Post on 26-Dec-2015
Who Am I?
• I am your constant companion. I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden. I will push you onward or drag you down to failure. I am completely at your command. Half the things I do you might just as well turn over to me and I will be able to do them quickly and correctly.
• I am easily managed-you must merely be firm with me. Show me exactly how you want
something done and after a few lessons, I will do it automatically. I am the servant of all
great individuals and, alas, of all failures, as well. Those who are great, I have made great. Those who are failures, I have made failures.
• I am not a machine, though I work with all the precision of a machine plus the intelligence of a human. You may run me for profit or run me
for ruin-it makes no difference to me.
• Take me, train me, be firm with me, and I will place the world at your feet. Be easy with me
and I will destroy you.
#1 Be Proactive
• What is proactive?• “People are just about as happy as they make
up their mind to be.”• Abraham Lincoln
• A Can-do attitude vs. No-Can-Do attitude
Can-Do vs. No-Can-Do
Can-Do• Take initiative to make it
happen• Think about solutions and
options• Act
No-Can-Do• Wait for something to
happen to them• Think about problems and
barriers• Are acted upon
#2 Begin with the End in Mind
• Have goals.• Write them down. Why?
• “Control Your Own Destiny or Someone Else Will”
• Sean Covey
#3 Put First Things First
• What are your priorities?– You can tell a person’s priorities by how they
spend their time• Agree or Disagree
• Have a Plan– Make a schedule and identify the MAJOR activities
• Time is precious, you don’t want to lose any of it doing something not worthwhile
Consider this…• To realize the value of one year, Ask a student who failed his or her AP
exams.• To realize the value of one month, Ask a mother who gave birth to a
premature baby.• To realize the value of one week, Ask an editor of a weekly magazine.• To realize the value of one day, Ask a daily wage laborer who has six kids
to feed.• To realize the value of one hour, Ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.• To realize the value of one minute, Ask a person who missed their train.• To realize the value of one second, Ask the person who survived an
accident.• To realize the value f one millisecond, Ask a person who won a silver
medal at the Olympics.
#4 Think Win-Win
• Win-Lose Totem Pole– Someone is always
better than you and someone is better than them and so on…
# 5 Seek First to Understand, then to be Understood
• To be understood is the deepest need of the human heart.
• “Before I can walk in another’s shoes, I must first remove my own.”
• Unknown
• Communication Skills– Listening is more important that talking• You have TWO ears and ONE mouth.
– Argument with parents/siblings/friends
#6 Synergize
• Synergy Is…– Celebrating differences– Teamwork– Open mindedness– Finding new and better
ways
• Synergy is NOT…– Tolerating Differences– Working independently– Thinking you’re always
right– Compromise
#7 Sharpen the Saw
• “Me time!”• “The time to repair the roof is when the sun is
shining.”– John F. Kennedy
• Take care of yourself:– Body– Brain– Heart– Soul
7 Habits of Highly Defective Teens
1. React2. Begin with No End in Mind3. Put First Things Last4. Think Win-Lose5. Seek First to Talk, Then Pretend to Listen6. Don’t Cooperate7. Wear Yourself Out
How Can These Help You?
• Control your Life• Improve Relationships– Family – Friends– Coworkers
• Make smarter decisions• Overcome addiction• Define values, priorities
How Can These Help You?
• Be more efficient• Increase self confidence• Improve self esteem• Find balance between all of the “stuff”