“Embracing Change To Experience Life!”

“Embracing Change To Experience Life!”

Proverbs 19:26 Proverbs 19:26

The WISE person is someone

who learns to live his life

with the grain of God’s

wisdom rather than

fighting against the grain.

The WISE person is someone

who learns to live his life

with the grain of God’s

wisdom rather than

fighting against the grain.

Exodus 20:12….Exodus 20:12….

“Honor your fatherand your mother….” (NIV; Deuteronomy 5:16 )

This important command….This important command….

Establishes the

significance and importance of the family in God’s eyes.

Establishes the

significance and importance of the family in God’s eyes.

Defines the relationship

between parents and children as a lifelong, significant relationship.

Defines the relationship

between parents and children as a lifelong, significant relationship.

… given to ADULTS, to

determine how they treat their parents after

reaching adulthood.

… given to ADULTS, to

determine how they treat their parents after

reaching adulthood.

When we enter into ADULTHOOD,

things change!

Genesis 2:24….Genesis 2:24….

“For this reason a man

shall leave his father and his mother and be united

tohis wife, and they will

become one flesh.” (NIV)

“leave his fatherand his mother”

means to "forsake" or to

"sever a covenant relationship."

Will the

COVENANT RELATIONSHIP

with our mom and dad ends

when we get married, or are

the ties with them cut off?

It simply changes

to a different kindof relationship.

The essence of this new relationship is –

It simply changes

to a different kindof relationship.

The essence of this new relationship is –

“The father of a righteous man has great joy; he who has a wise son delights in him. May your father and mother be glad; may she

who gave you birth rejoice!”(NIV)

Proverbs 23:24,25…. Proverbs 23:24,25….

When the grown child is characterized by

righteousness and wisdom, that causes joy.

“Righteousness”refers to the moral

dimension of our lives.

“Righteousness”refers to the moral

dimension of our lives.

“Righteousness”“Righteousness”

isn’t just being a good person, isn’t just being a good person,

… but it’s being in the kind of relationship with God

that enables you to know WHAT true goodness is.

… but it’s being in the kind of relationship with God

that enables you to know WHAT true goodness is.

This personal knowledge of God provides this person with ….

This personal knowledge of God provides this person with ….

refers to the outworkingof this righteousness

in everyday life.

refers to the outworkingof this righteousness

in everyday life.

pictures most

“wise people” as successful

in life, because they’ve learned how life works.

pictures most

“wise people” as successful

in life, because they’ve learned how life works.

We treat our parents wisely

when we

“embrace a life of wisdom”

ourselves.

We treat our parents wisely

when we

“embrace a life of wisdom”

ourselves.

our mom and dad’s effort. our mom and dad’s effort.

ItIt

Proverbs 19:26….Proverbs 19:26….

“He who robs his father

and drives out his mother

is a son who brings

shame and disgrace.”(NIV)

This PROVERBS is picturinga son or daughter whorobs his or her parents

of their property.

This PROVERBS is picturinga son or daughter whorobs his or her parents

of their property.

… here implies VIOLENCE. … here implies VIOLENCE.

(Hebrew word)(Hebrew word)

If it’s true that exploitingour parents is wrong,

it must be equally true to that protecting our parents from

exploitation is good.

If it’s true that exploitingour parents is wrong,

it must be equally true to that protecting our parents from

exploitation is good.

We treat our parents wisely

when we PROTECTtheir rights.

We treat our parents wisely

when we PROTECTtheir rights.

EXPLOITINGour parents is foolish,

PROTECTING them is wise!

EXPLOITINGour parents is foolish,

PROTECTING them is wise!

Part of OUR ROLE in our parents’ lives as they ageis to ….

• protect them• provide for them• care for them• be their friend

• protect them• provide for them• care for them• be their friend

Proverbs 20:20….Proverbs 20:20….

“If a man curses his father or mother, his lamp will be

snuffed out in pitch darkness.” (NIV)

your parents was aserious matter back in

ancient Israel.

your parents was aserious matter back in

ancient Israel.

was to call God’s judgment down on that person.

was to call God’s judgment down on that person.

was to invoke a future on that person that involved

suffering and death.

was to invoke a future on that person that involved

suffering and death.

So to CURSE someone was…

to treat the personwith contempt & disdain.to treat the personwith contempt & disdain.

to hate that personat the deepest level, to hate that personat the deepest level,

The image of

“a person’s lamp going out”

is a picture of

DEATH.

…. describes a personwho’s life is cut short.

Exodus 21:17….Exodus 21:17….

“Anyone who curses his

mother or father should

be put to death.”(NIV)

We treat our parents wisely

when we BLESSthem with our words!

We treat our parents wisely

when we BLESSthem with our words!

were usually spoken out loudwere usually spoken out loud

was thought to actuallyshape that person’s future

(in ancient Israel)

was thought to actuallyshape that person’s future

(in ancient Israel)

The ancient Hebrews understood the

POWER OF OUR WORDS in shaping a person’s future.

The ancient Hebrews understood the

POWER OF OUR WORDS in shaping a person’s future.

Expressing

APPRECIATION about what our parents did do in our lives.

Expressing

APPRECIATION about what our parents did do in our lives. Expressing OUR DESIRE that they be happy and fulfilled in life .

Expressing OUR DESIRE that they be happy and fulfilled in life .

Jesus said in Luke 6:28….Jesus said in Luke 6:28….

“Bless those who curse you, pray for those whomistreat you.” (NIV)

Paul said in Romans 12:14….Paul said in Romans 12:14….

“Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.”

(NIV)

Proverbs 23:22….Proverbs 23:22….

“Listen to your father,who gave you life, and

do not despise your mother when she is old.”

(NIV)

here simply means….here simply means….

“pay attention”“pay attention”

…picturing the kind of relationship an adult son

or daughter haswith an aging parent,

a relationship of listening.

…picturing the kind of relationship an adult son

or daughter haswith an aging parent,

a relationship of listening.

The opposite of

in this proverb is “despising.”

“a loathing disdain foranother person.”

“to regard or treat as unworthy or beneath one’s

dignity; or to refuse or reject with aloof contempt

or scorn (mockery).”

We treat our parents wisely

when we SHARE OUR ATTENTION WITH THEM

as they age.

We treat our parents wisely

when we SHARE OUR ATTENTION WITH THEM

as they age.

• our financial assistance• our advice• our financial assistance• our advice

…OUR PARENTS NEED

OUR

ATTENTION!

…OUR PARENTS NEED

OUR

ATTENTION!

A life of “wisdom”will make the choice to

SHARE ATTENTIONWITH PARENTS,

even if they didn’t share enough attention with us

when we were youngand growing up!

A life of “wisdom”will make the choice to

SHARE ATTENTIONWITH PARENTS,

even if they didn’t share enough attention with us

when we were youngand growing up!

Do you want to

LIVE A LIFE OF WISDOMas it relates to

your mom and dad?

Do you want to

LIVE A LIFE OF WISDOMas it relates to

your mom and dad?

with your parentswith your parents

your parentsyour parents

your parentsyour parents