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µNo Way!¶: an interactive text to support the development
of children¶s social, emotional and behavioural skills.
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The names, characters and situations in this scenario are entirely
fictitious. We are grateful to the headteacher, staff and children of
the primary school who helped us by playing the parts and
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NO WAY !
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What happened?
Who was involved?
What happened afterwards?What happened before?How didit end?
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Dane and Kim were walking home together talking
about a TV programme. A few other kids were
walking a bit behind.
Suddenly Luke and Delvin appeared, with Karl justbehind them. Luke shouted, µWell, look who it is.
Don¶t you know by now that this is where the real
lads hang out? What makes you think some stuck-
up little keener like you has a right to use this path?¶
The other kids stopped to watch.Dane looked worried and muttered to Kim, µOh no,
not again.¶ He tried to walk past with his eyes down.
Luke and Delvin blocked his way, with Karl behind
them. They started shouting insults at him, getting
worse and worse until they were dissing Dane¶smum because she µtalks posh¶. Karl occasionally
added an insult which creased everyone up.
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Then Kim spoke up. µListen ± he just wants to go
home. You know there isn¶t another way.¶ Karl
raised an eyebrow and Luke turned on Kim.
µWhat¶s it got to do with you, Chinky?¶ Delvin
looked down. Kim kept amazingly cool. µI want to
go home too ± so just let us past.¶
µOoooooh. And why would I want to let a couple
of gay boys come near me?¶
Then Delvin spoke. µI think your mate¶s trainers
look a bit uncomfortable. If he asks me nicely I
might take them off his hands.¶
µOff his feet, you mean,¶ chipped in Karl. They all
laughed.
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µYea, ask him nicely, keener.¶ Delvin and Luke
lunged at Dane and pushed him to the ground,
forcing him to say the words µPlease take my
trainers.¶ A tear rolled down his cheek.Some of those who had stopped to watch the show
were laughing, some smiling nervously. A couple
shook their heads and muttered while others
moved on as if nothing was happening.
They rolled Dane over and pulled both his trainersoff. Then they threw them to each other, laughing,
smelled them and pulled faces.¶Get mummy to
wash your feet next time, keener. I don¶t like my
new shoes to whiff.¶
They ran off giving each other high-fives. µMore funtomorrow then, Karl?¶ said Delvin. µWe¶ll see,¶ said
Karl, smiling to himself.
Click here tosee what
they're thinkingand feeling.
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What are they thinking and feeling?
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T his is a laugh.
Luke and Delvinwill do anything
I say.
good, powerful, excited
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I like this. Nothing gives me quite thesame feeling of being in control as this.I can make him do whatever I say.
If my dad and brother could see me nowthey would know I·m better than they
think.
powerful, proud of myself
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I hope there·s a fight. I·m ready to show themhow strong I am. Why should he have everything
anyway? Look at those trainers ² just becausehe·s well off. I want them. It·s good to feel partof this lot. Perhaps they will stop picking on me
now.I don·t really like it when they start on the
¶Chinky· routine though.
strong, accepted, but confused about how torespond to Luke¶s racist language
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Why are they doing
this to me? I wish I·dnever come here. Iwish I could fit in. I just want to be the
same as everyone else.
miserable, sick, feeble, humiliated
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Look at them, thinking they·re so
great. None of them would stand upto me on their own.
Poor Dane. Why do they pick on him?If I hang around with Dane will they
start on me? Better look friendlyand then maybe they·ll let us past.
angry, outraged, sorry for Dane, frustrated, powerless,
uncertain
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Who was involved?
Karl
KimDane
Luke
Delvin
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KarlKarl is a popular boy and a naturalleader. He is clever and knows
exactly how to manipulate others toget them to do what he wants. T hismakes him very powerful. He nevergets into trouble because he alwaysgets other people to do things ratherthan doing them himself. He lives onthe local estate. His family are quitewell off and well thought of. T eacherslike him and think he is sensible. He
has never been caught bullying.
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Luke is not very popular. Both hisDad and his older brother push him
around a lot. His Mum is not at home.He has a very caring side and triesto look out for his little sister who isat nursery. He often feels angry andfrustrated and gets into a lot oftrouble at school. He does sometimesbully others and enjoys the feelingof power he gets from it. He doesn·treally care who the target is ² in
that sense it is nothing personal.
Luke
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Delvin is small for his age but physicallyquite strong. His Dad has just lost his
job and the family don·t have muchmoney. He is jealous of Dane who hasmore. He likes fighting which makes himfeel good. He wants to be in with Karl,and sometimes he is included, but
sometimes not, depending on how Karl isfeeling. Sometimes the others make funof him, which he tries to laugh off. Ifothers have things that he doesn·t, he
feels that they are showing off and¶asking for it·.
Delvin
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Dane·s family have recently movedinto the district, because his Mumhas got a new job. T hey live off theestate in an area known as the ¶posh·bit of town. Dane is clever and hasalways done reasonably well at
school. He is good at sports. T here isnothing obviously different abouthim. He has always been happy, ifrather quiet. He got on well with asmall group of friends before he
moved house.
Dane
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Kim is a generally happy boy, well likedby children and adults. He has a good
number of friends from differentbackgrounds. His family live on theestate and are well thought of. Heconsiders himself lucky. He has been
called names a bit in the past, so heknows how it feels to be bullied, buthis supportive family have alwayslistened to him and helped him dealwith it. He has a good understanding
of why people might bully and on thewhole feels sorry for those who do.
Kim
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Karl,
Luke and Delvin
What happened before?
Daneand Kim
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Delvin was just leaving when Karl called to him from the cloakroom
where he was larking around with Luke. µHey, Delvin, up for a bit of fun
tonight?¶
Delvin was surprised that Karl seemed to be including him. µSure.
What¶s on?¶
Karl outlined his plan to give Dane a hard time on the way home. Luke
and Delvin laughed. Luke was all for it, and said it would get Dane going
if they made fun of his snobby mother, because he was such a
mummy¶s boy. Delvin suggested taking Dane¶s new trainers off him. µHe
always has the best of everything. It¶ll do him good to have a bit of rough
and tumble.¶
Karl seemed pleased and rewarded them both with a smile.
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I·m a bit bored « Whatcan we do for a laugh?
I·ll see if I can get Luke
to do everything I say ²and that Delvin as well.We·ll take the rise outof that new kid. T hat·ll
be a bit of fun.
bored, frustrated,
wanting to feel big
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My Dad and brother have beenreally pushing me around. I can·t
get my own back on them ² so whynot on somebody else? I·ll show
them. Who is this Dane kidanyway? What do I care about
him?
angry, frustrated
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I really want to be in withKarl and Luke. I hope
there·s a fight. I·m good atthat and it will make themsee what a useful mate I
can be.I don·t see why other kids
should have stuff I don·t.Why shouldn·t I take itoff them?
unsure of himself, envious,
afraid of being left out
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At lunchtime in the playground Dane asks Kim if they can walk home
together. Kim agrees without asking why.
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Why do they pick on me? What·s wrong withme? I wish I had a friend, but nobody wants to
be mates with a loser who gets picked on. I just don·t belong here. Maybe it won·t happen if
I can get Kim to walk home with me. T heynever seem to bother him.
sick, dreading what I think will happen,
humiliated, ashamed
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I know why he doesn·t want to walk home onhis own. I know what·s happening. Why
doesn·t he say anything? Karl·s lot are stupid.
T hey don·t bother me. Maybe I can helpDane.
confident, hopeful, sorry for Dane, angry at Karl
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What happened afterwards?
Theclass Dane
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Dane didn¶t come to school for the next three days. Kim told the rest
of the class what had happened and said they needed to discuss what
to do. They held a meeting. All the children had ideas about what
should happen. There was a lot of discussion and debate.
What ideas did the class have?
What did they decide to do?
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¶Dane should go to karate so he can fight back
if it happens again.·¶You shouldn·t fight back but you should standup to bullies. Dane should learn how to standup for himself.·
¶He should think: sticks and stones may breakmy bones but words will never hurt me.·
¶One of the people who just stood and
watched should have rescued him.·
¶He should tell the teacher and the bullyshould be excluded from school.·
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¶He should just laugh at himself with them.·
¶We should tell the teacher so she can talk to thebullies and make them understand how it feels.·
¶He should tell the bullies how it makes him feel.·
¶We should be kind to him ² even if we can·t stopthe bullying. One of us could be his friend.·
¶People who see bullying shouldn·t put up with it.·
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T his is the plan they agreed.
Kim will be Dane·s friend andthe others will all support
him.
T he next time any of them
sees bullying they will tellthe people who are bullyingthat they do not like whatthey are doing and that theywill tell the teachers if it
happens again.
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His Mum wanted to
go up to school and
tell the teachers.
Dane said no. He
promised to go to
school next day aslong as she didn¶t
go up there herself.
Dane eventually
decided to tell his
parents what
happened. His Dad
told him to µstand
up to them¶ andsuggested some
things he could say.
Dane had time off
school. He said he
was sick.
His parents were
worried about him.
They didn¶t
understand why he
had changed so
much since they
moved.
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I don·t want to tell my Mumand Dad. T hey will be
upset. It might make itworse. T hey will think I·mpathetic and that there issomething wrong with me.
It·s too embarrassing totell anyone about thethings they have made medo. Kim won·t want to hangaround with me any morenow he·s seen how weak I
am. No-one will want to befriends with a patheticloser like me.
ashamed, embarrassed
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I am so grateful to my Dad for trying, but I knowI won·t do it. I wish I was one of those toughboys who could - but I·m just not that sort of
person. I tried before and they just laughed at
me. It made it worse and I felt even more of afailure. I couldn·t even manage to stand up for
myself. What is wrong with me? Why can·t I stopit happening? But then if I could stand up to them
it wouldn·t be happening would it? Nobodyunderstands what it is like«
scared, guilty,
ashamed, miserable
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T his the worst thing of all. If Mumgoes up to school they·ll find out.
T hey really will think I·m a mummy·sboy then. If they're punished
they·ll take it out on me and it willbe worse than ever.
sick, dreading what I think will happen,
humiliated, ashamed
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How did
it end?
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Dane was pleased when he arrived back at school to find Kim asking himto sit next to him. Some of the other children in his class, including oneof the ones who had stood by and watched, were quite friendly too. As
the day went on he felt a little better, but as home time approached,the old fear returned. He had seen Karl, Delvin and Luke whispering incorners and he knew what that meant. He set off home, and waspleased when several of the class arranged to walk home with him. Asthey got near the park Luke and Delvin jumped out with Karl, as always,behind them. All the other children stopped too and looked directly at
the kids who were bullying. Kim said, ¶We want to walk past and we allhave a right to«.·
Karl looked surprised. ¶No-one·s stopping YOU, are they?· But theydidn·t move.
One of the others said, ¶We don·t like what you·re doing - and we aregoing to tell the school and your parents if you do it again.·
T o the jeers of Luke and Delvin, they walked past, Dane in the middleof the group, holding his breath ² but they didn·t stop him.
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It would be nice to think that that was the end. But of
course real life isn·t like that. Dane did still get bullied andthere wasn·t always a group to support him. In factsometimes the actual bullying was physically worse ² they jumped on him once and he ended up with some bruises.
But somehow it didn·t feel worse inside to Dane ² he hadKim as his friend. He knew that the whole class thoughtthat he was OK and that it was the children who had bulliedhim who weren·t. He didn·t seem to have that sick feelingabout how he wasn·t good enough all the time any more.
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In the end what stopped it was after Dane ended up withbruises. A group told the headteacher. T he head must havesaid or done something because Karl came up to Dane in the
playground the next day and just stuck his hand out! Henever said sorry or anything (not really his style) but thebullying stopped from then on.
Years later, Dane met Karl again when they were both
members at the same local football club. Karl said he had just never realised how much it affected Dane until theheadteacher had told him the full story. As Karl was going,he mumbled something that could well have been ¶Sorry.·
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What do you think?How would you feel?