesOR you have violated your own boundaries

GuiltGuiltWhat action do you need to What action do you need to

take?take?

GuiltGuiltWhat action do you need to What action do you need to

take?take? Stop violating their boundaries and Stop violating their boundaries and

make amendsmake amends

GuiltGuiltWhat action do you need to What action do you need to

take?take? OR if it is your own boundaries you OR if it is your own boundaries you

are violating, change your behavior are violating, change your behavior so that it is in tune with your valuesso that it is in tune with your values

AnxietyAnxiety

AnxietyAnxietyWhat is the message? What is the message?

AnxietyAnxietyWhat is the message? What is the message?

You are paying attention to something You are paying attention to something you DON’T want to have happenyou DON’T want to have happen

AnxietyAnxietyWhat action do you need to What action do you need to

take? take?

AnxietyAnxietyWhat action do you need to What action do you need to

take?take?

Change your focus!Change your focus!

AnxietyAnxietyWhat action do you need to What action do you need to

take?take?

Stop paying attention to what you Stop paying attention to what you DON’T WANT--and start paying DON’T WANT--and start paying

attention to what you DO WANT. attention to what you DO WANT.

How do negative emotionsHow do negative emotionsget stockpiled?get stockpiled?

1.1. We experience a negative emotion We experience a negative emotion in response to some experience in response to some experience we have.we have.

How do negative emotionsHow do negative emotionsget stockpiled?get stockpiled?

1.1. We experience a negative emotion We experience a negative emotion in response to some experience in response to some experience we have.we have.

2.2. We think we need to hang onto We think we need to hang onto the negative emotion in order to the negative emotion in order to remember some important lesson.remember some important lesson.

You don’t need to hang on to You don’t need to hang on to the negative emotion!the negative emotion!

The learning is completely The learning is completely separate from the emotion.separate from the emotion.

The only thing hanging on to The only thing hanging on to the emotion does for you is…the emotion does for you is…

……to remind you to to remind you to feel terrible.feel terrible.

Let go of it! Let go of it!

You don’t need to You don’t need to feel bad.feel bad.

Figure out the message from Figure out the message from the emotion…the emotion…

Then, figure out what you Then, figure out what you need need

to do about it…to do about it…

Take appropriate action…Take appropriate action…

And move on!And move on!

Let go of the “emotional Let go of the “emotional clutter” clutter”

of negative emotions…of negative emotions…

For more information about For more information about how to clear out YOUR how to clear out YOUR

emotional clutter…emotional clutter…

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