Bullying, Cyberbullying & CyberSecurity: THE ROLE OF THE RA

Information you NEED to know!Sponsored By:

Massachusetts Aggression Reduction

Center

@BridgeStateU

Learning Objectives:• Define Bullying & the difference between

fighting

• Identify Helping Skills you can use with your residents

• Provide you with resources and ways to be an effective helper

• Understand the “publicness” of the Internet and its’ consequences

• Understand that privacy does not exist on the

Internet

Power

Suppo

rtOver & Over Sad or

Afraid

DESTROY or DAMAGE friendships and status

RUMORS

Remember…They will say anything!!!

Everyone’s a target

Made up so you feel bad!!

Don’t buy it!!!

Someone reports being bullied....

What do you do?

The RA as HelperThe Helping Relationship

Foundational Skills

• ACTIVE Listening• Empathy• Positive Affirmation• Modeling• Appropriate Self-Disclosure

The Bullying Puzzle

• Don’t be one. Think about what you are doing.

Don’t laugh along

Don’t join in.

Don’t spread rumors.

Talk about it!!!

Stay out of it!

Help get the victim outWalk away

CALL THE BULLY OUT

Show the victim support

BYSTANDERS

The Audience That

Says Nothing

Could be anyone

It’s ALL called cyberbullying but…

Most online

problems are

CONFLICT, not

Cyberbullying

“Before you get mad…”

Talk to them

Write it down

What else could it mean?

24 hour rule

IS IT WORTH IT?

VENT

The Internet…

You can learn a lot...

Others can learn A LOT about you!!!

What do you want them to know???

Your Billboard...

Great GPAActivities

Stuff that makes you look GOOD!

#SpringBreak13

430 friends

Right click, copy, & paste

Your “friends” can join you into any group they want - without

your permission.

What about your “friends”???

GEOTAGGING

They can tag you in photos

Meet Josh…

He was tagged in a photo

What about your “friends”???

Passwords + “privacy”

PRIVACY SETTINGS

Check them at least once a week

What do your apps know about you?

But remember…NOTHING online is ever

really private!!!

A STRONG password:

At least 8 charactersUpper case, lower case, numbers, and

symbols

Which is more secure??J0g!@!@!@!@!@!Mh65GH8c10Sy1j

Biggest problems residents face...

SEXTINGAGGRESSION

DRINKING / DRUGS

Belonging to a racist, prejudiced, biased,

or “hate” group

POLICY VIOLATION

Helping Skills Solution Giving

Offering Alternatives

Information Giving Offering Advice ???

Feedback Support Constructive Criticism

Active Listening

Characteristics of Effective Helpers:

• Being Real

• Being Open

• Being Empathetic

• Having High Integrity

• Being an Experiencer of Life

• Having Good Emotional Health

• Being an Alliance Builder

• Being Competent

• Invasive? Maybe.• Fair? It’s public information. The person who posts it is making it public.

Is it fair for adults to judge

you on your profile?

Can you really get in

trouble??

Impressions...

Bullying & the Law in Mass• Criminal harassment

• Civil rights violations

• Taking photos

• Taking video

• The new law

•Don’t Respond!

•Ignore it!

• Print it.

•Tell the service provider.

•Talk about it.

•Think about what you post!

One final thought…

Treat your passwordlike your

toothbrus

Don’t share it!!!

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