BULLYING…. “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about the things that matter”

“The right way to begin is to pay attention to the

young, and make them as good as possible.”

-Socrates

BULLYINGBULLYING

““A student is being bullied when he or A student is being bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other students”…..one or more other students”…..

Dan OlweusDan Olweus

IT’S A BIG OCEAN OUT IT’S A BIG OCEAN OUT THERETHERE

Where are the… Where are the…

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WEAKFISHWEAKFISHBullying through the eyes of a Bullying through the eyes of a childchild• Michael DornMichael Dorn• This book chronicles the struggle faced This book chronicles the struggle faced

by 1 in 10 students in schools todayby 1 in 10 students in schools today• One boy’s true journey through One boy’s true journey through

unconstrained bullying/harassmentunconstrained bullying/harassment• Great book study for any staff/easy readGreat book study for any staff/easy read• Practical solutions for students/staffPractical solutions for students/staff• Surveys for school climateSurveys for school climate

So, “What About Girls?”

Sugar and Spice and everything nice

or

Not? Have we missed something

The Development of Childhood Aggression: Boys Will Be Boys,

But What About Girls? by Nicki Crick, Ph.D.

Boys} Physical aggression- Behaviors in which physical damage serves as the agent of harm/ physical harmBoys} Tend to be concerned during social interaction with physical dominance/ territoriality

Relational Aggression

Girls focus more on relational ties during social interaction

Girls exhibit behaviors in which damage to relationships or threat of serves as the vehicle of harm

This includes direct and indirect acts such as threats to end a relationship unless peer complies; using social exclusion to retaliate; spreading rumors to encourage peers to reject a classmate

Life Span of Relational Aggression

Preschool: (Girls are more than boys)

Ann and Susan playing at recess. Tiffany comes over and starts to talk. They covered their ears to block her out.

Jill and David were playing dress-up in a corner. David put on a hat that Jill wanted.

They argued back and forth until Jill said, “I’m not going to be your friend anymore.” David still kept the hat. Jill then said,” I won’t be your BEST FRIEND.” David gave in.

Video Clip

Life Span

Middle Childhood

You hear things like:

I’m not going to be your friend anymore

Tell your friends not to be that kid’s friend

Tell a lie on them

“We’re going to be in this group, and you’re not going to be in it.”

Two girls wear certain clothing, jewelry and don’t inform the other friends

Life Span

Adolescence

Talk about them behind their backs and to their face, exclude themPretend to be friends, then stab them in the backTell them what you think of them in front of others, to embarrass/controlIgnore them, don’t return phone callsTry to steal boyfriend

Life Span

Early Adulthood

Women hurt other women by the amount of affection they receive from men.

Build up a coalition of other people against the person.

Talk about them and try to ruin their friendships with others. Gossip!!!

Give them the silent treatment/ act cold

Seduce the person’s dating partner

Relational VictimizationCan Lead To:

Peer rejectionExternalizing problemsDepressive symptomsLonelinessCigarette, alcohol and marijuana useObesityRomantic relationship/dating problems

Friendships and RA

Self disclosing (in person, phone, computer) to a friend that is aggressive. They have lots of info to use against them. It keeps the friend where she wants her.

In fourth grade, girls that are friends with RA girls become more aggressive

Types of Intent

Hostile: She wanted me to ruin my shoes! She wanted to get even.

Benign: She tripped over a rock in the road and then fell into me.

Note** Some girls have a hostile bias

Instrumental vs Relational

Girls react to different types of RA

Instrumental: reaction to an aggressive act

Relational: reaction to relationships

Social-Information- Processing Model

“Salvaging Sisterhood”- resource

PEACEFUL SCHOOL BUS

PEACEFUL SCHOOL BUS PROGRAM

• Developed by an elementary principal and Olweus Trainer

• Designed to decrease inappropriate behaviors on bus

• Very little cost- $99.00• All materials included in the guide• 15 minute DVD of program overview• CD ROM –posters, bus decals, handouts, Parent letter, training outline

School bus route meetings

• Bus drivers, parents, students, teachers, administrators are present

• Team building exercises• Pair older with younger students• Talk about bullying-define it on bus• Get to personally know their driver

Ordering Information:Peaceful School Bus

Program

• Written by James Dillon, M.S.• Hazelden• 1-800-328-9000 (24 hours)• Order online at: hazelden.org/bookstore

WHY TRY

Intervention Program

Whytry.com

Visuals and music interventions

Journal component

Role play

Can be utilized in ISS classroom to help with “blind spots”

HRSA

U.S. Department of Health and Human Services/ Health Resources & Services Administration

STOP BULLYING NOW campaign www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov Everything is free!! Updated every 60 days

Campaign Overview and Goals

Raise awareness about bullying Prevent and reduce bullying behaviors Identify appropriate interventions for

“tweens” (youth ages 9-13) Foster and enhance partner linkages-

Now over 80 different organizations

About us…. Youth Expert Panel provides guidance in

creating Webisodes, messages

Research involving school bullying statistics

Youth-led Initiatives (Project Change, SADD, NOYS)

For Youth:Tips, Webisodes and Games

What You Can Do- Tips if you are being bullied, witness bullying, or bully others

Cartoon Webisodes Profile of the Month- Webisodes characters

facing bullying situations Educational games

For Adults:Prevention & Intervention

Tip Sheets and Resources- 40 tips, ready to be downloaded/printed

Customized tip sheets for families, school staff, educators, law enforcement, etc.

New on the website: cyberbullying & Bullying among youth on perceptions and differences in sexual orientation

DVD Tool Kit & Activities Guide

Instructor’s Guide & DVD collection of ALL SBN video content, including Webisodes, PSAs and workshops

Activities Guide- 12 pages of ideas for developing your own campaign

Web Site Updates

For Adults: State by state map on bullying laws

For Youth: MyPlace pages

For Both: “Ask the Experts” section

Next Webcast

Hot Topic: Cyberbullying Discussions of latest cyber bullying

research and tips For information and to register, check

StopBullyingNow.hrsa.gov

For more information…. CAPT. Stephanie Bryn, MPH –

sbryn@hrsa.gov Dr. Susan Limber, PhD slimber@clemson.edu Jason Smith JasonSmith@widmeyer.com

Let’s check out the DVD

Webisodes PSAs Video Workshops

BULLYING AND THE LAW

Bernard James Pepperdine University School of Law “Human Rights and Understanding Current

Reform”/ Liability and Other Considerations Working definition of bullying Courts are unwilling to turn bullying into a human

rights issue Effects of bullying

Topics Continued Effects of bullying Prevalence of bullying in schools The school as the solution Bullying as a function of school climate Proactive Whole School Approaches to

prevent bullying Redefining supervision Test your “Bullying IQ”

Suicide As A Viable Option

Child Focus, Inc. 513-752-1555 Factors that lead to the unthinkable Multi-Factorial Event:

1. Hopelessness

2. Negative Thought Patterns

3. Impulsivity

4. Psychological Vulnerability

Hopelessness

Element of Depression

Inability to see potential for a better future

Negative thought patterns

Continuum of Negative Thought Patterns

Continuum---- from mild self-critical thoughts to extreme self hatred to suicidal thoughts

Self-destructive behavior– from self-denial to substance abuse to actual suicide

Relation between these 3 continuums exist- how a person is thinking is predictive of how they are behaving

Each person is divided/conflicted

Impulsivity

People with this trait may not stop and think about the real consequences of their death

Psychological Vulnerability

People who are rejected because they are “weird”, because of their sexual orientation, or because they don’t fit in

Trauma Loneliness Relational, social, work or financial loss

Indeliable Links To Look For

Hopelessness

Burdensome

Persistence

Isolation

Bullying Lethality Screening System (BLSS)

Assessment Tool to use when students are bullied to determine their risk for suicide

5 Factors of the BLSS 1. Bullying 2. Isolation 3. Depression/Anhedonia

4. Suicidal Ideation & Planning 5. Resiliency/ Protective Factors

Literature Links To Bullying

Chrysanthemum Crowboy Stargirl Tangerine Teammates Thank You Mr. Falkner The Brand New Kid The Hundred Dresses The Opposites of Fate The Sneetches To Kill A Mockingbird William’s Doll

ALL ACCESS PRODUCTIONSALL ACCESS PRODUCTIONS

““No More Victims” musical presentationNo More Victims” musical presentation Primary target middle/high schoolsPrimary target middle/high schools Actors are young adults/diversityActors are young adults/diversity Carries a message for bullies, victims Carries a message for bullies, victims

and bystandersand bystanders Promotes the message of love and Promotes the message of love and

acceptance/tolerance to evoke acceptance/tolerance to evoke thoughtful change and healing in our thoughtful change and healing in our youthyouth

Tour InformationTour Information

Kelsey Koslowski- Tour managerKelsey Koslowski- Tour manager Office Phone: 631-366-1000x13Office Phone: 631-366-1000x13 Tour Cell Phone: 631-681-8630Tour Cell Phone: 631-681-8630 Email: Email: kkoslowski@accessny.org Fax: 631-366-4826Fax: 631-366-4826 Address: 70 New York Ave. Address: 70 New York Ave.

Smithtown,NYSmithtown,NY

International Bullying Prevention International Bullying Prevention Association 7Association 7thth Annual Conference Annual Conference

Mark the date! November 15-17Mark the date! November 15-17 Seattle, WashingtonSeattle, Washington ““CyberWorld” comprehensiveCyberWorld” comprehensive 1-800-293-90711-800-293-9071 info@stopbullyingworld.orginfo@stopbullyingworld.org