AFTERNOON CONSTRUCTED RESPONSE

PROMPT: Why do people stay in bullying, sexually-harassing, or abusive relationships? Why don’t they just leave or break up? Express your opinion and use reasons, details, examples, and specifics as evidence.

Last Week You Were Agitated About This:

Responding to Cyberbullying: Top Ten Tips for Teens

6th Grade:Bystanders•Recognize and define the role of a bystander in bullying•Understand how a bystander can be a part of the problem or part of the solution•Apply empathic concern and perspective taking•Identify ways to be part of the solution to bullying

What Would You Want Us To Do?

• 4W Be there to help you out and help you talk to the bully.• 1E Go tell the counselor for me or with me.• 2W Stay out of my business?? (Why is this a poor solution?)• 3E Tell the bully to stop it and warn that they are going to

tell about it.• 1W Tell the bully to knock it off, it is hurting our feelings,

please stop, etc.• 2E Stand with us, not for us. Have our back rather than do it

for us.• 3W Help me, stop the bully, ask him/her to stop• 4E None

7th Grade:•Sexual Harassment•Recognize and define sexual harassment•Differentiate between flirting or joking and sexual harassment•Apply assertiveness skills to refuse sexual harassment•Understand their school’s sexual harassment policy and legal implications

Discuss: Expectation of maturity/against the law

Review Definition:Sexual harassment is when a student is bothered with words, actions, or pictures of a sexual nature, or about being male or female, so that he or she does not feel safe.

2. Discuss With A Front/Back or Shoulder Partner:

What’s the difference between flirting/just playing

and sexual harassment?

Flirting Sexual Harassment

welcome attention not welcome

goes both ways one- sided

you feel flattered or neutral

you feel uncomfortable

you feel in control you feel powerless

legal illegal

Types of Sexual Harassment

Words:• Written or verbal comments about someone’s

body and/or sexual activity• Tone of voice

Actions:• Suggestive or rude sounds or gestures• Unwanted physical contact

Pictures:• Showing photos, drawings, or symbols of

sexual nature

3. Now Write On Your Own Paper:

What’s the difference between flirting/just playing and

sexual harassment (SH)? Is pantsing SH? Is Purple Nerple

SH? Is touching someone’s bum SH? Why or why not.

Answer completely.

4. Watch video:Middle School Project (10 min.)

Respond:How can we minimize sexual

harassment in the world around us?

8th Grade:

•Bullying in dating Relationships•Recognize and identify bullying within dating relationships•Understand what they can do about bullying within dating relationships•Identify strategies to assess risk and safely avoid bullying in dating relationships

8th Grade:

•Bullying in dating Relationships•Recognize and identify bullying within dating relationships•Understand what they can do about bullying within dating relationships•Identify strategies to assess risk and safely avoid bullying in dating relationships

5 Adjectives About the Audio:

• 1w threatened, ballistic, mad, bad, hurt• 1e scary, rude, harsh, mean, aggressive• 2w mean, sad, annoyed, irritated, bossy• 2e mean, upset, rude, scared, annoyed• 3w hurt, MAD,• 3e aggressive, mean, bossy, rude, annoying• 4w upset, angry, miserable, low-esteemy• 4e hurt, mad, furious, frustrated, fed-up

electronic dating electronic dating violenceviolence

““emotional or emotional or psychological harm in a psychological harm in a romantic relationship romantic relationship

perpetrated through the perpetrated through the use of computers, cell use of computers, cell

phones, or other phones, or other electronic devices.” electronic devices.”

Dating Bullying We Have Seen in Real Life or On TV/Movies/Videos:• We had none to share

2. Second Step Lesson 7

BREAK UP WITH MY PARTNER,

Partner/Table Discussion:

Why do people stay in bullying or abusive relationships anyway? Why don’t they just leave or break up?

People stay in abusive/bullying relationships because:1. the abuser has pushed their self-esteem down so far they don’t believe they deserve better.2. The bully is threatening to hurt them or loved ones.3. they have no financial means of support on their own4. they don’t know they are being bullied/manipulated/controlled/lied to.5. they love the bully.THIS IS WHY THE VICTIM NEEDS OUR SUPPORT AND MAYBE EVEN A SAFE PLACE TO GO OR HIDE

If there is anything about the relationship that is frightening, find a way to leave the relationship.

Remember, it is your right to say “No.” It doesn’t just happen to girls!

No one should treat you this way.

If you think you are already in an Abusive relationship, get help.

Go to the Student Counseling Center for for information about hotlines, adults, groups, etc. that can help.