++Raising Our “Christian” Children Raising Our “Christian” Children

St. George & St. Joseph Coptic Orthodox ChurchSt. George & St. Joseph Coptic Orthodox Church

Montreal, QCMontreal, QC – – September 26, 2015September 26, 2015

Yousry Armanios, M.D.Yousry Armanios, M.D.YARMANIOS@HOTMAIL.COMYARMANIOS@HOTMAIL.COM

Prenatal ConcernsPrenatal Concerns

Feeling Stressed!Feeling Stressed!

Healthy Pregnancy/Healthy BabyHealthy Pregnancy/Healthy Baby

Effect on Our MarriageEffect on Our Marriage

Effect on Our Older ChildrenEffect on Our Older Children

Effect on My Job & Our FinancesEffect on My Job & Our Finances

Raising Our New ChildRaising Our New Child

Letting Our Child GoLetting Our Child Go

General ConceptsGeneral Concepts

Human Development in StagesHuman Development in Stages

Different NeedsDifferent Needs

Different ExpectationsDifferent Expectations

Different TasksDifferent Tasks

Different Performances Different Performances

Different Sets of ProblemsDifferent Sets of Problems

Different Approaches or SolutionsDifferent Approaches or Solutions

PART ONEPART ONE

Age: 0 – 11 yearsAge: 0 – 11 years

Stages of DevelopmentStages of Development

1. Infancy1. Infancy

Age: 0 – 1 yearAge: 0 – 1 year

INFANCYINFANCY

Age 0 – 1 YearAge 0 – 1 Year

One of the Most Critical Stages! Why?One of the Most Critical Stages! Why?

The “Non-Programmed” ComputerThe “Non-Programmed” Computer

The “Introduction” into Life: Welcome!The “Introduction” into Life: Welcome!

What’s good & what can go wrong?What’s good & what can go wrong?

Needs; Expectations; Tasks Needs; Expectations; Tasks

Problems; Approaches & SolutionsProblems; Approaches & Solutions

The Newly Born 0-3 Months

Breast-Feeding Bonding

The Newly-born “Behavior” Recognizing Fatigue“Bathing Your Baby”

Babies 3-12 Months

The Baby’s Safety Attachment & Bonding

Feeding & Sleeping Teething

Stages of DevelopmentStages of Development

2. Toddlers2. ToddlersAge: 1 – 3 YearsAge: 1 – 3 Years

ToddlersToddlers

Age 1 – 3 YearsAge 1 – 3 Years

Another Critical StageAnother Critical Stage

Fast Growth – Partial IndependenceFast Growth – Partial Independence

Starting to Realize Self & Others: TalkStarting to Realize Self & Others: Talk

Exploring Own World: Walk & PlayExploring Own World: Walk & Play

Needs; Expectations; TasksNeeds; Expectations; Tasks

Problems; Approaches & SolutionsProblems; Approaches & Solutions

Stages of DevelopmentStages of Development

3. Early Childhood3. Early ChildhoodAge: 3 – 6 YearsAge: 3 – 6 Years

Early ChildhoodEarly Childhood

Age 3 – 6 YearsAge 3 – 6 Years

Still Growing Fast & Still ExploringStill Growing Fast & Still Exploring

Learning & Communicating BetterLearning & Communicating Better

More Independence – More ExposureMore Independence – More Exposure

Needs & Expectations (Guilt & Shame)Needs & Expectations (Guilt & Shame)

Tasks: Limits & Boundaries (Structure)Tasks: Limits & Boundaries (Structure)

Problems; Approaches & SolutionsProblems; Approaches & Solutions

Stages of DevelopmentStages of Development

4. Late Childhood4. Late ChildhoodAge: 6 – 11 YearsAge: 6 – 11 Years

Late ChildhoodLate Childhood

Age 6 – 11 Years: The Age 6 – 11 Years: The Latency Latency StageStage

Growing More Mentally than PhysicallyGrowing More Mentally than Physically

A “Self-Constructive” PeriodA “Self-Constructive” Period

Orientation to Family LifeOrientation to Family Life

Time to Learn More!Time to Learn More!

Needs; Expectations; TasksNeeds; Expectations; Tasks

Problems; Approaches & SolutionsProblems; Approaches & Solutions

Serious IssuesSerious Issues

JealousyJealousy

RegressionRegression

Stages of DevelopmentStages of Development

Tweens & PubertyTweens & PubertyAge: 11 – 13 YearsAge: 11 – 13 Years

Tweens & PubertyTweens & PubertyExperimentation & Vulnerability!Experimentation & Vulnerability!

Age 11 – 13 YearsAge 11 – 13 Years

The Onset of Puberty: The “Swings”!The Onset of Puberty: The “Swings”!

The Physical & Sexual DimensionThe Physical & Sexual Dimension

The Mental & Emotional DimensionThe Mental & Emotional Dimension

The Social Dimension: Personality IssuesThe Social Dimension: Personality Issues

Needs & Tasks: Their Questions!Needs & Tasks: Their Questions!

Challenges; Risks; Problems; SolutionsChallenges; Risks; Problems; Solutions

Stages of DevelopmentStages of Development

6. Teenage6. TeenageAge: 14 – 17 YearsAge: 14 – 17 Years

The TeensThe Teens

Age 14 – 17 YearsAge 14 – 17 Years

The The ChangesChanges Continue Continue

The Socio-Behavioral AspectsThe Socio-Behavioral Aspects

The Academic & Vocational AspectsThe Academic & Vocational Aspects

The Spiritual AspectThe Spiritual Aspect

The Gains and The LossesThe Gains and The Losses

Tasks; Problems; SolutionsTasks; Problems; Solutions

The TeensThe Teens

The The ChangesChanges Continue Continue

Causing More ConfusionCausing More Confusion

TheThe TeensTeens

The Emotional Aspect:The Emotional Aspect:Conflicts with SelfConflicts with Self

Guilt & SensitivityGuilt & Sensitivity

TeenageTeenage

The Mental AspectThe Mental AspectDecision MakingDecision Making

TeenageTeenage

Socio-Behavioral AspectsSocio-Behavioral AspectsConflict with AuthorityConflict with Authority

TeenageTeenage

Socio-Behavioral AspectsSocio-Behavioral AspectsFriends – RelationshipsFriends – Relationships

More IndependenceMore Independence

TeenageTeenage

Academic & Work IssuesAcademic & Work IssuesSchool – Career - WorkSchool – Career - Work

TeenageTeenage

The Sexual Rush!The Sexual Rush!

TeenageTeenage

The Spiritual AspectThe Spiritual Aspect

Time for RepentanceTime for Repentance

TeenageTeenage

Issue 1Issue 1

Home EnvironmentHome Environment

TeenageTeenage

Issue 2Issue 2

Peer PressurePeer Pressure

TeenageTeenage

Issue 3Issue 3

The MediaThe Media

TeenageTeenage

Issue 4Issue 4Impulsiveness & Risky Impulsiveness & Risky

BehaviorsBehaviors

TeenageTeenage

NeedsNeeds

ExpectationsExpectations

TasksTasks

TeenageTeenage

ProblemsProblems

ApproachesApproaches

SolutionsSolutions

Teenage ChallengesTeenage Challenges

Self-Esteem & Self-Image IssuesSelf-Esteem & Self-Image Issues

Emotional & Sexual IssuesEmotional & Sexual Issues

Loyalty ChangesLoyalty Changes

Conflict with Authority & RulesConflict with Authority & Rules

Depression & Addiction RisksDepression & Addiction Risks

Eating Disorders – Drug & Alcohol AbuseEating Disorders – Drug & Alcohol Abuse

Teen DepressionTeen Depression

Stages of DevelopmentStages of Development

7. Young Adulthood7. Young AdulthoodAge: 18 – 25 YearsAge: 18 – 25 Years

Late Teens & Early TwentiesLate Teens & Early Twenties

Age 18 – 25 YearsAge 18 – 25 Years

Maturity & IndependenceMaturity & Independence

Responsibility – Freedom Responsibility – Freedom

Lifelong Decisions: CareerLifelong Decisions: Career

Stories of Success Stories of Success or or Failure?Failure?

Tasks: The Outcome: Tasks: The Outcome: My Identity!My Identity!

Risks; Problems; Approaches; SolutionsRisks; Problems; Approaches; Solutions

Late Teens & Early TwentiesLate Teens & Early Twenties

Closer to MaturityCloser to Maturity::

1.1. Physical – Sexual Physical – Sexual

2.2. Mental – Emotional Mental – Emotional

3.3. Social (Independence)Social (Independence)

4.4. Educational – Vocational Educational – Vocational

5.5. Spiritual: Reaching an Identity Spiritual: Reaching an Identity

Late Teens & Early Late Teens & Early TwentiesTwenties

FreedomFreedom&&

ResponsibilityResponsibility

Late Teens & Early Late Teens & Early TwentiesTwenties

PrivacyPrivacy&&

IndependenceIndependence

Late Teens & Early Late Teens & Early TwentiesTwenties

Reaching a Spiritual Reaching a Spiritual IdentityIdentity

Late Teens & Early Late Teens & Early TwentiesTwenties

Making Lifelong DecisionsMaking Lifelong Decisions

Late Teens & Early TwentiesLate Teens & Early Twenties

The OutcomeThe Outcome::1.1. Positive Attitudes Towards LifePositive Attitudes Towards Life

2.2. Become Prepared for the Next StagesBecome Prepared for the Next Stages

3.3. Know How to Make Right DecisionsKnow How to Make Right Decisions

4.4. Healthy View of Religion & SpiritualityHealthy View of Religion & Spirituality

Dealing with Our Teens & YouthDealing with Our Teens & Youth

What we What we shouldshould do as parents: do as parents:The Home AltarThe Home Altar

Understand How They Feel & ThinkUnderstand How They Feel & Think

Healthy Communication of EmotionsHealthy Communication of Emotions

Be BalancedBe Balanced (Tough Love)(Tough Love)

Be RespectfulBe Respectful:: Privacy vs. Freedom Privacy vs. Freedom

Be RationalBe Rational:: Flexibility vs. RigidityFlexibility vs. Rigidity

Dealing with Our Teens & YouthDealing with Our Teens & Youth

What we should What we should notnot do as parents: do as parents:HavingHaving Double StandardsDouble StandardsPreaching What We Don’t DoPreaching What We Don’t Do!!Leading Them intoLeading Them into TemptationsTemptations!!BeingBeing AbusiveAbusive (Sarcastic –(Sarcastic – Critical)Critical)BeingBeing JudgmentalJudgmental or or NegativeNegativeControlling Their LifeControlling Their Life

Always Remember These Tools Always Remember These Tools

1.1. Offering Tough LoveOffering Tough Love2.2. Forgiveness (like God)Forgiveness (like God)3.3. Never Losing HopeNever Losing Hope4.4. Fixing Your MistakesFixing Your Mistakes5.5. Never Play the Guilt GameNever Play the Guilt Game6.6. The Goal of Raising Our ChildrenThe Goal of Raising Our Children: : Serving Serving “My Savior”“My Savior” All All “My Life”“My Life”

Finally, Teenagers Need”Finally, Teenagers Need”

Good FriendsGood Friends

An Active ChurchAn Active Church

Available CounselAvailable Counsel

Being Constructively BusyBeing Constructively Busy

Remember This Too!Remember This Too!

““WITH GOD, ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE”WITH GOD, ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE”

(Mark 10:27)(Mark 10:27)

Thanks for Your Listening!Thanks for Your Listening!

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